A lady likes me is older than me

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Hey all. I wanted to share you that there is a lady who is 13 years older than me likes me and want to have a future. I am 25 and she is 38. We share similar values and goals. We are very like-minded and passionate people. She told me she wanted a kid before she turn 40. I understand women are like that when they turn 30.

Though not sure if age gap is a problem? I don't know how to do this but I wouldn't like to miss an opportunity that I wanted to do. And other thing that slightly bothers me she has done casual dates and that kind of stuff before. Not sure its right because of things you know?

Could you give some context for this? Like, how long you've known each other, how you came to know each other, are you actually a couple now or is 'I like you and want a kid in the next few years, are you up for that?' her pick up line when coming on to you?

I don't think a 13 year age gap need be a problem, but if you're not ready to have kids and she wants them asap, that could (indeed, should) be an issue.

What is it that bothers you about the casual dates?

Yeah....if you don't want kids, she's probably not for you.

I liked older women when I was your age.

I should clarify. We met through Meetup.com events. We are like-minded where we share common interests like human rights, environment/climate change and so on etc. We met in person few times and that. We had a hang out on other day at a cafe and then she messaged me after including a good luck to my job interview that she showed interest because she kept complimenting me like how mature I am, how committed and career driven and so that. I totally agreed what are the attractive qualities of what women like in a guy. Someone mentioned it on WP few months ago when I was trying to figure things out.

It not about being ready or not. I think it something to do with opportunities and boundaries. I would want to have a family soon too. Though I believe she aware what situation I am currently such as finding a career, traveling and being a politician candidate.

For casual dating experiences, I am not sure. I am a little furious and curious how it happens because I never had it before despite many people do it.

older women rock [often literally ]

I'd say do it. Just make sure you get your career and education taken care of first. Once you start a family it will be very hard to do it. Otherwise, one of my Aspie friends is much younger than me and he is very mature - he acts like a 50 yr old and I act like a 22 yr old. Go figure. I really don't feel or act like my age. I'd probably make a great cougar.

Slow down there pup!
Get to know someone thoroughly before you have a child with them.
A child, above all else, is FOREVER.

So I asked her out on a date and then she said yes. She responded in like "yes I would love to, it such a pleasure to ask me that".

So I guess I am wrong after all.

Just fast-forward five years from now when her whole family is suing you for child support you don't have.

Suing me about child support basing on what? We are both protected citizens of Australia. One day I want to be a father, and that what I who I will be. I will be a father to a kid. I think you need to stop making negative assumptions about me.

About me being wrong, I thought she would reject me and then nope, hence I was wrong.