Do you think you will be alone for life?

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I know I am going to be. I just don't have it in me to date or seek relationships. I'm not assexual, but I just wouldn't know how to go about finding someone. I don't have my life together at the moment. I still have many issues. I don't feel anything like my age. I still feel like a child. I feel that I don't have the maturity to date or have sex. I would be really frightened to have sex if I was given the opportunity. I feel like I will never be mature or feel like an actual adult. I do like my freedom and my privacy, so I don't think I could date or be in a romantic relationship. I don't ever want to marry or have kids. It would be nice to have a friend or someone to do something with once in awhile and then go back and relax. I'm not a people person and if I were to ever marry, I feel like I would never get my alone time. I don't think dating would be that much different. I need my alone time away from people. This is why I feel like I will be a alone for the rest of my life. I don't even have that many friends or people that I talk to. I don't think anyone could put up with me or my ways. I'm not a social person.

Duuuuuude.... You sound just like me... We're both in the same position.

"I know I am going to be." Maybe you'll be forever alone, or maybe you won't. It all depends on you. Learn from your mistakes in order to better yourself. You see, the more experience you have talking to females, the closer you'll get to your goal of getting an actual girlfriend.

"I just don't have it in me to date or seek relationships." Bro, of course you do. Or else you would've accepted being single for life, and wouldn't have posted this. You're determined to get a girlfriend.

"I just wouldn't know how to go about finding someone." Your best bet is either online dating or spitting game on co-workers.

"I don't have my life together at the moment. I still have many issues. I don't feel anything like my age. I still feel like a child." Same. Even though we're legally adults, you're not an adult until you start living like one. You're not a legit grown-up until you have your own car, your own home, your own bills, and especially a spouse and kids. Adulthood isn't just an age, but a way of life.

"I feel that I don't have the maturity to date or have sex." Everybody's gotta start somewhere. "I would be really frightened to have sex if I was given the opportunity." What is there to be frightened of? I'm a virgin too, but I'd be thrilled to have sex with the one I love. Think of all the hot, kinky stuff you could do with her that you've seen in porn. And best of all, you're the only one that gets to see her with her clothes off. Just think of all the sexy, crazy things she could do to you... ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) "I feel like I will never be mature or feel like an actual adult." That's one of the traits of Asperger's Syndrome.

"I do like my freedom and my privacy, so I don't think I could date or be in a romantic relationship." In a relationship, you're not gonna be stuck like glue 24/7. If you like your alone time, then you can convey this to your partner, hypothetically speaking.

"I don't ever want to marry or have kids." You might change your mind when/if you fall madly in love the right woman. "I don't think anyone could put up with me or my ways. I'm not a social person." I'm living proof that aspies can get a girlfriend. I had one in my freshman year of HS. Getting a gf may be difficult, but it can be done through trial and error. All you need is a method.

Here's what worked for me with online dating: Just recently, I was on a dating site called OkCupid.com, and I sent a couple of girls this message: "Hey beautiful my number is _" and it actually worked. I exchanged numbers with both of the girls, then we ended up texting, exchanging locations, and setting up a date. (Unfortunately, the weather was really bad for a couple weeks or so, and as a result, I didn't call back one of the girls until the weather got better. By then, I had kept her waiting too long and I pretty much blew my chance with girl #1. Girl #2 however was a success and we plan on meeting eachother.)

But anyway, like I said, the more experience you have talking to females, the closer you'll be to getting a girlfriend. Trial and error. You also have to earn their trust, and prove your worth.

It's a cold world out there. Good luck.

We have goals and we're NOT gonna give up.

I keep hurting the people I love

Not alone entirely because having friends is important to me. I'm not into relationships. If I date I won't have all of the freedom I have now. My freedom is something I enjoy.

I hope that I'm not alone for life, but I have this aching fear that I will be. And not just alone without a girlfriend or wife, but also alone without any close friends.

I am almost 26 and have never had a girlfriend but am optimistic that I will when the time is right as I am still young, I have many redeeming qualities despite being on the spectrum, and there are plenty of like-minded people out there.

Absolutely not.

I'm 27 (soon to be 28), and while I practically have had no long-term "boyfriends," no dating experience, or any hope of having a loving relationship with a man, I believe I'll be okay. My mom keeps telling me not to "project the future": she reminded me that I have a caring family and good friends to support me. It's more about the quality of your life and your happiness, than the fact of whether or not you'll ever find a partner. Don't get me wrong: I'm really anxious to find that special someone, but until then I'll just keep living life and become the best me possible till I bump into him one day.

Most likely. That's OK i guess, as i can't really miss something i never had.

I know I'm going to be alone forever I don't see the point of being in a relationship when every woman I try to talk to just looks at me and runs heck I don't talk much because forum boards like this stop getting messages when I send a reply

Maybe, I don't know, I hope not. I limit myself far too much and I know I have to make changes in my life, it's tough doing it all on your own and it's tough to motivate yourself to do this on your own with just the hope that it might someday lead to a loving relationship. I don't really have friends anymore, I've always bonded much better 1 on 1 when I did have friends and as a dude in my mid-20s it's not any easier finding friends even of the same sex honestly which I'm not even really that interested in. I just wish I could get my s**t together and that I could live a normal life and that someone would accept me.

Maybe it's just me but friends and having people around just slow me down and I have no time for them friends don't want me so f**k em I don't need or want them Its been just me since I was 13 I didn't need people then and I don't need them now

I myself just turned 34. I don't think I'll be alone for life, but it sure feels that way most times.

Don't think like that! Having friends is a good thing! Even for people like us who have a lot of trouble making friends and who don't have very many friends. True friendship is a mutual relationship. We want to be there for our friends as much as we want them to be there for us. I'm trying to get more friends, including this one new friend who I really like but with whom I have been having a problem with. Even though I don't know him very well and my Asperger's-related behavior has scared him off, I still want and even need his friendship. And I think that he may want and need my friendship too, even though he would be too scared to admit it.

Yes.

That's the other thing people like us live in constant fear of everything well not me I like being alone dealing with people just makes me mad so I'm alone and that's the way it's gonna stay