Dealbreakers for women?

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So, as a woman, reading posts on here, I'm surprised to find out that women don't like short, ugly, skinny, fat men with no money or power. Strangely, my track record seems to contain various men who could fit into those categories. So I got to thinking, what actually are women's dealbreakers?

For me, they are:
- bad breath/body odour
- beards/moustaches (not goatees or stubble - I like them!)
- 'squirrel' shoulders - really hairy clumps of fur at the top of the back
- spitefulness
- arrogance
- obesity (where the legs are joined all the way down when feet are apart)
- anyone who likes inflicting pain on others
- oh & anyone who looks like my brother or father

Obviously, if I really liked someone then we could work on the bad breath/body odour/excess hair/obesity, so there's not a lot there that's fixed in stone other than being a nasty person or looking like a family member. Anyone else got any total dealbreakers that they want to share?

Dealbreakers for me:
- no ambition or greater goals in life
- does illegal drugs
- bad hygeine
- severely overweight
- irresponsible, especially with money
- unintelligent , and herd-minded
- is into gossip, drama, or other high school BS
- is severely religious or has no morals, either extreme
- too shy, unassertive, no passion

Mine:
-sexaddicts or any unhealthy addiction

-Bad odor(would be hard to get over)

-Someone who enjoys to put down people

-Not taking care of their health at least enough to feel good and do things

-Superficial guy who dates women for looks is a no

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All of the above plus visibly missing teeth, weird voice, hateful speech towards different ethnicities/religious groups, excessive piety or impiety (no holy-rollers or satanists, please). Also, no one who is uninterested in learning and culture. It doesn't matter if he's a dropout or a multiple Ph. D. , as long as he really does take an interest in new things.

I'm a gay guy, so I guess I could contribute something of value to this thread.. but I only feel compelled to post and say that it seems pretty obvious to me that personal hygiene/body odour issues should just be sort of a given. It's a bit surprising that there would be guys out there who just don't get that & have to be told to bathe and maintain themselves.

Mind you, I have read that some ASD types literally don't get this and have to be instructed on it. I guess since I do, it's hard to comprehend someone not getting it.

Heck, it's why in terms of organizational behaviour that things that are just a "given," in the workplace are referred to as "hygiene factors." Ie heat, lights, electricity etc in the work place aren't motivators for people to do their jobs better, they're "hygiene factors," that are simply bare minimums that are expected to be in place.. like personal hygiene.

This is a good thread, though, as I think of the criteria I have in others it reminds me of things I can improve in myself that may be unattractive to others, or even deal breakers. Bit by bit, slowly but surely.

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Cruelty to animals and children
Cruelty in general
Bad hygiene
No manners
Drug dealers
Drug addicts
Shorter than me
Bisexual men
Unintelligent
Cheaters

Physically or mentally abusive
Cruel to animals or people
Throws litter out on the road or pours chemicals down the storm drain
Lying,cheating,stealing
Use of meth or hard drugs or a raging alky(I'm cool with drinking,within reason)Excessive gambling
Really bad hygiene and morbidly obese(I don't mean someone who is disheveled,I hate ironing or has a few extra pounds)
Religious fanatic,prejudiced,homophobic,narrow minded
if they don't like sex

People who use the following terms of endearment:-

Babe
Hun

Dealbreakers (and some things I just can't handle):

Any kind of abusive
Manipulative/ liar
Constant badgering for sex
Bossy/ pushy/ over-assertive/ overly "macho" personality
Drug/alcohol/tobacco addict
Impatient with me
Tries to change me
Very religious
Very politically conservative
Is a hunter
Hates dogs
Doesn't like cuddling

- obese
- bad teeth
- too dependent on other women (chats behind back)
- not an independent female
- chav or bimbo stereotype (aka the model Jordan)
- superficial / obsessed with beauty products
- very critical of other women (esp. looks)
- fake boobs/implants/tanning
- not willing to work or provide
- drug addiction

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Ok, mine:

- Too many insecurities
- Self loathing
- Egos, narcissism or arrogance
- Severe lack of assertiveness
- Manchildren
- Preoccupation with sex, fetishises or sexualises everything, places too much emphasis on sex in a relationship
- Antisocial conduct (crime, harming others etc)
- Polygamous
- Ultra conservative views
- Guys who show off their tatts/muscles/car/bike in their profile
- Extroverts
- Drug use
- Drinks heavily (that is to say they must drink no more than me each day)

I can't think of the words for others. I know them when I see them.

MUMMYS BOYS.

Oh god. Please, to EVERYONE, male or female, if you are in a relationship with someone you are EXCULSIVE with them, and not exclusive with them and your Mother! Cut the freaking apron strings, and DON'T expect me to be your new mother either! You're supposed to be an adult, ACT LIKE IT.

Too skinny
Afraid of everything
Won't stand up for himself
No work ethic
Closed minded
Believes women should obey men
Obsessed with sports
Too "hippie" type
Small penis
Doesn't like variety or adventure in the bedroom
Can't hold his liquor
Drinks too much
Thinks everything is immoral or thinks nothing is immoral
Talks about religion often
Tries to tell me what to do
A clean freak or too much of a slob (neither an Oscar nor a Felix)
Puts me down at the bottom of his list of whats important

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