Women prefer to poach men who are already in a relationship

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27 Mar 2025, 7:56 pm

...according to this article: https://appliedresearchandanalysis.word ... g-jesp.pdf

So, gents: you might improve your chances if you told the ladies that you already have a girlfriend.

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27 Mar 2025, 8:57 pm

What does it mean to poach someone?

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27 Mar 2025, 9:08 pm

Yes, all women are exactly the same. We have an organ called a uterus, which makes us evil. :roll:

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27 Mar 2025, 9:18 pm

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What does it mean to poach someone?

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog ... -find-love

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Mate poaching refers to the deliberate attempt to attract, seduce, or entice individuals who are already in a committed romantic relationship.

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27 Mar 2025, 9:18 pm

lostonearth35 wrote:

Yes, all women are exactly the same. We have an organ called a uterus, which makes us evil. :roll:

That's what science says. :wink:

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27 Mar 2025, 9:26 pm

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Preselection in dating refers to the phenomenon where individuals are perceived as more attractive or desirable because they are already sought after by others. This concept is rooted in social proof, where people tend to value things or individuals that others find appealing. In the context of dating, preselection often manifests as increased interest in someone who is seen as popular, confident, or already in a relationship.

For example, studies have shown that women may find men more attractive if they are surrounded by other women or are in a relationship, as it signals qualities like reliability, charisma, or high social value2. This dynamic can also work in reverse, where men might perceive women differently based on social cues.

It's an interesting aspect of human psychology and attraction. What are your thoughts on this concept?

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27 Mar 2025, 9:36 pm

imo social proof more effective for women. such as a video of a singer singing in front of screaming women, suddenly they are more attractive

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27 Mar 2025, 9:39 pm

Honey69 wrote:

lostonearth35 wrote:

Yes, all women are exactly the same. We have an organ called a uterus, which makes us evil. :roll:

That's what science says. :wink:

There’s a long history of science or alleged science being used to promote sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia, etc.

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27 Mar 2025, 9:57 pm

TwilightPrincess wrote:

Honey69 wrote:

lostonearth35 wrote:

Yes, all women are exactly the same. We have an organ called a uterus, which makes us evil. :roll:

That's what science says. :wink:

There’s a long history of science or alleged science being used to promote sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia, etc.

What about religion? :jester:

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27 Mar 2025, 9:57 pm

I remember this scene from Legally Blonde

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z9l045lpCtU

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27 Mar 2025, 10:10 pm

I would not do this.

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27 Mar 2025, 10:28 pm

*didn't read thread thoroughly

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27 Mar 2025, 10:36 pm

Honey69 wrote:

So, gents: you might improve your chances if you told the ladies that you already have a girlfriend.

Lying to someone you’re interested in dating is a bad idea no matter what her neurotype may be. It’s a manipulative thing to do. It sounds like the sort of toxic BS that would be on PUA site.

These sorts of threads are always very generalizing, too.

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28 Mar 2025, 12:49 am

TwilightPrincess wrote:

Honey69 wrote:

So, gents: you might improve your chances if you told the ladies that you already have a girlfriend.

Yep, I'm still quite angry at my wife for the lies and things she left out. As hard as it can be at times to see the line, there definitely is one between lying about things and not thinking they're important enough to bring up.

I do think that some women will go for men that are taken, but mate poaching just opens up an entirely different set of problems for the people involved. And there are definitely some women that will intentionally break up couples due to their own psychological problems.

I'd personally wager that women worth being in relationships with aren't going to mate poach, although seeing other women wanting a guy probably does have some impact on the perceived attractiveness.

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28 Mar 2025, 4:52 am

enz wrote:

Sounds like your talking about coolness & popularity.

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28 Mar 2025, 5:24 am

nick007 wrote:

enz wrote:

Sounds like your talking about coolness & popularity.

no I'm talking about preselection, a guy can be "cool" and have many platonic relationships with women

It's a factor, but there's more important things to think about

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