How can a girl tell if you are "looking" for a gir

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Self explanatory.

How can girls tell that you're "really looking" for a girlfriend? How can they tell and detect? Many people I know, including some here have told me that I've been looking for love and that love should come to me. But first, how do I "let it come to me" and second, how can girls tell that you're looking?

they cant. women arent anything if they aint confusing to all hell. try telling women you already have a girlfriend. that way you seem non threatening then when you find one you like. oh your girlfriend breaks up with you. you get sympathy poonanny and everyone is happy

Body language ?

Desperate guys have a way of looking at a girl (even if the guy doesn't realize it) like they've been isolated and haven't seen a girl in 10 years.

You are in a social situation without a girlfriend, looking at girls, not having a ring or
any other signs of being coupled, or you are looking at them. Let it come to you I
guess means just relax passively ... but for that to work you might have to be
and look confident and at ease and welcoming and interesting. Methinks, IMO.

Also, if they are a friend of your friend, and your friend told them,
or you told them yourself, or you told someone else who gossips.

Last edited by ValMikeSmith on 30 Mar 2010, 8:18 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Probably something like being "too nice," or overly concerned about what she thinks of you. IOW, if you treat women like your sister or something it comes off as "not looking," -- which comes off as "not desperate or needy." I think that might be part of the attraction to gay guys -- they are not interested in a fundamental way such that it ironically makes them seem attractive.

I don't really know how to act straight, and yet I am.

Waggle your eyebrows suggestively at them. It hasn't worked for me yet, but I'm disturbing to look at.

No girl likes to think they are interchangeable for an other girl. Just 'looking for a girl' is a good way to turn them off to you. You might want to figure out why just 'any girl' will do.

I'd like to know something. Just thinking that a woman is "interchangeable" is a turn-off, but thinking she's "the only one for you" is also a turnoff... so what isn't?

how about a middle road? how about someone you get along with and laugh at each others jokes, like her friends and she likes yours, you hang out well together and she doesn't make you wretch when you roll over in the morning and see her gluey eyed, droolly lipped face and she gives you a smile that touches your heart.

you know. . . someone that loves you, too?

This is the part I can't figure out. I thought that my ex loved me. She even said as much. But then she decided that we "weren't compatible"... which is the gist of every woman's reaction to me. Everyone wants to be my friend, nobody wants to be my love

I'd like to pose the related question. How can a girl tell if a guy has no GF?

I am sorry that your girlfriend decided you were expendable. I have had that many, many times in my life when those that love only love for a while and then something different/better/moredrama comes along and puuuft. . they are gone.

I suppose you have heard about Limerence an involuntary cognitive and emotional state of intense romantic desire for another person. It is disturbing how often people confuse this with longer bonded love.

So all I have is experience, not answers. I would like a love, as well, ToS.

Merle

Yeah, I know all about that... and I'm guessing I was on the receiving end of that. But I know that what I personally felt for her was love. I still feel it. It hurts like hell now because I'm left alone, with what is now, effectively, unrequited love. Such a painful feeling should be business as usual for me by now, but I can never really get used to the pain...

Especially now, compounded with the fact that I don't know of anyone else that I could even remotely consider as a possible new girlfriend, I don't even know if I will ever find another love. I am, effectively, completely alone, not even allowed the comfort of fantasizing about a possible relationship...

Aw, come on now. You can always fantasize. And even if it didn't last, you've proven that you can attract someone.

Now as to how a girl can tell if you are looking for a girl: This is going to sound crazy but I got a coffee date with some chick with this one, I didn't go further for reasons that will become obvious.

I have a ring that can pass as a wedding ring even though it isn't. I was wearing it, and while there was a situation where I had to walk in to a room and see this chick I've never before seen sitting on a chair. As I walk in her eyes meet mine for a second and I immediately go for the ring and stuff it in my pocket. She sees this, and giggles. I tell her "oh, that wasn't a wedding ring." Apparently I had signaled interest, and the fact that she thought I was married made me more attractive, which is also why I didn't go further.