what type of dateless man are you?

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there seem to be three types of men, who rarely or never have a gf.
here are three types
1-shy/nervous guy: this guy can't even talk to women. He never approach women at all.
if he does approach a woman, he is so nervous that can't even think straight

2-creepy/weird/strange guy: this is a guy who can approach women but because of his autism
and his behavior. Many time women will think that he is weird. a creep. so pretty much scares women away

3-pseudo alpha male/no gamer/nice guy/best friend guy: these are the guy that can actual approach women
and are able to talk to women without looking like a blabbering idiot or creepy. however they can never
get women to date them. They are always getting quasi girlfriends (friendzone), can easily get female friends.
basically these guys can talk to women but they have no ''game''

I am a 3 (the pseudo alpha male type)

4-the already-married guy: this guy does not "date", per se, unless he is cheating on his wife.
if he does approach another woman, his wife is sure to find out, and then all hell will ensue.

2 and 3, plus number 5: the not-so-handsome guy.

he has a point there.

so you have no game and getting friend zoned?

I thought you were getting blow outs.

Do you scatterbomb or have "one" in mind?

combination of 1 & 2

I'm something between 1 and 3.

About half my friends are in fact female, and talking to women is often easier to me than talking to men.
But I never "approach" them any further, and I don't think that I can "easily" get female friends.

I'm avoidant so the shy/scared to death type.

Number 1. Totally.
Perhaps a Number 2 with a couple of drinks inside me,

evolved from 1 and 3.

None of the above?

In the past, the closest would have been number 1, but it didn't stop me from finding girlfriends because they'd approach me and things would sometimes go well from there. I wouldn't approach or start conversations, but when someone else starts one with me I do alright as long as they lead the conversation somewhat. (And it's been #4 on and off as well)

Currently it's more like:

6. Guy who's had some bad relationships and is now so cautious about who he'll date that he doesn't try to anymore, and usually keeps a distance or plays dumb when someone seems interested.

I am very much number 6 as well, but replace "bad relationships" with "rejection."

I'm like 30% 1) and like 55% 3) and about 15% 6)

I do have a slight issue with this though. For me, its not really about having no "game", because I don't really believe in that. Its more like some girls just don't appreciate a nice guy when they meet one. What I mean by this is, most girls (NT, but I don't know EVERY girl in the world) say they don't want a guy who's just trying to get into their pants (blah blah blah), but in actuality this is EXACTLY what they want, whether they choose to admit it or not. That's my issue and at my age its a pretty common one.

Those are pretty common types of dateless guys though.

On the reverse side, I can get "dates" I guess, but I'm not interested in dates that don't lead anywhere. I'm looking for successful relationships, not how many "dates" I can get or how many women I can sleep with. That's just me though.

Part #1, part #3, part ?????

1 and 3. got no problem talking with women for non personal things, usually end up having more female friends than male ones, etc. But i have trouble talking with them for personal things

2 and 3 here, represent!