real vs. fantasy.

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i have had real relationships.
great and all.
but none have compared to the ones i have in my head.
meaning i have spent so much time thinking about a person or imagining scenarios that i could be happy with my imagination.
is that crazy?

No, seems to be fairly for Aspies. We tend to find that what's going on in our heads is more interesting than the outside world. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing, as long as one keeps his/her grasp on reality.

My real ones have been better.

It's not crazy, but it means that reality will leave you disappointed. Fantasy relationships are perfect and if you get too comfortable in them, real ones become much become much harder. You gain unrealistic and sometimes unhealthy expectations. Best to keep it in the real world - save your mind for thinking of ways to improve them and better yourself.

I've read that this is pretty common too. And I do this a lot - espeically as a child. In fact I find that I feel better in terms of my Depression and Anxiety when I allow time to 'escape' into my own world.

This is probably partly (along with communication difficulties and lack of spontaneous social interaction etc.) why people on the spectrum are 'stereotyped' as being in 'thier own world'.

I don't think it is harmful as long as you know what is real and what is not, and as long as you don't let it cut you off from the world completely.

I find it keeps me sane.

well i'm glad you guys feel the same way.
i'd hate for something to be wrong with me!

I have this too with a specific girl.
I have to force myself not to do it as it's seriously bad for me..
It gives me false hopes and leaves me behind with nothing but a hope, a dream and a blow to the head as in *WAKE UP, THIS ISN'T HAPPENING*.

If i were you, i'd concentrate on the reallife part more.
But that's just me.

Eh, I'd rather stick with my fantasies if I couldn't get the real life relationship I want. I find my imagination's much more interesting and satisfying than what real life has to offer.

everything in my head is so much better then real life...
I'm happy in my mind not in real life

I think love is a kind of delirium: the loved person exists only in the mind of the lover...
well... young people doesn't knows about this...

To the OP:
No you are not crazy.
Stick with your imagination and be as delirious as possible.
I too have an overactive imagination with several different girls at my HS.