DuneyBlues
Deinonychus
Joined: 23 Nov 2011
Age: 31
Gender: Male
Posts: 306
Location: Enjoying Solitary Confinement
05 Dec 2011, 9:39 pm
06 Dec 2011, 8:31 am
06 Dec 2011, 10:17 am
LuckyLeft wrote:
Nope. Have trouble 'reading' people, especially women. NTs can have trouble with this, so it's even worse for people on the ASD. I think I've been in several situations where females have been attracted to me by flirting or smiling and I just didn't know what to do. Or I couldn't tell. Also, I have issues with eye contact, I might look to long, if not way too short, and get negative looks from the females, or the look away from me in fear. I've had 'friends' say. "Aye, I think she likes you, boy! You betta make a move!" on numerous occasions (never seen that happen to any of my other peers). Usually I would freeze up mentally, or try to go through with it and end up embarrassed. I remember in the 9th grade some classmate said, "Aye, write your number on this sheet and I'll give it to her!" Went through the ordeal like a fool, and the guys handed back the sheet balled up. I plopped my head down on the table while everyone else laughed at my failed attempt 
I've made progress, by having legitimate female friends over the past year, but they didn't last. And besides, I don't think I was being myself completely. I did act a little 'odd' around them once we associate outside of classes sometimes. I would be around them and one, if not both, would ask, "Why do you do that?" "Do What?" I asked, and I still don't know what it was, because she didn't respond. Perhaps of me stopping talking in conversations and/or looking off into 'space', or some other eccentric behavior of mine. They also tried the "hooking me up with a female" process with one of the girls roommates, and I said I wasn't interested, because I wasn't attracted to her. The girl who offered it up got angry, and she was persistent about this past Valentine's Day. The girls tried to lie to her and said I liked her and I didn't. I'm thinking to myself, "I thought people ended this nonsense in high school! AAGH!" If I truthfully was being myself, a lot of the females wouldn't be attracted to me, because of my eccentric behavior patterns. I guess I'm decent looking enough to be in these situations, but that doesn't make it any better to cope with.
Also, I think I can be immature in regards of a relationship. I can have attachment/obsession tendencies with people in general, as well as being jealous and protective of females that I'm attracted to physically. Almost as if I was 10-12 years old. And they were just associates. Most People, (usually guys) always called me a 'boy' instead of my name, and never understood why....Maybe because some people view me as immature, or totally ignorant of certain social situations....
Maybe, but maybe most "Normal" girls can act like true A-holes/
I've made progress, by having legitimate female friends over the past year, but they didn't last. And besides, I don't think I was being myself completely. I did act a little 'odd' around them once we associate outside of classes sometimes. I would be around them and one, if not both, would ask, "Why do you do that?" "Do What?" I asked, and I still don't know what it was, because she didn't respond. Perhaps of me stopping talking in conversations and/or looking off into 'space', or some other eccentric behavior of mine. They also tried the "hooking me up with a female" process with one of the girls roommates, and I said I wasn't interested, because I wasn't attracted to her. The girl who offered it up got angry, and she was persistent about this past Valentine's Day. The girls tried to lie to her and said I liked her and I didn't. I'm thinking to myself, "I thought people ended this nonsense in high school! AAGH!" If I truthfully was being myself, a lot of the females wouldn't be attracted to me, because of my eccentric behavior patterns. I guess I'm decent looking enough to be in these situations, but that doesn't make it any better to cope with.
Also, I think I can be immature in regards of a relationship. I can have attachment/obsession tendencies with people in general, as well as being jealous and protective of females that I'm attracted to physically. Almost as if I was 10-12 years old. And they were just associates. Most People, (usually guys) always called me a 'boy' instead of my name, and never understood why....Maybe because some people view me as immature, or totally ignorant of certain social situations....
06 Dec 2011, 11:03 am
06 Dec 2011, 12:35 pm
I've only ever had one proper girlfriend because I never approach women tbh, when around them they are confused by my signals they might get the idea that I am not interested when I am very interested in the girl. I hardly let out a forces smile or a natural one. I sit with my arms crossed most of the time and maybe that's why they don't think I'm interested because they think I don't like them because of the way my body language appears to them. I'm also shy and most of the time don't open up to people, and only do when they open up to me. Guess I've got a lot of work to do, to get about in this world and get what I want. 
10 Dec 2011, 3:15 am
10 Dec 2011, 3:35 am
Ollytheaspie wrote:
I've only ever had one proper girlfriend because I never approach women tbh, when around them they are confused by my signals they might get the idea that I am not interested when I am very interested in the girl. I hardly let out a forces smile or a natural one. I sit with my arms crossed most of the time and maybe that's why they don't think I'm interested because they think I don't like them because of the way my body language appears to them. I'm also shy and most of the time don't open up to people, and only do when they open up to me. Guess I've got a lot of work to do, to get about in this world and get what I want.
Ever thought that maybe some girls are just as shy, but with your crossed arms it means that your being very defensive and they get off put and think.. Well maybe he doesn't like me and like at the way he hardly smiles, maybe he is angry with me and might hurt me. I know a couple of guys that won't open up at all till they have known the person for quite some time. It's also based on trust issues as well. Have you ever tried just being yourself around women? That's what most women want and if you're being yourself with your arms crossed and no smile, then I guess if a girl really likes you a lot they will be there for you. and help you out as much as they can. If the girl is a nice one, just say hey, I'm interested in you would you like to have a talk or would you like my number and we can talk.
10 Dec 2011, 3:37 am
10 Dec 2011, 3:41 am
