Bigotry against involuntarily celibate men

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I understand and come from the same position of Markins and others on here that are forever alone. We are victims of society and no one will ever accept us for being unique snowflakes. We did not choose to be forever alone, it was forced upon us by being rejected by society. I knew at 15 or 16 I had no hope at dating and accepted my fate and I have never been asked out, I do not ask women out. 20 years later and nothing has changed and I am still a victim.

I'm not a snowflake I'm a f*****g blizzard.

Some might ask why don't I become like the Bible Belters in my area. Well, the truth is that I was molded by the Bible Belt in my own way. I didn't drink or smoke and I didn't obsess over football or cars but I did eat fast food like crazy, listened to nu metal and metalcore as well as the occasional crappy country song, watched South Park, played video games like Halo, and got mad at anything that was considered "anti-American" as well as freaked out if I came across anything that was critical of or attacking Christianity. But did that translate to social or dating success? No, it didn't.

That doesn’t mean they wouldn’t date them.
People rarely have sex with people they wouldn’t ever date. The same reasons to have sex is for dating they finds the person attractive for some reason.

I have lived a life of loneliness, isolation and misery. I have never had the opportunities in life and endured endless bad luck. I have quit on many things and tried for a new start but it never seemed to work out because of endless bad luck. Life does not change by reading self help books, thinking positive or praying. I do not like failure or rejection so I do not bother trying. I do not accept failure, I take it all personally and I get upset. I never had the mental maturity to cope with dating mind games so I gave up at 16. I have no brothers and no friends to back me up in fights at a bar/club so I stay at home at play my video games and watch TV. One less guy in the dating game makes it easier for the competition and it is better to give up when you have no hope of success. It takes self-awareness to understand you have no hope at dating and your time and effort is better used doing other things.

I have spoke the truth on here and admitted I have no hope in regards to dating and accepted it was better to give up and focus on living out my life. I have so much time to watch all the TV shows I want to watch, listen to music, read more books, fitness and play all the video games I want to play. When there is no pressure it is time to relax and enjoy life doing things I want to do. When you are single for life and you have more time to do what you want with your life. No responsibilities and no pressure of trying to make other people happy. I will pursue interests and hobbies that add value and make me feel happy.

Last edited by Aspie19828 on 05 Dec 2018, 11:38 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Is she Mormon?
If so the reason is simple; cults don't always tend to encourage members to look at things critically.

Most denominations regard Mormonism as a large cult, do to the many twistings of the bible and literally adding a book.

If the guys on here had better luck instead of endless bad luck in their lives their experiences would be better, their attitude would be better. Being in the same position of some of the guys on here, I continue on buying my lotto tickets and I jump at get rich quick schemes and hold onto hope my luck will turn around. I may get to travel to Europe and enjoy a better life than staying in the miserable uncultured dump of a country I live in. Where I live it is full of loud mouth bogans that are into football, UFC/MMA, tradesmen, body building, beach and heavy drinking/drug culture. I am not into those things and avoid the trouble that night life brings, it makes life hard meeting new people.

I feel like I should get into drinking. Maybe if I get really drunk my massive anxiety will go away long enough for me to not realize everyone in the room hates me.

I've found that if I get drunk while I'm in a bad mood, or if I've got something really plaguing my mind, I'm prone to (verbal) outbursts and depressive episodes. I've found the devil's lettuce to be better for me as it relaxes me and allows me to view life as one big joke. I have heard that for people with anxiety, it can bring out that anxiety, but I personally find it much better and much more enjoyable than alcohol, though I'm not really touching either at the moment.

She is not, just a mainstream Christian. Mainstream Christianity rebels against critical thinking moreso than any cult does. People who buy into it think evolution is just a "feerie" or even a religion unto itself, English was spoken by people in the bible, Christianity only exists in the US (except outside the Bible Belt), Hinduism is the same as Islam, and that Jews and Muslims don't worship the same God as Christians do.



Nope, my older brother pulled the "pump and dump" on many girls he found attractive and didn't date them. He just wanted to get his "screw" on. I know a girl who does the same.

I didn’t say they did date I said they would date. They won’t sex with a guy they wouldn’t date ever.

I am a bisexual male and I am a sit and wait type of guy.
The problem is I am so socially inept, I can not tell if someone is interested in me or not and I do not approach.
I can not read body language and I avoid eye contact.
The people I know who are in relationships had attraction from the start, there were no months of pursuit as depicted in Movies or TV shows.
I would compromise and date a guy if he was a compatible match and was genuinely interested in me.
I would not mind if a guy told me: Your abs look good! You look fit!, etc.
I used slog it out at the gym and I am in good shape but I never got any attention.
If they were interested in me they would say so. They are not interested in me.

Last edited by Aspie19828 on 07 Dec 2018, 5:52 am, edited 1 time in total.

Don't move to the UK then. I've never understood the drinking culture over here. They call it binge drinking because people take like a Sat evening to drink themselves into oblivion and recover on Sunday. I don't get how that's fun. People come into work on Monday and say, "I can't remember what happened. It was great". I'd rather go on a woodland walk.

Ok, so the whole of the UK isn't like that. My friends aren't. We were going to try a different pub /bar every month and try new cocktails, but we couldn't be bothered. So we changed the idea to meeting for a coffee every month and trying different cakes instead.

Just had a thought. I heard this guy that rejected me years ago, because he thought I was a loser (i was a cleaner at the time), had been inquiring how I am and was shocked to find out I'm more successful than him.

That's a pretty good feeling after being constantly rejected. Ha! I didn't need you after all :p

This scenario is extremely common on the other side, a lot of women do that as if it's the norm, rejecting the guy because he's not making enough - even if they are total losers themselves who make no money at all, I bet they measure their own value based on their own beauty probably (ie. "I am a very beautiful woman, therefore I deserve a rich man" kind of logic).

One thing I like in East Asian woman is that they are generally extremely humble about their own looks - by far more humble than any other cultures, even if she's gorgeous yet she feels she's regular and refuses to admit it; hence their beauty often doesn't enter into any mental 'dating's market value' equation. That's one common personality trait among East Asian women that's extremely appealing for regular men, jealous white women often accuse men dating East Asians of having a looks fetish, but what they fail to realize that it's the common Asians' personality traits and manners which make them appealing to a lot of men, not their looks.

Something similar happened to me, except it was my entire high school graduation class that thought I was a loser (They voted me "Least Likely to Succeed"). Some of them have since found out how successful I've become -- even after a divorce, layoffs, and homelessness -- and have tried to hit me up to "loan" them money. Of course, I turned them all down.

(If they have good credit, then they can get a loan from a bank; and if the banks have turned them down, then they have poor credit, and it's too risky for me to give them a loan.)