guys: are you real or fake around women

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billiscool
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21 Apr 2013, 9:58 pm

so you guys when you around women do you act the same or do you change your personality, and trying acting more ''normal''
for me, I just act the same I do around women as I do with guys.

Im just my real stuff, I don't try to be ''normal'' or ''NT'' with women. or with anyone.



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21 Apr 2013, 10:41 pm

I am pretty real with ladies. I like to think I am not that weird, and even if I am, one thing I noticed is that everyone is a little weird. It just feels like a con job to wait till about 2-3 months to reveal it all. So, I am as real as manorexia, as serious as mutilation and as common as teen pregnancy. Cross me and I will be as malevolent as each.



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21 Apr 2013, 10:53 pm

I never talked to one long enough. not one i thought was hot or anything.



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21 Apr 2013, 11:01 pm

I'm myself around everybody - I "keep it real".



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21 Apr 2013, 11:10 pm

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fake. i pretend to be an umbrella around women.



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21 Apr 2013, 11:10 pm

I throw up the facade with 100% effort for as long as I can stand, but once I actually get comfortable talking to them, I slowly revert back to myself. It's a lot of work, but I think first impressions are important, so as long as I can gain some initial, mutual comfort, I feel like I've got a better chance. I have a ton of respect for those of you who aren't afraid to be yourself and often wish I was as comfortable with my quirks, so major kudos.


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21 Apr 2013, 11:14 pm

About as real as I am around men. Which isn't much



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21 Apr 2013, 11:19 pm

I'm me - no pretending, no games, no manipulation, no lies... just straight up, me.

And I'm a pretty goofy easy-to-get-along with guy. ;)
The only ones that have a problem with that are the ones who want me to conform to their thoughts/mannerisms/etc. I won't. For the most part, I'm not going to change for anyone.



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21 Apr 2013, 11:29 pm

I act the same around both men and women. That said, it does take me a really long time to be comfortable enough to really act like myself around someone.



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21 Apr 2013, 11:58 pm

Very fake, if i was real with a woman I would scare them away.



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22 Apr 2013, 12:26 am

b9 wrote:
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guys: are you real or fake around women


fake. i pretend to be an umbrella around women.


:lol: You'll have it made one rainy day..



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22 Apr 2013, 12:32 am

Fake, but I have decided to change this.



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22 Apr 2013, 2:43 am

Real but I choose to disclose things very gradually (same for guys), that if the girl didn't ask too many questions to reveal all those matters (which I answer them honestly).



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22 Apr 2013, 3:22 am

I'm not fake at all. I don't worry too much about them not liking me so the days of scripting or belting out an automated response are long gone. When it comes to girls I don't know, I say very little around them mind if they aren't part of a group I'm supposed to be talking to.



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22 Apr 2013, 6:10 am

I keep my mouth shut when I'm around strangers.


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22 Apr 2013, 6:16 am

I prefer to be infallibly flawed all the time, no matter who I'm around. I'm me, I'm real, I'm not a character.