How to get a boyfriend?

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I want a boyfriend how do I get a boyfriend?

(Thread moved from Autism discussion to L&D)

What would your ideal boyfriend be like?

If people know what kind of guy you are attracted to it will help with advice.

You need to put yourself in situations to meet people. As a woman, you do have the advantage that society expects men to approach you.

Are you not encountering this?

Is your hygene good?

How do you dress?

Where do you go in public?

What kind of guys do you like?

What are your hobbies?

^ All good points.

I will add that if you want boys to be interested in you, then you should first be interesting to boys. At your age, though, the kind of things that boys are interested in tend to involve "proving their manhood". This means that they are likely to be interested in any girl who doesn't mind having a reputation for being "easy".

Don't go there!

Instead, try to cultivate a talent for the arts - literary, musical, performance, or visual. Try also to cultivate your mind - learn a technical skill (electronics, mechanics, et cetera). Work on your appearance (I don't know what you look like, btw) - a healthy complexion, clean hair and clothing, and a healthy figure will catch a boy's attention. This does not mean that you need to look like a cocaine-addicted fashion model or one of the Kardashian sisters. It means that sickliness and obesity are two extremes to avoid.

Cultivate your attitude (again, I don't know you) - be cheerful, outgoing, friendly, and nice. That last one is important. Avoid gossip and angry speech. Avoid "suggestive" banter, too. Focus on the good in people, and don't complain needlessly.

Hold your head up, smile, make eye contact, and treat the boy you are talking to as if he were the only boy in the room - don't be distracted, but treat everybody well. Stand up for those being bullied (even if you don't like them, either). Be generous, but don't let them take advantage of you.

I could go on, but this should do for starters.

I assume the same tactical moves would work on men that we use on women so here you are:

-Introduce yourself
-(Optional) Club over head
-Find a common interest
-Flirt
-When you think you know if they like you ask them out
-(If they say no) Club over head

Most boys/men are hopeless, just show some interest and you will get tons and tons. The hard part will be to pick out the right one. Since I am not a girl it's very hard for me to give you any advice at all

Stay away from agressive boys/men, but I guess you already knew that Unless you into them, which I highly doubt hehe.

Where do you go to meet people?

It's even harder when you're gay... I've been trying to figure it out for several months now. I guess I just need to get out more and do new things. Problem is, last time I did that I met a guy that I really liked and was pretty sure was gay but who turned out to be in an open relationship. In short, the supposedly nice guy turned out to live a lifestyle which I view as totally wrong--not immoral, just wrong. That threw me off (it still bothers me) and I haven't wanted to take many risks since then. I keep thinking I should just go to a nearby coffee-house which is listed as online as being a hot-spot for gay guys.

being in a relationship is not worth the hassle i couldn't imagine having to answer to someone.

Don't be picky