I need your help because I'm not good at the female languag.

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Hi all, I have a question for you.
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I was running into a group of three girls one day and saw them getting onto an elevator.
I was going to get on as well and realized I didn't take a shower that day, so I waited for them to go, then I took another elevator to eventually bump into them on the same floor.
I was going to get a sheet of paper and as I walked by them, one of them abruptly said 'stupidly high'.
At first, I didn't understand what she meant. It could mean either that she took me as stuck up or that the price of something that she was looking at actually was, or that I'm quite tall (around 5'10).

I'm asking for your help because I'm self-conscious and I find on the internet that female would do that to attract the attention of male, specifically that of male that they seem to like a lot.
Now that I think back, I'm still very confused what she likely implied with what she said.
I sensed their looking at me as I walked by them when I was leaving the place.

Is it just a small conversation they were having or would she be likely interested in me? What do you think?

Is it possible they were talking amongst themselves?

I think you're reading into it too much, sounds like you walked by and caught a bit of their conversation probalby was about pricing or maybe she was high both of those would make sense for that phrase. I have never seen someone say 'stupidly high' to mean tall or stuck up. Also if they looked at you they probably just noticed they saw you before getting on the elevator so may have recognized having previously seen you...I don't get the impression they were really even paying much attention to you in general so probably not particularly interested.

You are in Japan? Do you expect good answers from the socially awkward westerners? I have had an interest in Japan for decades, so I can see a huge number of pitfalls for me if I even tried to answer.

First, smelliness works on a different level of perception in Japan and the US, as far as I know. Also, women disliking smelly things seems like a special feminine value in Japanese popular culture, whatever that implies.

Second, and only the last on the list I'll make explicit here, translation and context mean everything.

That said, it sounds like gentle teasing to me. Make sure you smell extra nice and make an effort to take the elevator again with them soon.

Cool. It did seem like they wanted to catch your attention. I prefer to think of people as having nicer motives, as a rule. It's also good to hear that enough cultural situations translate well.

Maybe you can use scent to communicate, somehow?

Maybe they were talking about themselves and being "stupidly high"? They saw you looking in their direction and worried you had overheard their conversation?

I don't think she meant anything by it. 5'10" isn't that tall, and women don't usually go out of their way to catch the attention of male strangers.