To the arsty liberal people...

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Oh and I forgot to add I have my own license and car.

Tim, you have other priorities to be concerned about, like finishing the college and getting a job for instance.

You still fat though, get rid of your fat excess .

I am already working on those.

When I think of neocons, I think of the movie Footloose, where a town banned alcohol, rock music, and dancing.

That's why I look for liberals, even though I am conservative.

By what criteria are you defining yourself as such, anyway? Also, I thought "true" Christians - fundies or otherwise - didn't engage in premarital sex?

I am conservative because I am more in agreement with the Republicans' views on economy and foreign policy.

As for premarital sex, not as many Christians practice it as most people think.

LPP that is a terrible thing to say. I'm assuming you are doing it to encourage him to lose weight. TOS may have self esteem problems and comments like that make him worse.

Also he may have a very low metabolism or something and finds it hard or can't lose weight.

And I still don't feel better about my situation.

People misinterpreted something I said on here, and it cost me a potential friendship. I send a like-minded person a PM, and it was deleted without ever being read, and I was blocked from her IM, when I never said anything inappropriate to her.

The very people I am trying to attract are now avoiding me.

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Hahah. True

When I talked about the sexual stuff in this thread, I mean I need to know how one feels about it before I can consider dating them.

My last relationship (the one who wanted to wait five years) ended because she wouldn't discuss it with me. I asked her what her thoughts were on it--and this was after two years of dating--and she kept changing the subject. But eventually, the topic is going to come up. It's not if, it's when. She and I were together for three years--three years that I can never get back.

Hey Tim!! The ever faithful, loyal, funny down-to-earth fiscally-responsible guy...

When faced with a problem that seems too difficult to solve, sometimes it's best to just take a step back, take a deep breath, and admit to yourself, "Ok, I've tried everything I can think of, and things aren't working out. I simply can't figure this out now." And move on. I know that it's difficult to consider this prospect, but sometimes we just aren't in the best position emotionally, physically, knowledge- or experience-wise to solve an intractable problem, and we need to set the problem aside and take a break. There's only so much you or anyone else can do in that kind of situation, and beating yourself up over it is not going to help things, and will just wreck your self-esteem. You actually have a lot going for you in your life these days: you're on the cusp of getting your bachelor's degree, you'll be able to get a very decent-paying job with it and you already have a license, so in time you'll be able to save up for a car and really get around on your own!

Tim, I know that it's hard... I certainly didn't write "War and Peace" in the "In love w/ aspie" sticky because I had an easy time :lol:... but if you can muster up the strength, try not to think about your dating situation. While you're waiting for things to settle down, don't let life pass you by. Do something new if you have to... anything near you that piques your curiosity? Anything that you've always wondered about, but never took the time to investigate on your own time? You may have been repressed earlier in life, but YOU are in control of your own life now, YOU have the power to make your life better, enjoying the things you are interested in and want to do. Your life is not dependent on any Christian conservative, sexually-uninhibited woman or even on a liberal artsy woman with a penchant for South Park. Your life is yours, and you can make it very fulfilling and exciting if you want to make it that way! You just need to go do something fun for yourself and convince yourself of that. There's still a whole world out there to explore! And you still have many long years of awesome and exciting life to look forward to.

And after a while... taking as much time as is necessary... one day you may find yourself revisiting this problem that you had set aside, and you might realize that during the months or years that you did not think too much of this problem, that you've gained some wisdom and experience along the way. Maybe you'll be in an emotionally better place, and the solution to the problem presents itself to you without much effort. When that happens, not only will your problem be solved, but you'll have gotten a lot of wisdom and experience and fun along the way. That's the best anyone can realistically hope for.

"Notworthy" smiley indicated here... 'Puppy, you rock. \m/

Now, if only your advice could work for me...

Whoa. You know what God did to Onan, don't you? And also to the cities of Sodom and Gamorrah?

A proper Christian woman's perspective on sex is that it's sole function is as a civic duty, to give her husband children. It is like voting. You only go to vote when there is a proper election. You can't just show up at the town hall to vote any old time you feel like it.

Enjoyment of sex exposes you to the possibility of being swept away by Satan, through lust and carnality. So, be very careful about taking too much pleasure in fulfilling your civil responsibilities.

Although there may be some who label themselves as Christian women but are still very sensual, and possibly open to giving oral sex. Remember Jessica Hahn?

So I should NOT date a Christian, then?

Stinkypuppy, very wise words and I hope Tim finally decides to OPEN his mind and listen to what we tell him.

Tim, women like men who have control of there lives. The money is not as important as you might think. I was working at temp jobs after I was let go for $8.00 an hour when I met the woman I am dating. The fact that I am going back to school to change careers impressed her more than how much I USED to make. I like Simpsons, South Park, Adult Swim, etc. and she wants nothing to do with that. She is a very liberal Jew and I am a fairly conservative agnostic. Although I do have to say I find her brand of Judaism kind of appealing. Despite the differences we get along well and enjoy our time together. If we were exactly alike that would be really, really boring. We are able to bring new things into each other's lives. There was enough common ground to get the relationship started but the differences are what drew us closer together because it is fun.

Tim, I'm beginning to think that your problem is that when you met a woman you come on waaaaaay to strong and act waaaaaaay too needy. Women seem to like it when you reveal your self to them a little at a time. They like it when you want them in your life, not need them in your life and aren't follwing them around like a lost puppy. You have the all of the qualities that women find appealing but I think your approach to the relationship is all wrong and that is what drives the women away. You need to find a way to put a different spin on your life story. We all face adversity, it is what you are doing to overcome that adversity that will attract the right woman.