Stuff NOT related to sex...oh my, this is tough...
I got nuthin besides the same old stuff I always say. It’s more like the opposite of what usually say...
Normally I tell guys if you want to be attractive to women, get them talking and never let them stop. Get them started on things they like and are passionate about send her on rabbit chases directly related to that topic. It’s a conversational tactic that makes men look like conversational geniuses when all he’s really communicating is that he’s interested in her and trying to make her feel important. Similarly, compliments and mild (well-intentioned and appropriately timed) flattery go a looooong way towards that end. You can turn most any anti-social, introverted girl into a regular chatterbox that way, and it’s much fun doing this to complete strangers.
So now I’m having to think in the opposite direction...hmmmm....
I want to know a girl is really into me and what I have to say. I find romantic relationships utterly fascinating, and WP is a fusion of the worst of both worlds—the ordinary struggles of dating coupled with the unique challenges of autism. I could talk about relationships all day long. Some authors I enjoy are Stephen Covey, Dale Carnegie, Sun Tzu, Dave Ramsey, Jon Acuff, just to name a few. 48 Laws of Power is a great read. The Bible is the absolute best.
I’m barely a hack with philosophy, but I enjoy it. Religion, always good, and I enjoy Christian apologetics. I define myself more by the gospels, but I never get enough of the Old Testament. I’m weak on the Talmud, but it’s on my to-do list. I do keep up with politics, but that ranks right behind being a philosophy hack. The stuff that p¡$$3$ off everyone else is the stuff I seem to enjoy most. Wind me up with that and I’ll never stop.
I’ve recently taken up distance running. Just finished my first half-marathon on Saturday and will sign up for another soon. Will eventually work up to a marathon and ultimately triathlons. I don’t see myself ever doing the Ironman, but it’s not 100% out. That one is low on my bucket list.
But my REAL passion is music. I play several musical instruments, and my first true love is my clarinet. 1st gen LeBlanc Opus blinged out with a Pyne mouthpiece, Bonade ligature, and Vandoren V12 #4 reeds. I keep it simple! Got it when LeBlanc was at the top of their game before the bottom dropped out and they went to crap again. Now I’m trying to decide if I really want to save $10k for a Backun or if I’d rather make the switch to hard rubber and go Ridenour for 1/10 the price. Ridenour designed the Opus for LeBlanc, so I’m thinking a rubber clarinet pitched in A might be what I need right now and still have a clarinet that feels like what I’m accustomed to.
Yes, I’m a clarinet nerd!
But piano makes me a little side money. I have a Korg SV-1 88 that is my pride and joy for gigs, though I wouldn’t turn away a Nord Electro if you gave it to me.
I’m also into electronic music. Recently began learning PD and hope one day to graduate up to Max/MSP and hopefully even KYMA. I already have Reaktor, but for the moment I’m finding PD more convenient (easier on the CPU, less crashy). I have a master’s degree in composition, much of which was spent in electronic music. May go for a doctorate one day, who knows?
Anyway... that’s a quick summary of what I’m into and won’t shut up about. There’s not really single, easy, universal answer to your topic. But overall, people like showing off and talking about themselves. So, BE impressed with whatever it is he’s into and build him up over it. I really think if you want to push his “manly” meter to 11 for that extra testosterone punch, that’s the way to go.