Better to get advice from opposite sex or same sex?

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Pretty simple question. The likely answer would be that you probably want to talk to both to get a perspective from both sides, but one may be more useful than the other.

So I will ask the question like this:

From which sex do you think would the quantity of good love and dating advice be higher?

I vote for the little green aliens from Mars.

Seriously, when it comes to love, dating, and relationships both sexes have equally f****d up views. Individual people may have good advice, but if we're basing this all on which gender holds better advice, I say neither.

I am not asking which gender has better advice overall. I am asking which gender relative to your own is more likely to have a more useful perspective for seeing potential problems.

Though maybe I should add an option for "all advice received by another human being is s**t." In which case it is equivalent.

Neither gender is better if the advice that you are receiving is coming from somebody who makes the wrong assumptions about you and what you want and need.

Female advice is going to more likely center around getting a long term relationship.

Male advice is more likely to center around gratification of physical needs.

COSMO! Just kidding. Opposite, I'm biased though.

Neither gender is better if the advice that you are receiving is coming from somebody who makes the wrong assumptions about you and what you want and need.

Female advice is going to more likely center around getting a long term relationship.

Male advice is more likely to center around gratification of physical needs.

These may be somewhat stereotypical statements but that is what I see going on.

But would a man give the same advice to another man looking for a woman than he would to a woman looking for man?

Unless all human advice is s**t, it is highly unlikely that the sum of all good advice from the people you know of one gender would be equivalent to the sum of all good advice from the other.

See, I wouldn't know which gender would give me personally better advice. I never ask for advice on love and dating.

Who said it was ok to take an apple from that tree?

I rest my case

I personally believe that the same gender gives much more useful advice. For instance a man can tell another man tips on how to psych himself up to approach a woman and be brave, a woman can give another woman tips on how to make a bf happy and say nice things. its one thing to be on the recieving end but you will obviously get more help from the person doing what you want to do than the person it was done to. For instance if you wanted to learn a magic trick you would ask the magician, not the member of the audience it was done to.

Assuming you're straight, it's better to get advice from the opposite sex. Obviously.

*shrug* I'd get advice from someone who has similar issues that I do who has/had success in the dating world. Gender doesn't really matter to me in this case. It may make a minor difference but I don't know. I usually get the "just be yourself" stuff and while it's nice and all, it doesn't really help me improve. *shrug*