Help Tim Tex attract a partner

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The small goatee idea sounds great, but will it affect my ability to ace a job interview?

Also, I am not trying to be ultra-picky, I am just trying to weed out the asexuals, and those who only think of a vacation as "no computer or video games for a few days".

well groomed speaks more than clean shaven does

I think a well groomed goatee would be a plus for you. A well groomed beard made a big difference for me.

Looking at the picture you posted on the last page, I'm confident thereis nothing overtly wrong with your appearance. The hair looks good, good complexion, and a nice looking smile too. Whether you shoudl go with stubble, clean-shaven or goatee is a matter of taste, but I doubt it's a deal breaker for any woman.

The only other appearance related issue might be related to posture, body language, eye contact or facial expression. That would be hard for us to verify though, unless you can film yourself walking and talking to someone somehow.

I propose that perhaps there is nothing wrong with your physical appearance at all and maybe you just don't have oppurtunities to meet right women. I know aspies are tend to avoid social gatherings and have a smaller network of friends than most NTs. Do you particpate in activities that would allow you to meet women in a social situation? Maybe join a club at school to meet women with similar interests. You mentioned that you are religious. Maybe you can meet other people in social gatherings at church.

Just my 2 cents. Good luck.

Why is that an issue they think that of vacations?

He's making excuses, kind of like when refused to date a girl who even has a sip of alcohol. If the woman he thinks he wants doesn't exist, it gives him excuse to wallow and not figure out what he really wants or needs in a partner.

You guys have got it all wrong, he should go with the bowler hat and monocle look

By which you imply what? I never said anything about using ASD as an excuse. Tim actually has an extremely sunny disposition most of the time (over the years that I have known him on this board). He isn’t all that negative if you compare to other users. There are much more negative posters than him on this board.

He just happens to grate people due to his way of thinking; hence threads like this pop up. Personally if he didn’t move people in some way there wouldn’t be threads like this.

I think what goads people are is running themes; it goes round and round in circles. Other negative posters tend to mix it up, try a different tack. But maybe Tim’s persistence could be used to his advantage.


Not necessarily true. All sorts of people have got college degrees. Different components of intellect aren’t bolted together. It is a common mistake to make. For instance if someone speaks eloquently, it is common to assume that that person is of a similar intelligence to others with the same verbal skills but that can be false. Most people would be unaware that I have clinical cognitive dysfunctions. I don’t have a sicker on my forehead.

Where did you get the idea he doesn’t want to?



While it may sound a compelling hypothesis, ‘facts’ have to be based on empirical proof. However I do take your, point appearance does matter. As for polo s**ts it depend who u ask, I have heard the opposite from women. Certainly those who like the ‘preppy’ look might like them. The problem with them is they have become common. They are not longer the domain of yuppies. They are ugly if worn with stains and a bear belly. Someone with an athletic build however...


What’s so great about GAP? I haven’t been to a Walmart, but with ‘off price’ shops like TK max if you are willing to look, you can get the designer label for a fraction of the cost. That's just smart.

Besides it is not necessarily the case that a potential partner is that interested in the labels. They may just want him to be presentable. An interesting clothing item might be a talking point, especially if tit is not just the usual GAP, etc. Then again they may not give a s**t either way.

So much emphasis on getting the partner through dress and trim...and then what? He has had relationships before. Not working on other things will limit his changes, and he make have to work even harder on façade than he would otherwise done.

Anyway, I sand by original statement. This thread is reactionary. It has potential, but so far not much has come out of it.

If Tim is alienating posters on here, fellow Aspies, to the point where there are other sites with threads dedicated to trying to get Tim banned off this site, how is he supposed to attract a woman who's going to be far more judgmental than any of us combined?

Yeah, whatever. Tim grow the goatee and let us take a look at it. If it doesn't work for you then shave it off. Best off all it won't cost anything to try.

So you honestly think facial hair is going to turn him into a babe magnet? lol

There is only been a small number of people that where that offended by Tim to want to do that, mostly people with a chip on their shoulder no doubt.

I'm in contact with a handful of women, Aspie and NT, on this site, who all aren't fond of Tim. A woman who doesn't know what Aspergers even means isn't likely to be any more friendly.

No offense, but Tim w/goatee vaguely resembles
Agent Smith from The Matrix.
Give Tim an earpiece or an IPOD wire
and he will look like a Secret Service Agent.

Tim, you're not a bad looking guy.
How's about changing your hair color?
Yes, bad advice, but hey, go figure.

Everyone has people they are not fond of. Yes there are people I can’t stand, but I just try and make sure we don’t cross paths, and that is about it. It is not persecution. Those sorts of melodramatic reactions against Tim are pretty ridiculous to be honest. The fact that they would care so much about trivial goings on, speaks volumes. As the saying goes “don’t get your knickers is a twist over nothing”.

You generalise about women quite a bit. .

Whatever the case, you need to stop posting in this thread. For real.
...It's like you have an interesting form of one-itis.