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04 Apr 2011, 8:01 pm

I believe there is a particular physical issue which makes the games addictive, and other things such as the internet.

I think it is a sort of repetitive, stimmy thing, and it provides the brain with a steady drip of stimuli, and kind of hijacks the brains normal processes until it needs to receive the stimuli, otherwise a lot of discomfort, anxiety, terrible feelings will result. It is like addictive food. There is something very real going on there.


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04 Apr 2011, 8:03 pm

zen_mistress wrote:
I believe there is a particular physical issue which makes the games addictive, and other things such as the internet.

I think it is a sort of repetitive, stimmy thing, and it provides the brain with a steady drip of stimuli, and kind of hijacks the brains normal processes until it needs to receive the stimuli, otherwise a lot of discomfort, anxiety, terrible feelings will result. It is like addictive food. There is something very real going on there.


While this may be true, the fact is most people that play video games don't become addicted. Therefore, blaming the companies that make the games is counter-productive.


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04 Apr 2011, 8:13 pm

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*nod* As I read it, it was also blaming women and feminism. Us silly women should learn our place and shut our holes and men will stop ignoring us for fantasy worlds!


Well if they really want us to shut our holes then we should just shut off all of them. Jerks. Mine's tried the whole 50s housewife crap. Everyone once in a while I don't mind being June Cleaver but the key there is once in a while

'50s housewife? You're 23. And TEGH is 28. You guys are fantasy worlds. These guys will have an eternity to fool around with their 'puters when they're old like me(!) :? When I was in my 20s, my girlfriend (then wife, now ex-wife) would go out practically every night. But, we both wanted to. And I guess there were no video games? I don't know ... what's the difference here?



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04 Apr 2011, 8:14 pm

There definitely were video games 10 years ago. lol


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04 Apr 2011, 8:22 pm

Games are way more fun than dates :lol:



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04 Apr 2011, 8:24 pm

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There definitely were video games 10 years ago. lol

Yeah, I think that's right. Somehow they just didn't show up on my radar screen. Here's a thought: my ex-wife is 11 years older than I am. The people I hung out with were her friends -- and so folks born in the early '60s. Maybe it really is a generational thing, and I'm just caught in between. I'll tell you: I wouldn't trade a minute of the real stuff we did for any amount of time in front of a monitor. :?



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04 Apr 2011, 8:29 pm

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Games are way more fun than dates :lol:

Awesome dates are the best games there are. :wink:



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04 Apr 2011, 8:45 pm

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I was born 2 years before your date. lol

OK, so I prolly fit in a few games of Frogger while you were nursing.


We used to have a commodore 64 when I was a kid I loved those games :heart:


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04 Apr 2011, 8:49 pm

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I believe there is a particular physical issue which makes the games addictive, and other things such as the internet.

I think it is a sort of repetitive, stimmy thing, and it provides the brain with a steady drip of stimuli, and kind of hijacks the brains normal processes until it needs to receive the stimuli, otherwise a lot of discomfort, anxiety, terrible feelings will result. It is like addictive food. There is something very real going on there.


While this may be true, the fact is most people that play video games don't become addicted. Therefore, blaming the companies that make the games is counter-productive.


I never blamed the companies. But there are people who are super vulnerable to visual stimuli and can get addictions that are linked to them. They blithely buy the game, without knowing they are about to lose what they had built in their lives. I would like more awareness of this. Not all people are the same.

Not all people can handle alcohol, or chocolate, people can have all sorts of sensitivities, and most people are unaware that what to them is fine every once in a while, is someone elses crack cocaine.


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04 Apr 2011, 8:50 pm

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We used to have a commodore 64 when I was a kid I loved those games :heart:

Ah, the days when (what passed for) computer games got loaded from cassette tapes! 8O

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I never blamed the companies. But there are people who are super vulnerable to visual stimuli and can get addictions that are linked to them. They blithely buy the game, without knowing they are about to lose what they had built in their lives.

As a recovering alcoholic, I guess I'm not overly sympathetic to the "vulnerability" or "sensitivity" excuse. It's pretty much just that. And often used as a reason to keep going, rather than the opposite, ironically (and unfortunately).



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04 Apr 2011, 9:11 pm

zen_mistress wrote:
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zen_mistress wrote:
I believe there is a particular physical issue which makes the games addictive, and other things such as the internet.

