I'm so sick of...

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16 year old girls dating 21 year old guys. I'm not even entirely sure what it is about it, but it pisses me off nonetheless.

Is it because of the stigma attached to it?

I can see what you mean, though. I am 28, and prefer people who are at least in their mid 20s.

It's probably rooted in the stigma, and this girl I liked who dated a 21 year old.
But whenever I see it in any situation I get angry.

But I'm an aspie, I'm supposed to be above social stigma!

I don't see any problem with it. Is there some sort of innate moral issue with it? I don't believe so. She is free to make any decision she wants. You are denying her innate freedom to choose the best man, which was obviously the 21 year old. Don't be angry, you have this innate freedom also. Go, and find what makes you happy, instead of being bitter.

Well, there's nothing immoral about it, but I always found it annoying. If 16 year old girls date 21 years olds, who are the 16 year old guys supposed to date? 11 year old girls?!? Always thought it selfish of the girls. The thing that gets me, is the girls tend to do it for status (yes, some just prefer more mature guys, but for most it's not), but I don't see it. "Yea, you're dating an older guy, but it's an older guy so desparate for a girl, he's dating you... which makes you so desparate for an older guy, you're dating him."

Do the math... 16 / 21 =1.3 * 28... Your target should be 21... Got get 'em, tiger.

When I was 19 I dated a 34 year old. 16->21 = nothing.

I guess I did it because whilst everyone else my age was at Uni and still sponging off their folks, I was working, paying rent and trying to get music writing done at the same time. I couldn't relate to any men my age. Also, I just find men who're at least mid twenties have a bit more to say for themselves. And they can cope with me basically being a bit mad better.

I don't exist to furnish someone my own age with an opportunity.

I like your style

Well it's perfectly legal over here, so *shrug*

34-19= 15 = age of a teen boy who already hit the puberty and started to have interest in girls.


Girls always use the same excuses when they date someone about the age of their uncle or even their father:

"guys of my age are immature" = guys of my age are not wealthy and successful
"I couldn't connect to any guy of my age" = I couldn't find any guy of my age who has the level of social status that I like .
"age is just a number" ( biologically , age is not just a number)

First of all, you say 'excuses' like I've done something that needs to be excused. It's my life and my choice!

Second, you presume to be able to see inside my head and know what I was thinking despite not knowing me, him, or any of the circumstances.

A lot of university aged men are pretty immature, especially in London, where a lot of them have very rich parents who pay for their lifestyles. They don't have any real concerns. The ironic thing is that half of the students I met in that period probably had more money than my 34 year old boyfriend, who was another impoverished music hack. At the end of the relationship he owed me money. And still does.

At that age I had genuinely been through twice what most people my age had, partly due to my then undiagnosed aspergers. I was also totally unbalanced and a bit of a handfull. Men my age were (and still are!!) scared of me!! ! I have always found that. Men my age don't even want me, they think I'm insane. Older men seem to think I'm fun which makes me able to relax a bit and not worry if I'm freaking them out.

I never said 'age was just a number'???????????

You dug your own grave by linking an article in the Daily Mail in your other reply. Not exactly a trusted, scientific source, more renowned for having headlines like 'WILL DIANA CASE MAKE HOUSE PRICES FALL' every bloody day...

^^ hey but I didn't say that you used any excuse ...you were just honest , right?

we did the psychology of attraction at a-level. it is supposedly because girls find older men attractive as they have the resources to provide, and guys like younger girls as they are more fertile. check it out in the dating columns - its always the guys saying they have their own house and car where as women describe what they look like.

I personally think that a 28 year old guy dating a 16 year old girl is somewhat wrong. Why would the guy want to date someone who is almost half their age? The guy would be much more experianced and sex-smart supposedly. He could easily take advantage of the girl. But I think it's the same if a 28 year old woman dates a 16 year old boy. There's a huge double standard there. This is why TYPICALLY when a female teacher sleeps with her student, she gets a lesser penalty than when a male teacher sleeps with his student. That shouldn't be. Regardless of gender they should get the same penalty.

we did the psychology of attraction at a-level. it is supposedly because girls find older men attractive as they have the resources to provide, and guys like younger girls as they are more fertile. check it out in the dating columns - its always the guys saying they have their own house and car where as women describe what they look like.