Do you feel sympathetic for somebody who can not have sex?

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JohnisBlind
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15 Sep 2010, 2:27 pm

billsmithglendale wrote:

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Wow, okay,

I was making a lot out of what you had to say, but now that you explained it, it seems like you have very serious issues that undermine what you have to say. Very serious psychological and sexual issues.

What hardcore porn has to offer just isn't what sex is about IMO.

Please get help.

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15 Sep 2010, 2:29 pm

Are there any woman who want to explain why they voted yes?

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15 Sep 2010, 2:42 pm

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LOL! I don't need help, I'm happy! If anything, I think my life compares quite positively (like top 10%) compared to most of the people in the L&D part of these forums, if not the entire WP forum in general. I don't think my issues undermine what I have to say at all -- it just underscores how important something like sex can be a crucial element in more than one syndrome or set of issues.

If I were you, I would take a good look in the mirror, at your life, your career, and the state of your relationships (or lack thereof) before you tell anyone else to get help or that there is something wrong with them. I seem to have done pretty well with my life -- can you say the same? If anything, you seem abnormal in your sex drive and lack of experience -- I don't need your stamp of approval on my life or how I live it. If I'm more of a man than you (and there are A LOT of men like me), it's not my fault or my problem.

And yeah, you just ruffled my feathers. I've learned and relearned to not sit by idly while people do that to me -- I'm the only one who can enforce my code of the respect I'm deserved. I give them the same respect they give me. When they break that social convention, they pay. Understand that you are thisclose to making that list. Debate is one thing -- personal analysis from somebody who is in worse shape than me, with no true knowledge of my or my life, is another. Are we clear?

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15 Sep 2010, 3:07 pm

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I give them the same respect they give me. When they break that social convention, they pay. Understand that you are thisclose to making that list. Debate is one thing -- personal analysis from somebody who is in worse shape than me, with no true knowledge of my or my life, is another. Are we clear?

Okay, I didn't want to offend you. Its just I don't know it seems like your personal life experience has a lot to do with your experience of sex don't you think?

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15 Sep 2010, 3:25 pm

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You really have a lot of nerve. Bill's story made sense and depicted a real guy who struggled to get where he is today. That's normal. You however, have done nothing but ask question after rhetorical question revealing nothing about who you are or where you come from. Whenever someone shares an honest opinion or story, you poke holes in it and attempt to make them feel foolish. Is this what makes you feel validated?

You've been asking the same kinds of questions for months now, and have shown no signs of improvement. Time to live a little.

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15 Sep 2010, 3:29 pm

I agree, JohnisBlind has made me feel like a second rate person, one that doesn't feel worthy of being alongside an NT. f**k that to Hell. Do you know what the f**k you've done?! :twisted:

God, if you did this to my face on the street, it would be meltdown time and you wouldn't like that.

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15 Sep 2010, 3:35 pm

Thanks for the backup. I won't be participating in this clown's threads anymore -- anyone who feels the same, please do so as well. Blacklisting someone through silence is a terribly effective way to shut them up.

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15 Sep 2010, 4:02 pm

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I agree, JohnisBlind has made me feel like a second rate person, one that doesn't feel worthy of being alongside an NT. f**k that to Hell. Do you know what the f**k you've done?! :twisted:

God, if you did this to my face on the street, it would be meltdown time and you wouldn't like that.

I did not. Oh please. I have said lots of things in your defense.

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15 Sep 2010, 4:04 pm

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I was really tactless and I feel bad about it. I shouldn't have said that to him.

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15 Sep 2010, 4:29 pm

Its true that the OP has become obsessive and unbalanced in replying to every single comment, as if he must always have the last word, as well as the 1000 post signature. This will lead to stupid remarks, and posting for no good reason and wasting viewers time.

At times the OP has shown little respect in his replies, initially hinting at mocking derision, and progressively becoming more confrontational when the tough guys have flexed here. Not a wise thing to do. Do you need some sleep?

From a policing perspective, those who hint at violence and bloodshed toward anyone who disrespects them, may eventually find themselves on the wrong side of the law, and society. Those responsible for maintaining law and order will be taking notes

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15 Sep 2010, 11:15 pm

I feel sorry at first until the one making the whiny post chooses to make more whiny posts.

You are going to have to accept the fact that sex is NEVER free and decide how to deal with it.

Either go on the path of
Complete self improvement such as a major diet,lose weight, get fashionable clothes, learn conversational skills and try to develop a presentable social circle of people to go out with (this is a major pitfall that PUA Lairs face because they go out but often seem unnatural and are not the best friends.

The other option is to pay upfront. I enjoy it immensely because it boils down human relationships to
Their core component and puts things into perspective. Also you can satisfy whims and break painful infatuations (having a crush on a girl) easily. You'd be surprised how quickly a crush goes away after you bang a girl who looks just like her! :twisted:

It is not all or
Nothing.
You can supplement
Your degeneracy with a fat chick
Or
Two!

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15 Sep 2010, 11:44 pm

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It is not all or
Nothing.
You can supplement
Your degeneracy with a fat chick
Or
Two! :twisted:

to the vast majority of people, the core component of a relationship isn't sex.

if it is the core component to you, that speaks to your own character; it is not a reflection of the character of most of the populace. i am glad i do not live in a world where most people devalue relationships in the way you speak of.

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16 Sep 2010, 2:35 am

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16 Sep 2010, 2:41 am

This is not a scientifically accurate poll.... I mainly want the opinion of the females who say they aren't sympathetic. Not because I want to argue with them. I just want to know if the reason they aren't sympathetic is because they wouldn't even feel distressed themselves not having sex.

I don't like the argumentative feel of this whole conversation.

I am just and honest sincere person trying to figure out what's important in this world.

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16 Sep 2010, 8:53 am

JohnisBlind wrote:

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I do feel sympathy toward people who cannot have sex. I would liken this feeling to sympathy for someone who cannot find friends.

If I were being a bit more flippant, I may even say I would liken it to sympathy for people who cannot have the video game they want.

My ultimate view depends on whether sex is a need or a want. I think it can be both. It's not like hunger, we don't die without it. But, like someone unable to have friends, the lack of it can cause some genuine pain.
If I were to not be able to have friends (which I don't really) I would just learn to accept it as best I can and cope in life without it. With regard to friends, I have friends, but not close friends. And, one day I might. I focus on other things.

I don't think menintights is a troll. I think menintights was being comparatively flippant, and the OP is comparatively very caught up in the issue of whether people can have sex or not (I can understand someone saying the OP has 'sex on the brain'; it's almost the same condition as someone who has a lot of sex, and cannot get enough, and has sex on the brain).
Such differences can inhibit understanding and communication.

The ability to take or leave sex, regardless of actual sexual ability, does exist, though it may require work or practice. I say this having demonstrated it in my life ~ I'm sure I could be having oodles of it if I wanted to and it's not that I don't like it; I'd just rather be doing simpler things.

Okay. That is interesting. You have turned down sex and that indicates that it is not all important.

Hi, again, JohnIsBlind. Sorry that it's taken me ages to respond. I can see there is genuine enquiry in the intention of your posts.

I have turned down sex and in some ways, no, it's not important. I mean, it is important, but so are other things too. Basically, you've got the idea of my post.

But, keep in mind that I have sensory issues that make sex very intense and negotiating it can be quite tricky. I'm just quirky, basically, and sensitive, for the most part. It's horrible for me to have an intense experience and then not really know what's going on, which can happen to me around sex.

So, I'm also saying that I have difficulties around it and I've learned to de-prioritise it.

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