What's Your Attachment Style?

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11 Oct 2005, 6:45 pm

What are your results on this quiz? Here are mine:

Attachment-Related Anxiety
Your Score: 3.72

Attachment-Related Avoidance
Your Score: 4.00

It scored me as dismissing for some reason; I'd think I'd have scored as fearful. I think I'm about as high as I could be on each dimention and still actually be in a relationship.

Oh, and all you avoidant people: Listen to Alanis Morisette's "Fear of Bliss" or just look up the lyrics. It's like the theme song for avoidance.

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11 Oct 2005, 10:26 pm

It looks like I'll have to sign up to take the test. If it's anything like that signature strengths thing, it'll ask me a ton of questions that are pretty much all hypothetical for me.

I've really never had what's colloquially called "a life."

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12 Oct 2005, 7:21 am

NeantHumain wrote:

Maybe.

If you already signed up for the sig. strengths tests, you can sign in again with the same name.

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12 Oct 2005, 1:57 pm

Attachment-Related Anxiety
Your Score: 6.17
Range of Possible Scores: 1.00 to 7.00

Attachment-Related Avoidance
Your Score: 2.17
Range of Possible Scores: 1.00 to 7.00

Low Avoidance + High Anxiety = Preoccupied

"Preoccupied people tend to have highly conflictual relationships. Although they are comfortable expressing their emotions, preoccupied individuals often experience a lot of negative emotions, which can interfere with their relationships."

Yeah, that's pretty accurate.

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12 Oct 2005, 3:35 pm

If I took this, it'd all be hypothetical answers.

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12 Oct 2005, 3:36 pm

Sarcastic_Name wrote:

If I took this, it'd all be hypothetical answers.

That's what I did when I took the test.

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13 Oct 2005, 2:45 pm

Maybe this would have been better to post in the "general" forum...

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14 Oct 2005, 6:16 pm

Serissa wrote:

NeantHumain wrote:

Maybe.

If you already signed up for the sig. strengths tests, you can sign in again with the same name.

Yeah, I didn't remember my password, and I couldn't remember what I made up for the "secret" question. I just registered with a nonexistent e-mail address. I looked at the questions and decided not to bother with it, though, because it was all just too hypothetical for me. How can I answer about my attitudes and feelings about a partner in general if I've never had a romantic partner to know what kinds of attitudes and feelings I would have?

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14 Oct 2005, 6:26 pm

NeantHumain wrote:

I guess. I probably would have come out as less avoidant and more anxious if I hadn't yet been in a relationship, so, you might not be that accurate, true.

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14 Oct 2005, 8:43 pm

Hypothetical, and I sounded like a contradiction.

Attachment-Related Anxiety
Date: October 14, 2005
Your Score: 4.17

Attachment-Related Avoidance
Date: October 14, 2005
Your Score: 3.50

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15 Oct 2005, 12:04 am

Serissa wrote:

NeantHumain wrote:

I guess. I probably would have come out as less avoidant and more anxious if I hadn't yet been in a relationship, so, you might not be that accurate, true.

Well, I'm not too nervous about having a relationship, and I'm not trying to avoid one, either. Romantic relationships require a certain level of social skills that I simply don't have, and it's definitely not for want of trying. I sometimes miss that girls are interested in me; or, if I do catch on, the things I say and do lead them to lose interest even though I'm trying to do the opposite. I really don't know how to have a conversation with a girl that makes them feel turned on or in love.

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16 Oct 2005, 8:45 pm

Attachment-Related Anxiety
Date: October 16, 2005

Your Score: 2.72

Range of Possible Scores: 1.00 to 7.00

You scored as low as or lower than . . .

62% of all Web site users
60% of all male respondents
67% of all 21 to 24 years old
67% of occupation group NO-Ret.
64% of all with Bachelors degrees
XX% of those in Zip Code 020xx

Attachment-Related Avoidance
Date: October 16, 2005

Your Score: 1.89

Range of Possible Scores: 1.00 to 7.00

You scored as low as or lower than . . .

78% of all Web site users
79% of all male respondents
75% of all 21 to 24 years old
75% of occupation group NO-Ret.
9% of the same educational level
XX% of those in Zip Code 020xx

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16 Oct 2005, 9:40 pm

Attachment-related anxiety
3.94
Attachment-related avoidance
5.00
It scored me as dismissing.

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Authentic cadence: V-I
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17 Oct 2005, 7:41 am

Who_Am_I wrote:

Attachment-related anxiety
3.94
Attachment-related avoidance
5.00
It scored me as dismissing.

Damn it, you beat my high score.

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17 Oct 2005, 9:11 am

Attachment-Related Anxiety
Your Score: 5.44

Attachment-Related Avoidance
Your Score: 5.06

Fearful people tend to have much difficulty in their relationships. They tend to avoid becoming emotionally attached to others, and, even in cases in which they do enter a committed relationship, the relationship may be characterized by mistrust or lack of confidence.

Hypothetical...

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17 Oct 2005, 2:47 pm

Attachment-Related Anxiety
Date: October 17, 2005
Your Score: 4.00

Attachment-Related Avoidance
Date: October 17, 2005
Your Score: 5.94

Me got Fearful as well

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