Do you find me attractive?

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Just felt like asking xD. You can be districpitive and I like HONESTY.

To be honest with you, you absolutely look fine the way you look. But why do you ask? Is anyone making fun of you or criticizing the way you look?

yeah of course, you look good. But you really shouldn't rely on these kind of threads to find out. I've been severely insulted in the past on rating threads. it hurts the confidence alot.

What is the point of a post such as this exactly?

I have very hard times finding someone to date me. Like, it is hard to get someones attention but my other more attractive friends always have people comming up to them telling them how nice they look.

i would say ...i like your blue eyes.

I dont think its all about looks, it also about being photogenic, how can you possible convey your passions and personality and who you are into a small box on a screen. But to be honest i think everyone has types, and it depends when looking at photo if this guy/girl is your type. I've never really understood why people like Jessica Simpson can be 'attractive' i think its because she has a mathematically, geographic shaped face that complements a picture. Guys love circles...lol duhh curves.

I'm horriable with pictures. I have to take a photo of myself a billion times before I can get a good photo such as that O_o

Why don't you go on the aspie dating site, you might have more luck there. Personally, I wouldn't worry about the fact that your friends are getting more attention than yourself, looks fade.

Too young for me, but I think you look good. If you want attention, try giving it. A lot of guys like me are reluctant to push themselves off onto people, and I don't do anything without a situational context, or some reason to believe the other person is interested.

Don't worry about how other people look. It's not a given that your looks will fade if you take care of yourself. It turns out that the things that will make you feel better and live longer will also keep you looking good while everyone else is going downhill. (Brittany Spears are you listening?)

I don't know about trying anything online. Ultimately you want a relationship in the real world, right? So why not start there? The internet is not the real world. I don't do online dating because I feel as though it marks one as a loser.

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I don't know you, so don't take anything I say seriously if i'm wrong, but judging by how you're dressed, i'd say you dress naturally, however you feel comfortable. As most aspies do. I gather that with women, however, getting dates relies alot on doing your hair and makeup, and dressing fashionably. They seem to do that because it gets male attention. Tells the men they're on the market, prompts them to make the first move.

That could be why men aren't complimenting you. And i'm not saying that it's a bad thing. I respect that you don't follow that whole female competition thing. i'm saying you're attractive, and don't worry if you aren't being told so.

the hair looks cool... but the body is too skinny, not soft and squishy enough for my liking XD

I really believe social skills are more important than looks. If you can make someone feel comfortable and carry a conversation, you will go farther than just sitting there and looking pretty. Pretty doesn't cut it.

So don't worry about what you look like. (You look good, by the way.)You can't change the basics of that. You can learn to talk to people, make friends, and even flirt. It's a hell of a lot harder than getting a new haircut or whatever, but its what really matters.

In high school and college, I watched all my friends get dates, even those who many would say were less attractive than me. Why did they? They had social skills and could pick up on other people's social cues.

People (usually well-meaning but annoying older adults) would say to me, "You're so pretty. Why don't you have a boyfriend?"

(To anyone whose hasn't had this said to them, you feel like slapping the person in the face!)

I now know that one of the reasons is that I never noticed when a guy checked me out, flirted, even sometimes just made conversation. My friends would ask me why I was being rude to so-and-so, and I would be like "what? a person? where?"

Anyway, social skills are the way to go. End of story.

You look cute, but a little intimidating. Maybe guys are scared of you. Or maybe they think you are stuck up. I think a lot of us (Aspies) might have that problem.

HOLY CRAP YOUR HOT!

unfortuntly, my standards are very very low.

You ARE very attractive in your own right.

You said yourself that guys don't come up to you for your looks, but realize that if someone's after you for just that, they're probably quite shallow and you might not get much out of it.

Personally, I am attracted to your style. I tend to associate girls like you with intelligence and kindness, which I put higher on the list of attractive traits than anything else. You look like the kind of person that's worth being friends with.

I simply think most guys in high school are just too hung up about the "ideal" sexual aspect of a relationship, and you just haven't found someone who appreciates YOU. It may be frustrating, but don't be too hard on yourself.

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Sure.