So there's this thing with a girl with a boyfriend....

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She likes me, I like her, stuff has happened (only once) and now she's not sure what to do.

I know what she should do, she should stick with her boyfriend, but I REALLY don't want that.

I'm not even sure I need any kind of advice, I know what the right thing to do is here, but it really doesn't FEEL right.

The plan is to tell her that if she has feelings for 2 people but she's with 1 of them then she should stick with him.

Much as I'll kick myself for it later.

Opinions?

She shouldn't be allowed to be in monogamous relationships because she obviously can't have feelings or sex with just one person.

All I have to say if if you hook up with someone through cheating she will eventually turn around and cheat on you.

You are definitely doing the right thing by cutting it off with her. The old adage "once a cheater, always a cheater" is a gross generalization that isn't always true, but it is OFTEN true. If she is with someone else and messing about with you, the chances are that if she were dating you, she will likely mess around with someone else later on. The chances of her relationship succeeding are also fairly slim, but you will feel much better about yourself if you are no longer involved in the reasons that it fails. Think about being in the other guy's shoes. You would want the "other guy" to back off and let you sort it out between the two of you, right?

I generally agree with the above posters. If she is not so enamored with her boyfriend that she is open to seeing other people, then she shouldn't be seeing her boyfriend, and if she is not considerate or responsible enough to leave her boyfriend before she actually starts seeing other people, then she is of low moral integrity.

And if you pursued and dated her when you knew she was involved with someone else, then I think you need to consider your own moral integrity, because lapses in such things tend to lead to only negative things in life which it's usually better to do without.

Not worth going for imo, she sounds like the cheating type but it's a risk you want to take but when she does turn back and cheat on you, it will hurt even more than it does now.

In this situation, the only one that would be really hurt is her boyfriend and it sounds like he doesn't even know anything about it.

Every girl has a "boyfriend". So what?

People go out with other people until they find someone they want to marry.

To hell with "the boyfriend" unless he is your best friend.

If she shows interest in you then go for it.

In my youth I dumped girlfriends and they dumped me.

It is all part of the "mating game".

Cutting another mans grass is just wrong, not to mention "Un-Australian". I completely disagree with Wombat's comment, re the "dating game", she's with her boyfriend by choice, she's chosen him over you, deal with it. Are you interested because you like her for her, or because you want to be a Wombat (so to speak) and stroke that ego of yours by taking her off someone else.

Best move is to be honest, if you want to say her how you feel, do that (obviously not when her boyfriend is within earshot) and go from there, if she wants you, she knows where to find you.

But do NOT put yourself on hold for her.

@Wombat - no one is saying you should marry your year 7 boyfriend

you shouldn't be with one person and mess around with someone else at the same time

I'm not going to agree that she should leave him but get real people. Humans are not made for monogamous relationships thats just how it is, it's already hardwired in their system. I'm not saying it's right to cheat I'm just saying that in a lifetime you're probably going to cheat at least once, that doesn't make you a bad person, it just makes you human.

Rubbish. Not everyone will cheat.
I would never cheat. Why would you? If you wanna be with/have sex with/kiss someone else LEAVE the person you're with, then you're free to do whatever you want without hurting people.