Is it a myth that better looking people are more arrogant?

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19 Aug 2012, 7:07 am

Or does it contain some truth?

Or do you find that people with seriously evil characteristics have ugly looks attached to them?

In general?

Have you met any gorgeous looking people that were friendly as hell to you?

I know this thread may contain some disdain towards pretty people, but I am seeking for answers on this subject and I personally don't make even a slight connection to "appearance" and "mentality" in general.



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19 Aug 2012, 7:11 am

I don't think physical appearance is a useful indicator of personality or temperament.

does it contain some truth?
yeah, there are probably some people who are both attractive and arrogant

Or do you find that people with seriously evil characteristics have ugly looks attached to them?
yeah, sometimes, there are probably people who are not conventionally attractive who also act badly

Have you met any gorgeous looking people that were friendly as hell to you?
yes, and some that weren't


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19 Aug 2012, 7:23 am

In my experience there is a lot of truth to that statement (the better looking a woman the more she is arrogant, a snob, etc) but on the other hand I have neighbour and co-worker who is single, divorced, has a 3 year old child and is one of the most beautiful women I have ever laid eyes on (a 10/10). Even female coworkers mention how gorgeous she is. I've only recently realized after talking with her one on one several times that she IS one of the nicest, most caring people I've ever met. Too bad she wasn't a few years younger because her son and I get along great (he shows all the Aspie symptoms).

She is probably one of the nicest people I have ever met in my life and I'm puzzled how she could be divorced and men wouldn't be lining up for her I've met her privately and she has never once said a bad word about anyone. So, while in general this may be the case that's why you can't make broad generalizations.



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19 Aug 2012, 7:23 am

Perhaps because they have to fend off so much unwanted attention?



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19 Aug 2012, 7:24 am

It depends on the person.



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19 Aug 2012, 7:36 am

Somewhat yes... if anything that's not the right way to think about people...
If they aren't nice and friendly to you, why bother noticing if they are good looking or not?
Doesn't matter how they look to understand what their behaviour and characteristics are like.


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19 Aug 2012, 11:29 am

Stalk wrote:
Perhaps because they have to fend off so much unwanted attention?


I really think this is the case, most of the time, especially with women, and sometimes with men. It can be a dangerous world for a really good-looking person who is too open and friendly.

Some bad-looking people are meaner because they are reflecting how other people treat them; some do it for other reasons.

OTOH, there are some people society would call bad-looking who appear good-looking through the force of their personalities. There are other people who are actually good-looking that you wouldn't think of that way because of their personalities.

You can't judge personality by looks; there are way too many other factors involved.



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19 Aug 2012, 5:40 pm

Although in saying this I am making a sweeping generalisation, the best looking girls and guys tend to be the most ignorant and arrogant. This is usually due to finding themselves at the top of the hierarchy in high school. This appears particularly prominent in girls who are 'early bloomers', who hit puberty early and are the first to develop a feminine figure. Good looking guys tend to be arrogant as they are used to getting what they want in regards to girls.

I have found though, that the good looking people whom are lovely tend to either have been late bloomers (hit puberty late) who thanks to being at the bottom of the hierarchy know what it is like to be on the receiving end of the bitchiness, or to have problems at home such as baby siblings or ill parents.


Although in my experience, a smashing personality makes an average girl look beautiful and a pretty girl look like miss world. It even makes a girl not so fortunate with her looks above average.



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19 Aug 2012, 6:00 pm

Look at me, I am getting more arrogant as I am getting hotter.



Not really, I was always arrogant lol.



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19 Aug 2012, 6:58 pm

Lol......wow, a very good question indeed! I've seen a lot of individuals that are very arrogant and they are ugly as poop (ugly poop that is lol) so I would think it all boils down to the person. The state of being arrogant is very annoying to me and it does not discriminate: ugly, beautiful, rich, poor, short, tall, black, white, red, green and purple


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19 Aug 2012, 8:16 pm

Yes, it's a myth.

I have met plenty of very attractive people who were perfectly decent and did not seem the least bit arrogant. I've also met some that we're quite definitely arrogant. I've also met enough unappealing people who were absurdly arrogant.

It is emotionally satisfying to believe that those who have physical advantages are, at heart, inferior people, but reality is more complex than that. It is arrogant to make sweeping generalizations about some sub-set of people. It is far better to assess them as individuals and treat them based only on their own actions and not your preconceived notions about some broad group.


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19 Aug 2012, 9:02 pm

jagatai wrote:
Yes, it's a myth.

I have met plenty of very attractive people who were perfectly decent and did not seem the least bit arrogant. I've also met some that we're quite definitely arrogant. I've also met enough unappealing people who were absurdly arrogant.

It is emotionally satisfying to believe that those who have physical advantages are, at heart, inferior people, but reality is more complex than that. It is arrogant to make sweeping generalizations about some sub-set of people. It is far better to assess them as individuals and treat them based only on their own actions and not your preconceived notions about some broad group.


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20 Aug 2012, 9:10 am

Myth.



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20 Aug 2012, 9:22 am

Well I don't really know I think it would kind of depend on what one considers 'better looking.' I mean I would say it seems people who follow most of the current fashions and like to be part of the crowd tend to look down on me and others who don't follow the crowd or whatever .......So if better looking refers to people who are all about what's in or whatever then I'd say yes it is more likely better looking people would be arrogant.

But if we are talking how they look physically rather then their fashion sense or style........Id say there is too much variation since there is not really a standard of what an attractive body is that everyone would agree with. So yeah I don't think one can tell how arrogant or non arrogant someone is based on that.


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20 Aug 2012, 9:44 am

i think that we experience what we expect. so if we approach others while thinking that _x_ group is more arrogant, we will definitely find that to be true. mostly because we will treat them differently because of our own bias and also because we will treat any other reaction as an 'exception' that doesn't undermine the underlying assumption - even if the exceptions pile up embarrassingly! yet even one single isolated example will confirm the 'rule'


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20 Aug 2012, 3:41 pm

Uprising wrote:
Or does it contain some truth?

Or do you find that people with seriously evil characteristics have ugly looks attached to them?

In general?

Have you met any gorgeous looking people that were friendly as hell to you?

I know this thread may contain some disdain towards pretty people, but I am seeking for answers on this subject and I personally don't make even a slight connection to "appearance" and "mentality" in general.


I have noticed, particularly in women, those women who are goodlooking, if they happen to be shy, they instantly get labelled as arrogant, elitest or snobs.
While I have met some women whose looks make things markedly easier and therefore they feel no need to develop other aspects of their lives, they are a minority.

I think much of the time, people sterotype you before you even get the chance to open your mouth, based on myths like the above and as a result a lot of incorrect assumptions are made, and people are never happy to part with those assumptions regardless of the evidence. They will cling to it as true, read into things that aren't there when you respond and act towards you on that basis anyway.


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