Does it get easier to get girls in college?

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And to start it off I mean good looking girls

Obviously it's not gonna happen in high school for me, that much is clear: I'm a senior that won't be able to drive till July, I have no confidence, and I don't know if I dress well or not. But I at least would like to maybe have something to look forward to afterward if I'm just going to be doing another few years of probably BS work and paying for it(referring to college)

Is it easier? And does it matter if you don't use dorms? I've been reading a bit and they say it makes a big difference to be in dorms.

In my experience, it got harder after getting to college. Girls at least tried to strke up conversation with me at high school, but in college the only ladies even acknowledging my existence are the ones I have classes with. The only reason I got a gf was because I remained active in my church after graduating high school...

In college it's easier to get High School girls or single moms over 30.

No it doesn't get easier.

Thats really all there is to say. The only thing thats easier is, like someone said, insecure high school girls dating an older guy to feel "mature".

Honest answer? Yes and No.

On the No side, the thing you have to remember is that no miraculous transformation of people's mindset and values change once you enter a university or college. People are still people. And unfortunately, a lot of them are directly coming from high school, which means they're either a) very emotionally immature and judgmental, b) in a mood to party as much as possible, and c) extremely superficial in nature. A lot of both men and women are interested, at least in the first few years, in "hooking up" and not doing anything especially serious. The common denominator, unfortunately, is that you'd best be prepared for a lot of insecure, shallow people when it comes to dating. It's inevitable on a college or university campus.

However, on the Yes side, people do grow up to a certain extent on a campus, and the ones you don't want to date stay in their party zone lifestyle. But the ones you want to meet come up in the best ways: join some extracurriculars, an intramural sport, something to get you out there into a positive social environment. Talk to people in your upper year classes, as by then, the real students have made intellectual and academic commitments and are probably more engaged in the possibility of a smart, savvy man in their classes.

So fear not. There's options.

I would argue that it's not at all easier, though I can see the neurotypical type having a point when they say it's not. The first year of college is a lot like high school part two - at least it was to me. So, if you had the suite of normal people experiences in high school, then you are going to have the experience to get into the social game at the beginning of college and ride the wave of social success until you get a girlfriend, boyfriend, etc.... Can you reinvent yourself in college? Yes you can, but here's what they don't tell you: first, you need to be aware of who we already are! And that takes a lot of social maturity.

The impression I get is that people meet other people not through classes, but through things like parties. Which require a foot in the door to make it to the level of being able to attend. So, the paradox is the same as always: if we want to meet people (or start relationships), we need sufficiently many close social connections to award us the opportunities to make more.

Good looking girls? Or girls who are worth something? If its just about looks, you need to measure up yourself.

Hate to say it but good looking girls usually want a good looking guy also. So while they take their sweet time applying make up, wearing nice looking clothing and are groomed well.

You better put in an equal amount of time and care into yourself. Going to the gym, lifting weights, dressing nice, etc.

You're not going to get a girl solely based on looks unless you measure up and I say this because its the only quality/prerequisite you list in your post.

I'd say that'd be the social aspect and is the rule more than the exception. Girls have their preferences just like you do.

I think the whole college aspect will be random as far as how easy it is to hook up. In my opinion, people in college tend to be a lot more mature and tend to stop playing as many social games.

Not having to deal with teenage angst in every class to me makes a HUGE difference.

I'd say it gets easier in college. When you get into college, you get a clean slate and what you were in High School is totally irrelevant. Dating itself doesn't get easier but nothing can get any worse then high school; things can only get better.

I agree with someone earlier in this post. Yes and No. But mostly for people like us. No.

If you havent had any experience coming to college and you dont know who you are (even in the slightest) then no. Thats how it was like for me. There was a few girls who actually showed interest in me at certain times and things could have changed....but I was too scared and not open-minded I dont know I just didnt go for it and now I really regret it.........really regret it.

For the people who mature in HS rather normally yea im sure college gets easier for dating and hooking up and all that.

Not really. Women are always in short supply, "good looking" ones are rare any time, any place.

If you live on campus, you have more exposure to people.. so that increases your chances of hooking up. Your Freshman year is... well your Freshman year, don't expect to get too many girls (as my earlier post said, HS girls & woman over 30 should be your target your 1st 2 years in college). There are some students who never lived away from home so it becomes party city.. some girls will take advantage of those boys who toss their money around... so party on & expect to get f'd.

If your goal is to get laid, here are some ways to tilt the scale in your favor:
Join the team - baseball, track, swim.. anything. Jocks get more girls then geeks.
Get a nice car - it can be an old classic or a newer car. Keep it looking good.
Treat them like dirt - for some reason nice guys get laid less.

But apart for all this shallow stuff. I met my wife in College, she was a friend 1st. I did not even have romantic feelings toward her until one fateful day. Over time we realized that something really works with us.. and it still does after 2 decades.