here the reason aspie women can get dates

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after months and months of research. I finaly found out why aspie women can get dates at better odds than aspie men:
men are just more nicer to people with asperger. . women don't get us folks with asperger.
even many,many aspie women have no female nt friends or very,very few.

guys will become friends with an asperger man and date an asperger women.
women will not date an asperger man and won't become friends with an asperger women.

note: yes there are women that do date asperger men and are friends with asperger women. However
I would say a good percent of women aren't dating or being friends with aspie people

Most of my female friends are NT and they don't care that I'm an aspies.

I don't think a large percentage of women are unkind to or avoid aspies.

That's the biggest pile of crap I've heard all day. And I've browsed this site at least 3 times.

who else is picturing bill is a research lab exposing aspie men and women to experiments?

Haha you too?

I think it's just that society encourages men to seek superficial short-term relationships, and to be the ones to initiate contact. There are women like that as well, but it seems to be less common.

If you exclude the people looking for meaningless one-nighters, things are more evenly balanced I think.

Most (maybe all?) of my relationships have started with women approaching me. Although, I often seem to attract women who are excessively controlling -- I don't think it's just the controlling types who approach, but (for either gender) they may be more likely to take the initiative and more likely to look for someone quiet, so it's something to watch out for.

I've heard of this a couple of times from both aspie women and men.

But the only some of it is true

Men are not "nicer" to aspie's

In fact of one the reason's many people think that women have a harder time being diagnosed is because an aspie woman will often be "taken under the wing" of a NT woman.

Where as aspie men often don't have anyone to "show them the ropes" and because of this their symptoms will stand out more.

However it is this very thing that could contribute to why aspie men are not equal in the dating world(if that is the case cuz idk for sure).

It would have to do with women taking aspie's "under their wing", this action can place a guy into the friendzone and thus seen as undatable by that girl.

Note Men will do this too (to both women and other men) but most people will say too a lesser degree

i thought it was because quirky girls are HOT, and every guy, deep down, wants to date a hot weird girl.

Generalisations, generalisations galore.
I don't see how aspies are supposed to fight ignorance when many of use are so ignorant ourselves.

God I hate ignorance.

I think your meaning stereotyping. Mainly because if your saying making generalisations is ignorance then your saying that the basis of sociology, psychology, advertising, and any attempt to study/measure human behavior is ignorant.

well you got good friends there.

Being friends with other women. there is topic on that subject. just do some research and will find out alot women here on wp, do have a hard tine making female friends. not saying that nt women are bad people, most are not but it a fact that many,many (not all) aspie folks do have a hard time with women. in both dating and friendship. and of course there are aspie women with nt women friends, just like there are aspie male with nt girlfriends.


here the link:http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt145070.html
here another one:http://www.wrongplanet.net/postxf217680-0-45.html ( easier being friends with males than females)

Do keep in mind that when a thread pops up discussing a particular problem, it attracts people for whom that problem is personally relevant more than it does others -- so you don't really get a reliable idea of how common something is from it. I think there are a lot of factors affecting whether any given person has an easier time dealing with one gender than the other, and that a lot of those factors have to do with that person's views and experiences.

Although there were serious problems with my most recent relationship, I don't consider that situation to be typical. And as far as friendships go, I personally haven't found women any more difficult to form or keep friendships with than men (although being male, I can't speak for aspie women, of course).

My friends are all NT...women don't hate me and men don't seem to either!

agreed

On the other hand, anecdotal evidence and personal experience suggests that, for young aspie men, their closest friends (not romantically involved) are quite often female. There could be some of both going on. You're also conflating dating and friendship, which should not be conflated in this context (for example, some women who might be compassionate towards some guy's "weakness" and may even befriend him may not consider this person dating material while men who are intolerant and uncompassionate towards aspies may be willing to date an aspie girl just because she's hot).

And the "under the wing" thing has happened to me several times from other guys, and I am a guy. I know at least one asper girl who has only had guy friends her entire life.

In summary? The generlizations going on in this thread remind me of discredited 19th century anthropology... Whatever grand theory of things you or y'all think you have is likely to be full of holes and exceptions.