The lone wolf

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I am single most of the time 'cause I don't ask someone out. The reason why I don't ask someone out or don't talk a lot is that I am socially anxious. All this time recently, I have been acting like a recluse being on the computer all the time. Adding to that, on Facebook I rarely talk to anyone. Same for the outside world, I get really uncomfortable around people. I feel kinda anxious to ask a girl out or talk to anyone. That's why I am tucked away in my room with my computer by myself. I mean like if someone wants to talk to me then I can be quite social in a good way. I almost forgot. Whenever I see a couple kiss, cuddle, or show their pics hugging each other, I feel like slitting my wrists or my cheek because I am just worthless.

I do the same thing mostly-I hate going out to the mall or bookstore by myself because I see people there with other people and feel like an inadequate human being so I get fed up and leave and go home and sit in my room alone-I am not wanted by anyone out there.

I feel like that I belong to one race, the Aspian Race....

For this very same reason, I avoid fairs and things like Bumbershoot and other festivals. Just seeing other people with their loved ones pains me so. On weekends, when everyone is out at the movies, the malls or amusement areas, I'm at hope climbing the walls. Well, not climbing the walls, but...

Not only that I dwell alone, I also call my friends on the phone rarely.

I feel for you, sweetie. For some, being single means freedom, others find that being single makes them feel lonely and out of place. Trust me, I'm scared of asking guys out myself. I will admit that I don't have as much of a problematic social life as you (please take no offense to it).

I don't like seeing couples being happy either. Well, I mean, I like that they're happy (or so I assume, that is) but knowing that I myself am single, it bothers me very much. I can't even keep myself from looking away most of the time when my brother and his wife kiss, that's how much it bothers me. And yes, you do belong here, because everybody is able to sympathize. If you ever want to talk to me about anything, feel free to talk to me. I enjoy meeting new aspies here.

Thanks Lover of dragons. Anybody else on this site has another advice or encouragement?

I hear you OP. I'm actually fine alone, I can be alone for a very long time without ever being lonely, but when I do go out and see happy couples or people who look like they're about to hook up, it stings.

If I could give any advice it would be to stay off facebook as much as possible. Don't underestimate just how depressing that site can be, for people like us in particular.

Capisce. Facebook is also uneventful. Should I get on this site more often instead of facebook?

Indeed you must. This site does a better job of influencing us all and the level of drama is not as intense. Unlike the likes of Facebook, there is plenty of empathy for us all to share. Everybody is much friendlier to each other on this site. So please, ditch I recommend you ditch Facebook to avoid bad influence and such.
And remember hon, you're welcome to talk to me and any others you feel comfortable talking to. We've for your back, hon

Once again thanks. I got your back too.

Awesome

yeah even when I leave the house I still end up doing everything alone and never making any new friends

Well hon, you've got yourself a new friend in me

I'm pretty much used to my own company after nearly a decade living on my own with not much in the way of a social life.

However I don't think I've ever felt so acutely alone as one New Year about five or six years ago when the clock struck midnight. People turned to their partners and kissed and in that moment I suddenly realised I was the only one there on my own.

This New Year I'm going to see if I can get away with spending it by myself.

How do you suppose you'd do that, hon? Do you plan on contacting any female friends to hang out with or do you plan on meeting someone through this site? If you're one who likes to be in close distance relationships, you should check with women to see if they live in the same or similar location you live.