Rejection [split from Ideal Partner]

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Also regarding rejection what happens if I ask a girl at work out and she says no? I mean how do I continue to work with her without feeling angry at her and hurt?

that's a risk you have to be willing to take. If there is no way you will be able to deal with it, it's probably better not to ask her out in the first place.

LGB, I can understand. Rejection sucks. I've been lead on and rejected by somebody at WP. But, if you don't take chances, you never get anything.

I can take chances provided I am familiar with the probability of the outcome. For instance, if I ask a female out, I would like to know ahead of time if there is even a chance she would say yes and/or that she is at least attracted to me as well.

Well that girl I like is really nice and polite. If she says no how should I react?

I always thought (correct me if l'm wrong) that "asking her out" was just a metaphor. You don't really go to her and ask that like if you were asking what time is it

An appointment to a place of mutual interest should come by itself during one of your conversation you have with her, on a common interest. You should be friends first

letsogoblues - if she says no, be polite and say something like "well, thank you anyway", smile and then leave her alone - literally. make sure you can get away from her at that point. then, you'll have to put on your "professional head" and get on with work. it helps to put how you might feel in a box inside you somewhere, if it's horrible, and deal with it later, when you're not at work and "safe".

One thing i'd advise you NOT to do is be rude to her or ignore her after that. That can make people feel bad or just plain annoyed.

Ok. I'll still be angry on the inside though.

being upset for a while is fair enough, but being angry with people for too long is a waste of energy and induces stress.

There's no point holding grudges, eventually you'll learn to live with it/get over it, afterall, you can't expect people can be forced to like someone.

But when I see other guys talking to her I'll be jelous. If I'm mean to her what could I expect?

A slap in the face and her to never talk or come near you again most likely.

I mean at work? Could she tell HR and get me fired?

You shouldn't be mean to her. It'll be frowned upon by your employer, and make it more likely she would go the 'harassment' route if she rejects you. It's better to be 'neutral'. In others, speak minimally and about work only if she does reject you and you're angry.

Yes she could if she felt she was being harrassed by you, harrassment sexual or not is still unacceptable in many work places.

Im mean should I just be bitter towards her and ignore her then? I mean if she rejects me dont I need to find a way to get back at her?