Never dated, never had a boyfriend and never been kissed.

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I am a 23 year old female whose never been in a relationship and has never dated. People always tell me that I will find someone one day because I'm still young. and to me that's starting to really hurt.

It usually comes from people who are already in serious relationships so of course they found their soul mate.

It really bothers me because its like, I try and look for a boyfriend and no one is interested. I always get "I only like you as a friend" line and it breaks my heart.

I don't know what to do. I give up on everything about dating.

Replace female with male, 23 with 22 and this is me lol. So sadly I can't be much help, only tell you that I understand your frustrations, that it's terribly depressing and frustrating and that all we can really hope is that we'll somehow manage to figure out the magical words that most normal people seem to be gifted in.

Im 29 and same situation. Although I went through the motions of going on a date twice, I'm not even sure what I was doing or if the other person was even interested. One I am still "friends" with, meaning we talk or meet up when she comes to town. The other seem to drop off the face of the earth. Even though I know her family and see them sometimes, she is nowhere to be found and never gets mentioned.

I finally realized I was only perusing this to stop people from bothering me about it. Once I decided it was ok and stopped, I have felt much better about the whole situation. I do get random thoughts of loneliness, but that goes away once I try to be social and feel how much I hate it. If someone came along that accepted me for who I am, I think I could see myself sharing a house and maybe even starting a family. However, I'm fine with none of that now.

I hope you find a good place where you are comfortable with your being single or happen to find that right person.

One thing that always helps me is to remember that I usually feel lonely due to other peoples' perception or expectations and why do I owe them anything? They should be content with me being happy in my own situation. If they can't reason with it, that is there problem!

It sucks even more when you're older! I've had relationships, I've been kissed, had sex, but in the past two years when I've had no job and no money, no car and no privacy, any type of romance or romantic opportunity has evaporated. Throw in the complication of my AS with a nypical male (who, unfortunately for AS males, communicate better overall) and the frustration multiplies!! !

It is a human desire to want to be special to someone; trying to find that someone special is made almost astronomically more difficult when factoring in AS!

I hope you feel better soon!

I was in the same situation until my 20s, and I can't really say what turned the corner for me, unless it was that I stopped caring about being a twenty-something virgin who couldn't get a date. It's about when I made the decision that my happines was not going to depend on how others feel about me, and that I was going to go out and have fun on my own.

If that works for you, then go for it!

I can't tell you how many times this has been told to me and here I am 29 with no luck. I've had a few dates but nothing long or lasting and hardly any experience in the sexual area. However I've seen many girls on this site complain of this problem also and have been fortunate enough to find a mate. Unfortunately at your age you might get lucky but if you really expect to be with someone there has to be some effort on your part. I think for those of us on the spectrum, this is a little hard due to all those unread cues and signals and if you're like me, a lot of insecurity and poor self esteem.

Change the age and thats me

I'm 24 and a female, too. I've had a little experience dating. People tell me that I'll find someone, as well. And I'm like, "When?! And how do I recognize it?"

It's frustrating and lonely. I think it might take us more time than the average person to find a mate. That's what I'm hoping for, anyway...

I'm 23 and only ever had one girlfriend (plus one semi-sexual encounter last summer).
So you're not alone...

Edit: I like to think that I'll get by on my looks. Although I don't like what I look like myself, I've had indications in the past that girls find me somewhat attractive.

Same
The girls I like are always taken or their just friends I don't get it, since they've said I'm too nice and the nicest person. Maybe it would work for me to be evil. I don't no. but I rarely meet new people and not everyone is even nice enough to be just friends with never mind a girlfriend person. I'm not fat or sick ugly I'm just rubbish

My sister is 26 and she just started dating her first boyfriend.

At 30, I'm in the same boat here. No dates, no kisses (received or given), no "going out for coffee," no holding hands (praying doesn't count). Best I've done is have a couple crushes that I didn't act on until after they found boyfriends and by "acting on," I mean sending them obscure e-mails that I never got replies on. In the seven years since the last crush, they've both since been married and had kids. In addition, my two younger cousins have both been engaged and one of them married.

I'm 23 on Thursday. Replace female with male. There you go.

I have had offers but they've been unsuitable ones.

I'm 20, male, in the same situation as you. My real problem with that is: when (and if) I finally meet a woman who is willing to date me, will my lack of experience be a turnoff?

Same here.

And the more I grow older the harder it becomes. The more I grow, the more it's "too late".

I feel that I didn't experience more than 50% of the things that other adults usually experience them before they reach my age. Don't be fooled by the many flirts I get here, they really don't reflect my reality regarding the dating world.

Come over here and we can kiss all day :*