Kazuki wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
Confidence. I'm not attracted to confidence, and if there's more than an average amount then it is usually a turn-off.
I think your definition of confidence is somewhat misguided, confidence is our ability to trust ourselves and our ability to do something, misconceptions seem to have misguided your view and perspective of what it truly is.
Yes, I was going to call it "outward confidence" or "obvious confidence" or something like that but I couldn't think of the right word. What I was basically referring to is guides on how to attract a partner that tell you to "be confident". That's not a quality that has any positive effect on me, in fact if someone really gives me the impression that they are confident when chatting me up, it may turn me off. I would rather they appear nervous or at least a little uncertain of their ability to woo me. Because that's how I feel/appear when I like someone, so I guess I want to feel a rapport with them.