How do you date when you are unemployed (girl)?

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I haven't really dated in 3 years. I had 2 very bad experiences with internet dating (stalker and assault), but I can't meet anyone any other way.
So I joined a site and met a few guys...
But I am hesitant to actually go out with any, because
a) Im on disability. (wanted to get at least a part time job, but can't even get an interview).
b) I have no "education". even though I have read extensively topics in humanities, science, literature, etc I don't have a degree. Can't get a loan to finish school.
c) I don't have a drivers licence.
d)I don't know many people in town.

I'm a decently attractive female, but:
I feel like anyone who meets me will assume I'm a "huge loser" (Their stereotype of me due to the above, not me as a person...I don't think that about myself) , and just see me as someone to use for sex.
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I say this because that has happened to me many times before, and because I have AS its hard for me to tell if someone is genuine, or if they are trying to manipulate me and don't have any real interest...

Do you have a local library? You may meet other intellectual people there during the day who may be in a similar situation (and therefore less likely to judge). Sometimes they have book clubs, or you could start your own if they don't.

There's many people where I live (San Francisco) who don't drive out of principle (environmentalism, blah blah).

Degrees are overrated. I don't have one.

The "unemployment" stigma is much heavier on a male than female. As a female you can get away with a lot, as long as you don't actually start acting in an exploitative way.

I'm disabled myself OP & I'm on disability, don't drive, don't have more than a high-school diploma & know very few people offline. I'm having a very hard time finding someone myself. Have you tried any sites or groups for disabled people I'm on a couple sites & they are some good guys there. Some (or lots of guys) on those sites can be jerks but NOT all are & you mite could rule a lot of the jerks out pretty fast. There's a high ratio of men to women on those sites & very few women on those things message guys 1st so if you take an active approach & search true profiles & message people; you mite could find someone really great

You;ll never get a boyfriend. Give up on it, and just live your life happily without a relationship. Its not worth it anyways.

i am unemplyed too and also on disability. One thing I suggest is dating AS men. A great selection out there.

Don't mind shanxi, my senses are telling me he's a double account.

I might have a job, car, and the luxury of living at home , but I'm just as single as the rest of them. There's a match for everyone, it's just a matter of when and by at least putting yourself out there your chances are better than the person who makes no effort to try at all. Hang in there

First of all, it sound as if you have low self esteem. You write as if your current situation is going to dictate how you will be for the rest of your life. If you were to go out with someone and they were to base their opinion of you based what you have described, they would be superficial. What possible future could you have with someone such as that?
It sounds as it you are saying because of your current situation you do not deserve to be happy. To me that is a classic example of a self-fulfilling prophesy. I think you will be pleasantly suprised to learn that all people will not judge you as harshly as you are judging yourself.