Why is the world so sex-centric?

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I'm not talking from a biological perspective here. Obviously anyone that has hit puberty can at least acknowledge that sex is required for continuation of the species. But sex has become so glorified in the media these days that those men who don't over-value sex are stigmatized as "wusses", "boys" or other derogatory terms meant to cast doubt on the manliness of a man. What is so bad about just wanting a deep meaningful relationship built on the strong foundation of mutual love and trust, rather than the unstable destructive nature of sex?

PS: I'm not attacking people who choose to lead sex-based lives of their own accord, nor do i judge them for it, I just want to know why I'm being judged by such people...

Sex used to be something that was that was taboo but the sexual liberation moment kept pushing awareness & caused the reverse. It's now taboo not to want sex

If you ask people what they actually enjoy the most, a lot of them would say something other than sex. The reason it seems so centered on sex is that the media portrays it that way because sex sells. It is not because real people talk about sex so much. If you are in a private conversation with your very close friends, it would not be unusual for a man to admit that sex isn't that big of a deal.

^ This.

I just want a stable relationship before I give my virginity instead of just throwing it away to the first man who asks. Is that so strange? People act like I'm a child or a lesser woman just because I don't take these things lightly. Sex are serious business. *nod nod*

*holds up flame shield* Just in case.

Last edited by Erisad on 03 Sep 2010, 8:53 pm, edited 1 time in total.

The short answer?

$$$$$$$

People know that sex sells, so it has become pervasive as advertising has become more intrusive.

Advertising, marketing, the media all use powerful emotions that they can manipulate. Fear is one, sex is another. We are wired to be responsive to sexual signals, so the media keep pushing those signals at us, hoping we will watch their film, buy their product etc.

As you point out, "being wired for sex" is not the same thing as "holding sex to be more important than anything else". We can pursue other goals besides sexual ones, and a relationship built on sex alone is very narrow. A relationship built on affection and commitment, whether or not it is also sexual (in other words, a friendship), is a broader, healthier and more fulfilling relationship ... but it doesn't move as many products off shelves nor is it as easy to manipulate.

So the world keeps pushing those sexual signals, hoping that we won't notice the lack of depth.

Oh, and NT society seems to be obsessed with "popularity" and "coolness", so the media connects them with sex - the cool guy is the guy who can get any girl he wants. And the cool girl is the girl he does want. To be popular you must be a sexual success (a "getter" or a "gotten"). So social phobia (fear) backs up the emphasis on sex: sex pushes product, and in case it doesn't work on you, you should be afraid of being second rate.

I'm sure there are plenty of other factors too. These are what occurred to me first up.

It's not the world, it's just Hollywood.

Oh, and people who spend entirely too much time keeping up with the "entertainment" business. And the other people who don't actually care but who want to fit in with these people anyway.

...seriously, though, it's not the whole world, so I like to think.

No need for the shield, virginity is different for women and I think that ought to be acknowledged. There's nothing wrong with not throwing virginity away as a woman, if anything it increases your standing in many people's eyes. Not very many people prize male virginity, and some men drive themselves crazy about it without any need for outside influence (not pointing any fingers here...), just look at how popular the "males losing their virginity" movie plot is and how far back it goes as a genre. Men can also get sort of double shafted when they get so anxious about being virgins that they start putting off that desperate/creepy vibe that just repels women like the plague, I don't think women get one that quite so badly.

Sex is still taboo, and that makes us obsessed with it. So while we still make everything about sexuality "forbidden", our culture is paradoxically ALL ABOUT SEX. We can't help it.

Nah, I'll keep the shield. It's shiny and cool looking. That and you can't put your guard down in the Love and Dating forum these days. So sad. D:

Anywho. I do get criticized quite a bit for being a virgin at 21. I'm told that I'm not a real woman until I have sex. Um...I still have the lady-parts, they're just in mint condition.

I'm not trying to one-up the guys in "who has it rougher" or anything. I'm just saying my experience.

I think the religious conservatives are responsible for giving the youth something to rebel against

Sex to me is overrated...kissing and cuddling is so much more fun.

Or maybe the youth should, you know, take personal responsibility and stop blaming religious conservatives for everything that's wrong with the world.

FYI, I don't believe sex being a taboo has anything to do with it. People aren't that reactionary. They're just easily duped and are especially fond of imitating others.

I think too much fuss is kicked up about the subject personally. The people who kick a huge fuss up about it a really rather primitive imo.

Sure, most people will want it, but not wanting it shouldn't be treated as wrong.

Because sex with someone you're attracted to feels so good, and it makes you more confident. Sex doesn't feel as good as opium, but good sex kind of builds up your body and mind instead of breaking it down if you manage to avoid disease and toxic situations.

People judge you negatively because they're stupid. They can't dream of why anyone wouldn't worship sex, and it annoys them.

I am very surprised that so many people are blaming the media.

So what do blame for sex's popularity for the previous x thousand years?

So many people are obsessed with it because for them it's dang good.

It's like a drug. You could say it is a drug.

I guess that some people are less affected by it than others. Though unlike some other drugs you need to know how to do it right to get the full effect.

http://www.momscape.com/articles/sexforhealth.htm

People are no obsessed with sex because of the media. The media is obsessed with sex because so many people are.