"Someone For Everyone": Wisdom or BS?

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I'm just curious as to why so many people say "There's someone out there for everyone" like it's some kind of great wisdom or law of nature, yet they fail to provide any evidence for it. Not only that, but it also contradicts another popular phrase in our culture: "Nice guys finish last." Well, if you believe that nice guys finish last, then logically, you cannot believe that there's "someone for everyone," right? Because nice guys are part of "everyone."

So my question is: if you do believe that there truly is someone out there for everyone, what evidence do you have for believing that?

I have no evidence, but I believe in it. I cannot believe nobody in such an overpopulated world is really unfit to be loved by anyone. I have no evidence to back my claim, but I strongly believe anyone can find love.

Any two reasonable strangers can share resources and living quarters - and maybe even enjoy bumping uglies with each other occassionally. Then again, it's like that old Annie Lennox song...

"Everybody's looking for something.
Some of them want to use you.
Some of them want to get used by you.
Some of them want to abuse you.
Some of them want to be abused."

If you're willing to put up with someone else's BS, and they're willing to put up with yours, then you have a relationship. Not the best kind perhaps, but a relationship nonetheless!

I was under the impression that it meant you could tolerate each other's BS forever, which is difficult even for families. So yes, there are plenty of potential failed relationships, but lasting ones? I doubt there are many. If it weren't for my parents' relationship, I might not even believe that such relationships existed.

Is there someone for everyone? Probably, doesn't mean you will find that person.

Actually even then, unless there is exactly as many guys as girls (not even close) it isn't even possible.

Now you cant prove or disprove it, but I can prove that there are lots of people that live and die never knowing love. Because it has happened... seems to be mostly aspies at that

Myabe you'll never find the perfect companion, but you'll find an abundance of people that are "good enough" ... maybe not Ms. Right but Ms. Right-Now.

I think its a feel good statement meant to reassure. I don't think there's someone for everyone, I think it's like god says in the bible, some I choose to be single, some I choose to be married...or something like that.

I'm with Fnord and Cyberman. Most people prefer anything (other than being with a 'weirdo', a category that includes most aspies) to being alone, so they just find someone they can tolerate and that can tolerate them, and often not even that hence the divorce rate. Sure, in a world of billions there probably exist a few people you could really click with (and the billions argument is the only argument the people that say there's someone for everyone actually have)- but if they're a few among billions you are very unlikely to ever come across them at all, much less get to know them. Most people never have a soulmate, and a person who is your soulmate now might not be in a few years (because people do change with time, an we don't live in a fairy tale).

Like Fnord quotes:

I used to think that there was someone for everyone. But now I think its total BS.

BS!
After years of being single, I am now thinking that I ll simply become a good old crazy cat lady.

I do believe there is someone for everyone, but that the likelihood of meeting such a person is very slim. I think in the end we settle for less than we wanted romantically, because it is better to have some semblance of love than to live your life alone. Nice guys do finish last, unless they are charismatic or unless there is a nice girl who is into nice guys. I think the only time where nice guys will be appreciated is later in life, say 25 years and up. I have heard of accounts of guys being up into their late thirties and still lonely and without love. There is no such idea as a "soulmate" or a "perfect mate", to be honest, in the same manner you could be attracted and fall in love with one woman, you could have fallen in love with a different woman just as easily. The sickening irony is that we look for the perfect mate, and there is no perfect mate. But I believe that compatibility wise, there is a guy for every girl and a girl for every guy, although the liklihood of it occuring is rather slim, as I have previously stated.

Am trying to remind myself that the word is "some", rather than "all" or "none".
As in, I keep feeling extreme-that "everyone" dislikes me & that "no one" will ever be interested in, attracted to, me.
Or that I'll never find someone to whom I'm attracted or have interest in.
Yet, logically, it seems more likely that "some" people will like me & I will like "some" people.
It's incredibly difficult for me to retain/maintain these moderate (rather than all-or-nothing) thought patterns.
As I put it in post on other forum:

The fact that not everyone wants someone (as in asexuals) means that the OP's statement is BS...

It's not true, many people die single and even virgin.

Maybe there is someone for everyone