I think it is a sort of repetitive, stimmy thing, and it provides the brain with a steady drip of stimuli, and kind of hijacks the brains normal processes until it needs to receive the stimuli, otherwise a lot of discomfort, anxiety, terrible feelings will result. It is like addictive food. There is something very real going on there.


While this may be true, the fact is most people that play video games don't become addicted. Therefore, blaming the companies that make the games is counter-productive.


I never blamed the companies. But there are people who are super vulnerable to visual stimuli and can get addictions that are linked to them. They blithely buy the game, without knowing they are about to lose what they had built in their lives. I would like more awareness of this. Not all people are the same.

Not all people can handle alcohol, or chocolate, people can have all sorts of sensitivities, and most people are unaware that what to them is fine every once in a while, is someone elses crack cocaine.


And that's my entire point. The problem lays with the addict and not the object/substance/feeling they are addicted to.


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04 Apr 2011, 9:25 pm

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zen_mistress wrote:
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zen_mistress wrote:
I believe there is a particular physical issue which makes the games addictive, and other things such as the internet.

I think it is a sort of repetitive, stimmy thing, and it provides the brain with a steady drip of stimuli, and kind of hijacks the brains normal processes until it needs to receive the stimuli, otherwise a lot of discomfort, anxiety, terrible feelings will result. It is like addictive food. There is something very real going on there.


While this may be true, the fact is most people that play video games don't become addicted. Therefore, blaming the companies that make the games is counter-productive.


I never blamed the companies. But there are people who are super vulnerable to visual stimuli and can get addictions that are linked to them. They blithely buy the game, without knowing they are about to lose what they had built in their lives. I would like more awareness of this. Not all people are the same.

Not all people can handle alcohol, or chocolate, people can have all sorts of sensitivities, and most people are unaware that what to them is fine every once in a while, is someone elses crack cocaine.


And that's my entire point. The problem lays with the addict and not the object/substance/feeling they are addicted to.


yes, but to them, the substance is a problem. A big problem. It is not the fault of a person if they have a genetic vulnerability to something and it does not make someone more virtuous if they dont have a vulnerability to addiction. However it is the responsibility of the person to deal with this problem when they realise they have it.

As for AA, its "disease" model was thought up decades ago, but that person who thought it up had it right. It is a disease- literally. Of course it doesnt absolve a person from any personal responsibility if they have this problem.

If you are more interested in the topic, research the neurochemistry of addiction, and you will realise that it is easy for a human to be outfoxed by millions of years of evolution of animal brain cells. Those cells control our lives to an extent that we cannot even realise.


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04 Apr 2011, 9:27 pm

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We used to have a commodore 64 when I was a kid I loved those games :heart:

Ah, the days when (what passed for) computer games got loaded from cassette tapes! 8O


yes, I do remember those. Though ours were those large floppy discs. I loved those games: Kokotoni Wilf, China Miner, gilligan's gold, Gumshoe, CaveFighter, I even had a Barbie game...


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04 Apr 2011, 9:27 pm

It's not a disease, and now I am done with this topic. This is a sore spot for me, so perhaps I shouldn't have gotten involved in the first place.


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04 Apr 2011, 9:28 pm

I never play video games and i rarely get to play with the ladies either. :lol: Are aspie dudes generally into gaming?



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04 Apr 2011, 10:13 pm

RainingRoses wrote:
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There definitely were video games 10 years ago. lol

Yeah, I think that's right. Somehow they just didn't show up on my radar screen. Here's a thought: my ex-wife is 11 years older than I am. The people I hung out with were her friends -- and so folks born in the early '60s. Maybe it really is a generational thing, and I'm just caught in between. I'll tell you: I wouldn't trade a minute of the real stuff we did for any amount of time in front of a monitor. :?


yes video games did exist 10 years ago. :) Donkey Kong was awesome! and I agree with TEGH about the choice thing. I actually am the submissive in my relationship but that dynamic only works so well if the Dom/Domme is pulling his or her weight. I hate having to go all Domme on him because of a damn video game.

Oh and TEGH I have tried the play the game so I can get some thing. It works just fine until someone from the guild logs in ....then forget it lol he's gone.