Best books on dating and attracting the opposite sex?

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JohnisBlind
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01 Aug 2010, 7:28 am

What are the best books on dating and attracting the opposite sex?



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01 Aug 2010, 11:13 am

Considering that the book has been giving advice how to deal with the opposing sex for almost two millennium, I will say the Kama Sutra. :roll:

Actually I got no idea, but I will say that my joke suggestion is not a bad choice considering a good part of the text is actually what you ask, for some reason people tend to think the book only contain the picture, that made it reputation, in Occident.



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01 Aug 2010, 1:09 pm

There's a dating guide for aspies by Luke Jackson. I still have to read it.



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03 Aug 2010, 11:09 am

Do you learn to drive by just reading a book, or do you have to actually get in a car?



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03 Aug 2010, 12:54 pm

iniudan wrote:
Considering that the book has been giving advice how to deal with the opposing sex for almost two millennium, I will say the Kama Sutra. :roll:


Great book, sadly most people just think it is only positions.


OP, this post and taking into consideration your other post, has me wondering if you are actually writing a book and
this is partly where you are doing your research.



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03 Aug 2010, 1:00 pm

The Love & Dating section on WrongPlanet.net?

If your comprising a book/research of this, good luck with that. :wink:



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03 Aug 2010, 1:57 pm

iniudan wrote:
Considering that the book has been giving advice how to deal with the opposing sex for almost two millennium, I will say the Kama Sutra. :roll:

Actually I got no idea, but I will say that my joke suggestion is not a bad choice considering a good part of the text is actually what you ask, for some reason people tend to think the book only contain the picture, that made it reputation, in Occident.


I agree. I read it online many years ago, out of curiosity, and whilst many of the suggestions aren't to my taste, seem bizarre, or are reflective of the culture of the time, there is a lot of good, explicit, and very practical advice about relationships in general and the importance of respect.

It's also quite an amusing read.



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03 Aug 2010, 2:13 pm

Definitely not the Kama Sutra.



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03 Aug 2010, 9:58 pm

ladyrain wrote:

I agree. I read it online many years ago, out of curiosity, and whilst many of the suggestions aren't to my taste, seem bizarre, or are reflective of the culture of the time, there is a lot of good, explicit, and very practical advice about relationships in general and the importance of respect.

It's also quite an amusing read.


I do not understand how people can do that.. I love to curl up with a book.
How long does it take to read over 550 pages on a computer? I would need a
lot of breaks due to eye strain alone.

Also wondering what translation of you you guys read, or if you read a couple translations?

I am always amazed when I come across other people what have actually read it.. instead of just looked at the 'picture books' and thought that was all it was about.
My introduction into it, was in the more 'traditional' sense via some of the teachings/lessons given to females in one of the homes I lived in. As much as I enjoyed/loved it.. I was still envious of what I would catch glimpses of what the males were being taught in their lessons.
There is/was a website that touched on it and many other subjects that I used to send to people if they showed an interest in one subject or another. I will look later to see if it is still around, if anyone is interested.


iniudan wrote:
Considering that the book has been giving advice how to deal with the opposing sex for almost two millennium, I will say the Kama Sutra. :roll:

Actually I got no idea, but I will say that my joke suggestion is not a bad choice considering a good part of the text is actually what you ask, for some reason people tend to think the book only contain the picture, that made it reputation, in Occident.


I didn't even realise that it was said as a joke.. oops..

As for pictures.. I never saw the picture book.. until years later and I was kind of 8O
My main copy has 564 pages and there is not one picture in it.. at all..

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Definitely not the Kama Sutra.



Why not? You might like to read the actual book before completely saying no to it. Then maybe take a yoga class before going to the picture book.


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03 Aug 2010, 10:28 pm

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By Neil Strauss


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04 Aug 2010, 7:57 am

[quote="skafather84"]Image


By Neil Strauss[/quote

What kind of information would this book have that I wont find in other books?



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04 Aug 2010, 11:51 am

JohnisBlind wrote:
skafather84 wrote:
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By Neil Strauss[/quote

What kind of information would this book have that I wont find in other books?


That would require I knew what was in the other books. The main thing I know is that this one actually has effective advice that can be put into practice.


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04 Aug 2010, 2:10 pm

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JohnisBlind wrote:
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By Neil Strauss[/quote

What kind of information would this book have that I wont find in other books?


That would require I knew what was in the other books. The main thing I know is that this one actually has effective advice that can be put into practice.


I like a book with a practical emphasis. So that sounds good.



