Getting Dumped For Someone Else

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You may remember my posts a couple months ago about how my boyfriend defriended me on Facebook and stopped talking to me. Well, I think I finally know why.

I looked on his Facebook early this morning and saw that he had updated his status earlier to say that he was in a relationship with someone. I strongly suspect he dumped me for this person, because that would explain why he gave me the cold shoulder and why his relationship status had remained intact since he dumped me.

Even though it's kind of painful to acknowledge that my ex-boyfriend is now with someone else, I feel like I finally have closure, and that I can move on more easily. I should also discount any hope of getting back in contact with him in the foreseeable future, though, because why would he want to talk to me when he has somebody else he's with?

So, that's that.

Sorry to hear that. That's a nasty thing for him to do.

I know it is a cliche, but you are better off without a person in your life who treats you & your feelings so shabbily.

I don't think he had the maturity to properly end things with you so your better off. I know it hurts but no one deserves that.

So in other words, he's an as*hole~
In other words than that, you deserve better~

Depends on the scenario and relationship.

I had to close someone out because I felt they didn't give me respect or the guts to tell me that I am not as good a friend as I presumed.

Its good to move on. The more distance you get, the better the perspective. Him just cold shouldering you is a little immature, but you get that with many.

I'm very sorry. Stories like these just break my heart. It is amazing how cruel we can be to one another. And what was your crime? Wanting some affection? Caring for someone who it seems didn't feel the same way? I wish that upon no one. I wish everyone could find someone, and each would be happy with. But sadly it is not the case. Some want and want and want, and when they've obtained what they want, they want more, or something else.

I've come to wonder if the cultures that practiced arranged marriage really were on to something there. It removes a lot of agony and angst, just to be fixed up with someone, and you're married, and love comes from the two joined people discovering each other and learning to grow together as people.

Normally astrologers are involved, and star given compatibility is a prime consideration.
Essentially your parents decide that leaving it up to you to make the right choice is stupid, and hire an expert on astrological qualities.

Many westerners ignore these olde lores, and often have painful breakups, that really take their toll on poor Kevin or Tracy. Looking back on my harmonious vrs non harmonious relationships.... astrology appears to be a valid method for compatibility, and hence arranged marriages, can actually be more harmonious.

But then these people usually dont drink or eat meat

I think it's nasty to stay with someone until you find someone else because you don't want to be alone. I think it's also a red flag when someone already has a girlfriend/boyfriend and they are already seeing you and going out with you. For one you don't know they could do the same to you if they are also not happy with the relationship with you and instead of talking about it and seeing if it can be worked out, they go out and start meeting other people to go out with and then dump you when they find someone better.

Descartes, I am so sorry to hear that you had to go through that.

When it come to relationships...it's just *so* hard. No matter who was right or wrong, when emotions and feelings are ignored, it just doesn't make it alright to know we did nothing infelicitous. It still hurts, it still takes time, and...when there is a third party involved in the break-up motive, we still wonder what is it they have, that we don't. I don't even think it's bad logic wanting to know. In my case, I like to know exactly what I did right and what I did wrong. That's just a learning curve for me. I really do like honesty.

But of course, sometimes people are shallow and they will tell you they just met a girl with bigger boobs, or more sociable, or whatever it is.

I think only time has the power to heal.

You need a hug ((((((((((((( ))))))))))))))))

Sorry to hear that bro you find another guy who appreciates you more and not use you like a disposable razor.

Just try to move one.

Yecch... I thought this would happen. I hoped for your sake it wouldn't. *sigh*

Tough break, dude... used for sex by a total jerk. It really sucks... don't know what else to say except the feeling will pass. I hope you find the good relationship you're looking for - not just quick sexy-time.

Thanks, everybody.

I know that I definitely would have been devastated by this news had I found out a couple months ago. It's a good thing I've had more time to move on before I found out the truth.

It's an awful feeling when the realization happens all at once.

I had a girlfriend of 9+ years "dump" me, but then continue living with me, using my stuff, eating my food, sleeping in the same bed. Said she was still my "best friend" too. She then started texting like 3 different guys all of the time, staying out late with my car. She'd lie to about visiting a friend named Jessica in the evenings - she was really just hanging around her new boyfriend(s?).

I had to leave that life behind me. I could not have continued to live there, I'd be haunted by that relationship.

I'm sorry to hear that, what a jerk.