Shadowbound wrote:
The only love I've know is either from my family or a pet. Over the years when chatting online people will say the common saying "You'll find love one day" I'm 30 now and 31 this year and I've never known love as in a female partner kind of way. I've wanted it and I've seen women I've been attractive too in the past but I feel completely incapable of doing anything about it. I'll try and think of ways to do something for months with no avail. Either the attempts I try get unrealised by the female or I've taken too long.
High functioning is a cures for me anyway. I desire many of the things NT want. I feel like I'm in a cage sometimes seeing people go for what they want or desire in life and even though it's sometimes though for them too they have the tools to get there. I see the things I want like a business, love, sex and have little Andy's running around but I have no chance of getting any of those things. If I try to get any of the things I desire and want it's like I can go so far but the bars are there preventing me I stretch my arms through the bars of my cage but everything is out of reach and there for completely unachievable because I'm incapable.
So the saying "Get out there" is BS too as I will go out there but I'm still trapped. Sometimes I just end up more depressed as I'd go out and see couples in love hugging, holding hands or kissing and I think I want that but will never get it.
I'm pretty much in agreement with you. I've been told that too and as far as I know, the person telling me has not invented a time machine and traveled to the future to witness it. It's nothing more than a meaningless platitude. I also hate the "Just get out there" and "Be yourself" comments. For me, they are a contradiction. I can't do both at the same time. What sucks for me, is that my hobbies and interests are pretty much guy centric. I meet a girl I like and want to date about once every 2 or 3 years but she's either too young (for me) or already in a relationship.