Sucks to be single!

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I hate being single, it sucks. It's not as s**t as being in a s**t relationship, but not far off. People say "why don't you go out there and find a bf?" But finding a random in the pub is different than finding someone who cares about you for more than sex. Most of my friends have long term partners and they sit around kissing each other etc and it makes me feel awkward and s**t. What does everyone else think about the single life?

i think i wouldn't have to be single if i had a job and car right now.
i feel pretty assured about that. and i'm not talking about "settling" either.
i got a decent pick of people who like me well enough that i can be fairly confident they wouldn't object to dating. i have one in particular. we both like each other, but it's just not possible for her at the moment. technical reasons. so the waiting game is in session. but til that day comes round casual dating still sounds cool if somewhat unsatisfying to where i really want to be going with this =P.

but that brings me back to my main problem. 19 & no car or job. society expects males in particular to have one or the other, perferrably both in a relationship. so until then i just feel like an unworthy vagrant, streetbum, charity case. and it's doing a number on my pride & patience. it's not my fault getting a job with AS is hard damn it
and that i graduated school just in time for economic recession. life is just awesome.

I can relate, but at the same time, people are a bit to unpredictable at times and that scares the crap out of me. Not to mention the level of drama and whatnot that most seem to be into these days. But yeah, it is upsetting to see/be around those that have a stable relationship when the media makes it seem like an uncommon occurrence. Its like you notice that these people have found something in someone else and i cant for the life of me figure out what in the hell it is.

but at the same time all these feelings are adding new dimensions of stress * uncertainty to my life. hmmm...

Great relationship > Single Life > Bad relationship.

Sometimes it was difficult for me as well when I was younger and saw people hooking up or if i'd saw girls who I had a crush on get with someone else.

But i've seen people's who's lives get messed up just because they were looking for someone to cling to. Being single is horrible sometimes, seeing people hook up is depressing, being alone for long periods can affect your self esteem. But being in a bad relationship is way worse, I cannot imagine being the person who says how much they hate their ex.

Hmm. Ya see, there's this fella i like, and i mean really like people say he likes me, sometimes i think he does, other times i think he doesn't. He is really strange lol. I don't want to barge in and say "heeey! i've liked you for a while, will you date me?" so i don't know what to do.

My real problem is that i become best friends with someone, then they find a guy and move on. It's really hard because most of my friends have partners and they all sit around kissing and hugging lol and i'm the token single

almost in the same boat then i guess.
idk, as for approaching about going out i've had minor success with just subtly sneaking ambiguous small flirty moves experimentally into the friend atmosphere that i'm creating at the same time. way to test the waters. i suck at making big relationship transistions (friend-->GF) etc. i don't think i could without a nervous breakdown in the attempt so if i like someone i'm a little flirty and friendly right off the bat. a light mix so i can more easily try take it either way later depending on how goes.

and frankly i've never been in a relationship yet. mostly because of history of s**t luck and things just coming up out of nowhere. the current roadblock is no job/car. i'm starting to beleive God has a rather dark sense of humor.

but at least i can say i'm not a virgin. unlike relationships sex is much easier to come by it seems. i find that sorta sad in a way.

I can relate to the OP, with more time that passes that I don't have a girlfriend that would love me, I get even more lonely and depressed...

Tim (aka the Slipperman)

Meh. Right now I'd settle for a good best friend. I can survive without a boyfriend, but dammit I want to be special to someone. I just want to find someone I can relax around and not feel like they're judging me or talking crap about me behind my back when I walk away.

Not to say that I don't want a boyfriend, though. I just think finding a good friend is more realistic, and honestly I don't really know how I would act with a boyfriend (or how my parents would, for that matter). I think I'd rather wait until I've moved out and then my parents can't breathe down my neck if I find someone.

I also have the same problems when it comes to being single.

I can't tell you how many people have asked me why I'm single including family members. What makes it more annoying is everytime I'm invited to a birthday or party, everyone has their spouses or significant others with them.

It's hard enough to be socially akward and out of place..but to sit there alone just makes it more uncomfortable....

Ah, lol, actualy thats 50% right and 50% wrong.

Or well depends on what kind of person you are.

For me, if i'm not in love, i can live alone completely fine, as i enjoy silence/peace and being alone in general, but if i like someone, which is rare, i like them to the point that i go Emo if i get rejected for a long time and cant get over them for a long time >_>

guess it's the "hard shell soft inside" thingy.

And lastly, here is a funny thing you should look at, it's from a manga called Axis powers Hetalia, where the countries are personificied(sp?) as people(and somewhat sterotyped, but it's mostly a gag manga, with a few facts about with history invovled)
(this is from the christmas special chapter)

(Note i only took the pictures i find that fit into this <_<)

(this is prussia)




(jumped 2 pictures here, where austria gives hungary a hat as a gift)



But in the end.......It still sucks being alone T_T

Relationships are more trouble then their worth. They are nothing but overrated, pain in the ass dramas. Being single has many benefits, you get to live by your own rules.

For some they are, for anothers they arent, dont just come in and talk as if it's fact

I always seem to do that, oh well. I just don't feel like putting "in my opinion" for every little thing I write. Obviously what I wrote is an opinion.

I put up with couples kissing each other all the time, some couples are not afraid of what people might think of them holding hands in public. I do a certain look at them, I say to myself "How lucky they are". I envy them.

I want some solace, my family members are there for me, always will it's just that no one else out there really cares about me, until I prove myself!