Dealbreakers that would prevent you from any further contact

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For me, there are only a few things but they are huge and having even one of them, even if the woman was otherwise the woman of my dreams, I would dump her.

1,)Strong political views either way. By strong, I mean, she bashes the other side or anyone who doesn't agree with her, watches MSNBC or FOX religiously like she's following a sport. And these views affect her way of life. In other words, if she's one side or the other, but it isn't a big part of her life or something she converses about regularly, that's fine.

2.)If she gets drunk as a hobby and is the type of person that goes out to bars a few times a week, whether it be to get drunk or for attention from men. In other words, a drunk/flirt.

3.)Consumption of street drugs.

I can't think of any more at the moment, but those are three that would turn me off from even my ideal looking woman.

I can see that those would turn someone off. An absolute big one for me is cruelty to animals and bullying behavior.

I'd have to say if anyone turns out to be intolerant of my particular choice of religion, then that's pretty much going nowhere.

being married is a deal breaker for me, if he would cheat on her, he would cheat on me.

cheating isn't just a moral issue, it is also a health issue if you are fluid bonded and a rank betrayal on that level.

1. Asexual or not believing in premarital sex, or refuses to do oral or fetishes.
2. Is offended by the Simpsons, South Park, or indie/foreign films.
3. Not a Christian.
4. Does not want kids.
5. Is an NT.
6. Is bigoted or intolerant of the beliefs of others.

The only dealbreaker for me is if she's taken... and by taken, I mean anything that is not absolutely single... If i'm going to give my personal loyalty to a woman, I'd like that back... and if she's going to leave another man to get with me, that means she's just as willing to dump me in the same fashion for the next guy...

Truth.
I'd NEVER accept a man that left a woman (divorce) for no good reason. Their chances of leaving me for someone else are astronomically higher than the average person.
Now if a man was abandoned by a woman, that MIGHT be a different story, but I'd have to evaluate that on a case by case basis. That would depend on WHY she left.

Good for you! I'm glad you can see through the BS. Older men (for example in their 50s) who leave their wives and go after another, then another, and then another are a sink term in an equation of scarcity for men my age and younger. I guess for some men, one wife just isn't enough.




Uh, oh this doesn't look good for you. By excluding the NTs, you're really hurting your odds. Didn't you say you had a bad experience with an aspie, too? #2 and #3 are very nearly mutually exclusive. I haven't met any Christians who like South Park, and none of the people I know who like South Park are serious Christians. It's like saying "I want a red car, but I dislike the color red". You'll have to give on at least one of these, I recommend keeping South Park, what with the symbolic Cannibalism, Vampirism and whatnot.
http://nobeliefs.com/communion/communion.htm

Dealbreakers for me are the obvious things like immaturity, character issues, wanting me only for my money, unwillingness to take personal responsibility for one's own successes and failures. This is sort of an example of what I'm NOT looking for:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zOMpLA5QTjc&feature=channel_page[/youtube]

re: the clip Check Please

I watched about half of another of her clips (morbid fascination). This is the kind of woman who always gets the man and it's frustrating for those of us with a little character who can see through her. I suspect "the doctor who worked on little kid's hearts " did.

If she doesn't believe in premarital sex or oral or fetishes, I will tell everyone that she bombs abortion clinics and denies the Holocaust. Then I will renoucnce Christianity, and use the terms "Christian" and "bigot" interchangeably.

Also, if it weren't for the Simpsons and South Park, I would probably be watching porn.

Dishonesty. I have a hard time coming to terms with even 'minor' white lies; I don't forget them and eventually I lose trust completely.

Same here.

Bwahahah. I was delighted to see her having to fork over 85$. Serves her right and she should have been more gracious about it. Don't offer to pay unless you are willing to pay! And if you offer and somebody accepts your offer, it is pretty disingenuous to be miffed that they accepted the offer. But is this sexy brat somebody a pediatric cardiologist is likely to get into a serious relationship with? Somehow I doubt it. But it is somebody he's likely to have sex with and then never see again on the grounds that once he's got past the sexy part, there's only brat underneath. So I roll my eyes at him too because I suspect he was just looking for 85$ sex and was delighted to think it might morph into free sex. Blech to them both.

Being really conservative or really religious, though it wouldn't so much prevent me from any further contact as just keep me from wanting to pursue a relationship with them.

If a girl acts in a way I could class as rudely dismissive, for example if they suddenly walk away from me when I try to start a conversation with them or suggest that they'd rather I wasn't in their company (to think of a couple of real-life examples) as a little policy I never acknowledge them in any way shape or form again unless they approach me. This particularly applies if I don't really know the person; if I have good reason to believe they're having a bad day/moment, or they are socially awkward, then I could be more forgiving.

ummm lets see... how can I do this without seeming angry or irrational...
If anyone disagrees please, just tell me and explain,

1. Taken - Definate no no. it only causes problems,

2. Cheating - god, it hurts if people say that they have been cheating on me... especially when they are so open about it. I don't do it and so I expect the same back.
(1st relationship... she started dating an online guy that believed that he was some sort of weird "dog like alien" that didn't give BS about anyone and would give out death threats to all guys that was near her... AND bragging about it... alarm bells anyone?)

3. Being obsessive about my AS - trust me, it's a tough world out there, I'd just rather have a gentle nudge now and again to make sure I am on the straight and narrow and not the "oh you have AS, I'll protect you from every person that suspects that you have AS".
Let me deal with my problems, they have a problem with me they should take it up on me: That's what I say - I know I would have a few choice words with then about giving people a "fair chance" in life.

4. Keep saying that I have to do a "non-AS effort" - seriously, I try my best to be the best, it's not my fault that I mess things up from time to time...

Are you serious? I'd think not, but I honestly can't tell.

The Check Please cracked me up. You shouldn't offer to do something you're not willing to follow through with.