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I hope everyone is having a nice day .

I want to get another perspective.
I don't have the best self-esteem and haven't been on a date in many years.

I'm debating on creating a dating profile ... thing.

But I cannot shake whether it would be a good idea for me.

Creating a dating profile should not be harmfull unless you go about it in the wrong way. Like if you think you might get obsessed with the site/app or take rejection or lack of interest personally. Otherwise if your carefull & not dishonest like catfishing you should be OK. The worst would be going on some bad dates or not getting any dates & the best would be getting a serious long term relationship.

It can be worth it if you're willing to put in the time and effort. It may take months of gradually improving your pictures every week until you start seeing matches.

(So if you spend a few weeks on apps and don't get many matches, don't get discouraged. It just means you need to learn what you're doing wrong with your pictures and take better ones)

As a guy, you need great pictures to get matches. This means you need to take hundreds of pictures to find a few good photos. Read up and watch videos about portrait photography. Make sure the lighting is balanced, you're shooting pics at interesting locations (not just your home, etc).

Get feedback on your pictures from people who are either good at photography, or are guys they get a lot of matches on apps.

You may also need to swipe an hour a day on apps. It is a numbers games. It's normal for 90% of people to reject you but if you message thousands of people (with a good profile) you'll go on lots of dates.

Yes, this is a lot of work, but if the payoff is 100% worth it once you meet someone special.

I agree with what everyone above says!

I found some articles with tips on creating a great dating profile. I hope the lovely advice from the lovely people above help, along with these articles:

Grammarly Dating Profile Advice

13 Tips From Well and Good

If you have good pictures of you, then yes. If you don't, then no.

One of my coworkers told me he got a lot more dates online after he changed his occupation from janitor to custodial engineer. He was doing floor care at WalMart when he thought to make that change in terminology. He was an overweight metalhead with mussel underneath who looked like a lot like a character from the show Metalocalypse. I kinda think what is mentioned in your profile could matter just as much as pix do if you don't look like a male model. Just post a few good recent pix of yourself then focus on other aspects of your profile. Do NOT lie but naybe explain things differently or say different things about your interests.

Honestly I would be curious to learn what the hell custodial engineer is all about.

Hmm we should make a helpful list to make certain professions sound sexier:

- Cleaner => Hygiene Manager
- Window cleaner => Window wash technician
- Store night guard => Batman

I like the original terms better. They sound way more manly.

She likes a man who can lay pipe, a plumr. (one who does plumming, with plums)

He probably emphasised the machines we used, stripping & wxing projects, & that he was a backup supervisor.

Healthy
Fit
Active
Blue Collar man
Economically Independent
Debt Free
Living on my own.

If you can say all that, that's all you should say. And that you would be happy to meet like minded women.

You can only make it more difficult for yourself by saying any more.

Depends. If you never dated before and will hump anything maybe that's the way to go.

If you're ready to settle down, you should spell out your desires for the future, kid(s), etc. Will save a lot of hurt later.

Good point. Plus plenty of women wanting more serious relationships do care about a guy's personality probably more than his looks.

If you have never dated before you will likely have little luck in online dating.

I think in that case luck and online dating don't belong in the same sentence.