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04 Aug 2010, 2:46 pm

The Cookie Sutra! No really, this exists. It shows all the positions with gingerbread men/women and gives you the recipe for the cookies at the end. XD



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04 Aug 2010, 4:02 pm

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By Neil Strauss


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Are you just another AFC ("average frustrated chump") trying to meet an HB ("hot babe")? How would you like to "full-close" with a Penthouse Pet of the Year? The answers, my friend, are in Neil Strauss's entertaining book The Game. Strauss was a self-described chick repellant--complete with large, bumpy nose, small, beady eyes, glasses, balding head, and, worst of all, painful shyness around women. He felt like "half a man." That is, until a book editor asked him to investigate the community of pickup artists. Strauss's life was transformed. He spent two years bedding some fine chiquitas and studying with some of the North America's most suave gents--including the best of them all, the God of the pickup "community," a man named Mystery.

Mystery is an aspiring Toronto magician who charges $2,250 for a weekend pickup workshop. He is not much to look at: a cross between a vampire and a computer geek. But by using high-powered marketing techniques he's turned seduction into an effortless craft--even inventing his own vocabulary. His technique sounds like a car salesman's tip sheet: his main rule is FMAC--find, meet, attract, close. He employs the "three-second rule"--always approach a woman within three seconds of first seeing her in order to avoid getting shy. Other tricks: Intrigue a beautiful woman by pretending to be unaffected by her charm; also, never hit on a woman right away. Start with a disarming, innocent remark, like "Do you think magic spells work?" or "Oh my god, did you see those two girls fighting outside?" And finally, the most important characteristic of the pickup artist--smile.

After two years, Strauss ends up becoming almost as successful as Mystery, but he comes to an important realization. His techniques were actually off-putting to the woman he ended up falling in love with. And they never prepared him for actually having a relationship. After a while, he ran out of one-liners and had to have a real conversation. Still, The Game is a great read that may help some AFCs come out of their shells. --Alex Roslin


Of all the absolute crap that is out there in the dating advice category of books, this one looks (at least from the reviews) to be a good one for men and women alike, especially those on the autism spectrum due to our natural limits in the "game" department.

From this review, I think it would be an excellent choice for every AS woman to read, in order to understand the mechanism of manipulation that game players use, like a primer on sociopathic psych-out techniques. And, from the male perspective, it seems like the author was able to move beyond being a player. I say seems because supposedly he ended up with a member of Courtney Love's band, and CL should be the poster girl for female sociopathy.



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Are you just another AFC ("average frustrated chump") trying to meet an HB ("hot babe")? How would you like to "full-close" with a Penthouse Pet of the Year? The answers, my friend, are in Neil Strauss's entertaining book The Game. Strauss was a self-described chick repellant--complete with large, bumpy nose, small, beady eyes, glasses, balding head, and, worst of all, painful shyness around women. He felt like "half a man." That is, until a book editor asked him to investigate the community of pickup artists. Strauss's life was transformed. He spent two years bedding some fine chiquitas and studying with some of the North America's most suave gents--including the best of them all, the God of the pickup "community," a man named Mystery.


After two years, Strauss ends up becoming almost as successful as Mystery, but he comes to an important realization. His techniques were actually off-putting to the woman he ended up falling in love with. And they never prepared him for actually having a relationship. After a while, he ran out of one-liners and had to have a real conversation. Still, The Game is a great read that may help some AFCs come out of their shells. --Alex Roslin


Of all the absolute crap that is out there in the dating advice category of books, this one looks (at least from the reviews) to be a good one for men and women alike, especially those on the autism spectrum due to our natural limits in the "game" department.

From this review, I think it would be an excellent choice for every AS woman to read, in order to understand the mechanism of manipulation that game players use. And, from the male perspective, it seems like the author was able to move beyond being a player.


I think it would be an amusing read if someone is not good at picking up on-liners or if a woman wanted to learn some of the 'made up language' so she could respond to a line with 'and now you should say or do... and see what the guy says (which I think could be amusing just for that)

As for the guys..
Maybe, if the women the guys are wanting/are interested like one-liners and do not want real conversation from the sounds of it.
It sounds like a book for people that would spend most of their time at a pub or nightclub where on-liners would work part of the time,
and for a quick drunk-f*ck and the majority of guys posting, say they do not want that.

But seriously what intelligent guy is going to go to the bar over and over again for two years, for an almost? Unless they are researching and writing a book.

Maybe if they put that much effort in at a place that didn't usually have coin-op condom dispensers on the walls and learnt real conversation skills
instead of learning fake languages and just trying to get it wet, they may not bytch so much about not getting any.

Plus if someone came up to me in the first 3 seconds of entering a room, or even 5 minutes if the place was busy - I would give them my order

As for on-liners, I am still hearing in my head that one about "I like your shoes"

Estimated Two years cost couldn't help but figure this out..

Drinks for him and 3 women @ 1 each every Friday and Saturday- Average $5 each (bottle of beer is about that here and spirits can be more) -$20

Friday and Saturdays for 104 weeks - 208

Cost in 2 years -$4,160 , NOT including tips or the cost of the book

If all the guy wants is to get it wet like I said, and this books sounds like that is the only thing it is good for, (except for the women who might read it), they should just look in the yellow pages..