Am I good enough for a good man?

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Sometimes I wonder. Lately I've been talking with guys on OkCupid. Three of them just stopped messaging me outright. The other kept talking to me. He was nice at first and then he said something to the effect of, "if you had a smaller stomach, you'd be hot" and "your glasses are nerdy. Get ones that don't have as round frames" and stuff like that and then he started complaining that he gets discouraged by how many girls online don't return his messages when I did just that. I'm guessing I wasn't good enough for him.

Then I saw a romantic quote about guys who accept women for who they are and I started to cry because I knew there wasn't one for me. There isn't a white knight for everyone. Some of us are bound to be alone for the rest of their lives like my mom and grandmother. My dad left us 20 years ago and grandpa died before I was born and both my mom and grandma have been alone ever since. Where are the good men they deserve? Simple. They don't exist for them and they won't for me either.

I have to get thin so I stand a chance of getting married one day. I don't want to spend my entire life alone or in abusive relationships. I want a good man who gives a s**t about me and isn't constantly trying to turn me into something I'm not. Is that too much to ask? I'm starting to think it is. Who the hell wants a fat girlfriend anyway? I should stop kidding myself and just give up as no one would ever love a hideous creature like me.

never give up and I know that no one wants me either because I am TOFU-(too old,fat,ugly) so keep hanging in there you still have time.

though you still have time-you are young and youth is desired-I am in a gray area too old for young people and too young for older people-and I am big but a lot smaller than I was 5 years ago and it still didn't help because of my social awkwardness. You still have plenty of time and life will surprise you!

I understand that more than you know-enough said.

Erisad, you are beautiful. Being thin doesn't = beauty. Beauty comes from within. A person who only likes someone due to how they look is shallow and not worth a grain of salt in a relationship.

Thin women get abused too. Hell I am a smart articulate "skinny" (i want to put on weight) tall blonde pale woman with a huge chest and i tend to get stuck in abusive relationships. Hell i have had to go to emergency before because of an incident.

My brother is a 6'4" man who is what is many women consider HOT. He could walk up to any woman and make them swoon. He is also a qualified Neuroscientist. He fell in love with a 5'2" morbidly obese woman with Narcissistic and Borderline personality disorders.

Someone will love you Erisad, they will fall heavily in love with you and treat you wonderful. You don't need lots of men, just one. The right man will come along.