Why do people let themselves go?

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Like getting overweight. Don't wash, shave etc. I noticed in a picture from last year that under my chin was getting fat, so i've been a lot more careful with what I eat and i'm doing even more cardio. I don't see how people can lose so much self repsect.

Maybe because their self-respect isn't tied to their looks?

Some people have a health issues or genetic issues that makes them fat. Some are just too lazy to work out or they don't have the time for it because they are too busy.

People also eat the wrong foods so they get fat. Fast food is one of them. I hardly go to fast food and I don't eat junk every day.

I would say that it is directly proportional to the amount that you actually care/are motivated to keep yourself up. The reasons can vary but that is the root cause.

Why is getting fat like "the greatest sin" that one can have? People are too hung up on looks and beauty. There are plenty of overweight people who are beautiful and fun to be around.

People tend to let themselves go because what we see in the mirror isn't always what the reality is. It sometimes takes a photo of yourself for you to see what others see. Cleanliness is another issue. There is no excuse for not having good hygiene unless you are living on the street and have no shower.

Confidence and self worth come from inside, not from how fat you are.

I think it's easier to gain weight than to lose the weight.

Also some people don't necessarily let themselves go, they just don't have time to fix up and look good as their probably busy with work, children, bills, activities, and whatever else. My sister for one doesn't dress up anymore, she has to work two jobs and has to watch her kids. Stress will do a lot to a face as well as a body. Not to mention having no time to cook anything of nutritional value. I mean whenever I look for a place to eat, it's nothing but fat Ville Central...

A good book that I recommend is You On a Diet by- Michael F. Roizen and Mehmet C. Oz. They're both doctors and it's a very easy book to follow through. It explains a lot about why people are more prone to getting fat than the reverse and what is going on with your body.

I've been together with several overweight girls, but it didn't bother me the least. I somehow look right through that and into the personality, their ideas and how they think. I can't decode social cues (I believe I see them, but exaggerate them into the extreme, so I get confused), but I'm very good at analyzing people; The connection between thought and action. And I somehow see a girl's sweetness in how she thinks.

Last edited by Kenjuudo on 17 Mar 2009, 2:41 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Why do some people use appearance as the barometer of value? Sometimes, it's related to physical or psycho/emotional health issues; for some, it simply is not something of the same importance to them as it is to you. Speaking from my own experience... I've lost about 80 pounds or a little more in the past year and couple months. While I physically feel better, which contributes to my sense of well being, I still have the same neuroses... and my relationship started when I was well over 320, not some Grecian ideal of the athletic form.


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Also comfort is a big factor. As I get older, I dress for comfort. You would find me in jeans and t-shirt. I don't usually wear make up on a daily basis nor do I wear dresses and dress up for a man to notice me. I am the same person in my jeans then I am in a dress. Probably nicer because I'm comfortable. I'm also considered overweight, I'm still the same person. I enjoy my food but I'm still healthy and can get around. I'm just not obsessed with that bikini anymore.

If a guy can't see me for me, then he doesn't need to be around me. I do fine on my own. I have money, I travel and and like myself. I'm a good person and I'm nice. If he can't see that and enjoy time with me then he can move on. Getting older is kind of fun that way. Like me or leave me.

But being obese is not only very unnatractive, its very unhealthy. If you feel physically well that helps your mental side. Some people look natural with a bit of extra weight and its suits them. Being too skiny is obviously bad too. I think people who are saying looks aren't important, are kidding themselves. I know personality is the most important thing. But I wouldn't touch my soulmate with a barge pole if she was built like a bus.

And that's your opinion. Just don't think for a second that you know how other people think based on what you think. There are guys out there that love obese women, and there are guys that hate it. There are just as many preferences as there are people on this planet. My preferences doesn't involve the body at all as long as it's female. Take it or leave it.

Maybe nobody actually 'lets themselves go'. Some people just have different interests to you and direct their energies into directions other than you would choose. Judge not lest ye be judged!

^ Exactly. Priorites.

Why do people let themselves go?

"Gaze upon my ye mighty and tremble!"

Yeah, those guys who go for obese women need to be sectioned.

When I first started on my meds, they slowed my metabolism and I gained about 50 pounds. It was shocking because I was always very skinny, no matter what I ate. Then all the sudden I started putting weight on, and in about 6 months I had gained the 50 pounds. I wasn't really disappointed to have gained the weight, but I would've rather gained only 30 pounds. Now I eat a little less, and my weight has remained constant for a couple years, but I would like to exercise more to lose 20-25 lbs. Depression doesn't help the energy levels much either. If I was more active I would've already lost the extra weight, and plan to. I guess it's still on my "to do" list.