Would you date someone just for the sake of a relationship?

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Lets say there was someone who was attracted to you, and you are a little attracted to him/her, but not as much as he/she is to you. Would you date that person just to have a boyfriend/girlfriend? Or would that be shallow?

If I'm a little attracted, sure I'd go for it. But not "just to have a girlfriend", more in the hope that she's right for me and we will both be happier. And I've had people grow on me before, quite naturally.

If I'm not at all attracted, then no.

No.

That is not a good idea.

Same as Hector, but I would need to know that her attraction is genuine...

Not a good idea. Odds are it won't be a terribly stable one. Good relationships are founded on the implicit grounds that you love your partner as much as your partner loves you.

Plus after you've been in one or two relationships - regardless of whether they are amazingly successful or epic failures - you'll realize that being in one "just to be in one" is a horrible idea.

I would do it. Although I have no dating experience at all, I think it would be mean to reject a girl who really likes you just because you only like her a little bit. Plus, she might grow on you, you never know.

I definitely would. After all, everyone will come out happier; both parties will get a relationship they're looking for. As long as I'm 100% sure the girl likes me, can enjoy being around her, and know she won't lose interest quickly, it'll be a happy relationship for me. I don't see it as "taking advantage of her". Regardless of whether or not I was physically attracted to my girlfriends in the past, I always treated her very well and made sure she had the best relationship I could give her. In the end, by starting a relationship me, the girl has nothing to lose, and a lot to gain. How so? She'll get a boyfriend that's faithful, treats her well, and makes her feel special. In the end, I see nothing wrong with dating someone just to be in a relationship, as long as you make the relationship feel good.

Look at it this way. A guy can generally date a girl he's not attracted to if he sees the benefit in that, but a girl will never date a guy she's not attracted to. So what makes a difference is not how much he likes her, but how much she likes him.

Yes. Women don't tend to have the hots for me, so if there was a girl who was really sweet on me, I'd like her a lot real fast.

I've been lonely enough to think that I would do this, but usually that fades.

There's a certain quality, an intelligence/perspective on the world that I'm looking for... and if that quality is missing, despite getting along in other respects I don't think it would work out in the end.

I have decided against even talking to a girl because she just didn't seem smart enough...

Yes definitely. Looks aren’t everything to me anyways. As long as a woman would genuinely like me, and she has an attractive personality, I would definitely go for it. Even if it doesn’t work out in the end, I could at least say I had a girlfriend.

yes, what hester said. i would go for it if she did not have too much baggage.

It wouldn't hurt to go out on a date with her once or twice, just to get to know her. You might find you like her more than what you first thought. After that, if she isn't what you are really looking for, I would say it's best to be honest with her, and just move on. No sense wasting your time, and getting her hopes up.

is she shows more turn ons - yes
if she shows turn offs such as hostility, sarcasm, lack of warmth, - no

Let me think... would I go through all the difficulty that most other humans give me when I deal with them; would I give up part of the alone time that is essential for my functioning; would I spend less time with my interests, all for the sake of a relationship with someone who I didn't particularly like in the first place? I think that the answer here is a fairly obvious "no". If I wish to be in a relationship with someone, then I have to think that they are absolutely amazing.

nope. I couldn't have a relationship with anyone I'm not really attracted to. I Don't understand how some people have relationships with people just for money, power or status.