Are there even any women that approach men?

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I thought this was particularly well said. I'm 44, female, and I've never been particularly successful in the dating arena despite having some outer trappings that people consider "successful".

I'm sorry to hear that, but you have control over your situation. A lot of Negative attention is in no way better than loving yourself and embracing life. Make an effort man. You dismiss my opinion because I'm younger, but it appears to me you are failing to see the point. It should be obvious I'm trying to encourage and help you. If you are older, I would see much more opportunity in that, seeing as women are more mature and embrace the more important things in a relationship. Apparently you use to be nice? Come on man, go back to school, work out, love yourself enough to take care of YOU. Go to vocational rehab if you need a job, things will get better if you take control of your life and put action toward progressing. I'm sure in all reality you are a nice, smart guy, women love that. There are too many a** holes in the world. You're better than that. It comes down to common sense. You know this deep down, you've just hit a rough spell. Good luck to you my friend.

I love it even more when older guys try to view the world as a hopeless place and push all their problems on everyone else. I used to do that so I know how difficult it can be.

Really? People which have a lot of different partners have a lot of STDs. Women who openly hit on men have sex with different partners all the fricken time. Different guy every night they go out. Ewww. On average 1 in 4 women have an STD. (Look it up.) A woman hitting on guys in a night club? What are her STD odds? 3 out of 4? I think even higher.

Guys who have a lot of sex also have STDs but I don't care about them.

I'm sure there are quite a lot of women that are prepared to do so but only under the right circumstances. Standing there like a limp noodle won't get you anywhere.

At just 19 ........NO You don't have a clue how difficult it can be

Learning to flaunt it and act a certain way,.. makes you a player

Pushing problems on others ... Really?

Insanity...repeating and expecting results

Sad Aspy....
Darialan,,,,, my appologies to OP

oh gawd.

Yea I'll give you that. Sure I'm 19 but a lot of the problems he's facing don't seem like they just happened over night. But even if I'm 19 and aren't having the sorts of problems like this, wouldn't that give some value to what experience I do have? I mean I'm not an expert but I'm sure as hell not totally clueless. He hasn't had cheating partners like some of us have so difficulty in what respect then?

Yea pushing problems on others is what he's doing. Sure you can argue he's coming to a forum for "support" but a person that just bashes women on this forum every chance that person gets it gets to be completely ridiculous.

Yea it's a shame this thread got so derailed

Last edited by Trigas on 23 Sep 2011, 6:20 pm, edited 1 time in total.

That's not my experience with women hitting on me. I avoided a few for that reason but most were normal women, and not in a bar. Ive never caught a thing.

STD stats are averages that fold in very high risk groups with lower risk groups. There are huge disparities. Then there is the disparity between pitching and catching. And being careful versus not.

I'm an NT girl and I thought I was not able to do that, but some months ago I saw a guy in my school and I did approached him and told him I liked him. I wasn't in a bar or drunk or anything, I just was very interested in him. So yes, there are women who approach men out there

You seem to have a pretty perturbed perception. It can always be more difficult, no matter how old you are. Age is irrelevant. What is relevant is in whatever situation one is in, there are many ways to improve it. Being confident in being a nice person doesn't make anyone a player. Being bitter doesn't get you anywhere. It's one thing to complain about something out of your control, it's another when you can take steps to improve the situation. Try not to twist people's words or intentions. It's obvious we're just trying to help

My ex approached me. Hell, for that matter any kind of relationship or potential for one started with me being approached. I must be approachable or something. At least I was.

yes. there are too many leaps of logic there, with too many groups mixed together. a woman in a bar who talks to a man is not necessarily drunk, not necessarily prolific in the number of sex partners she has been with recently, and not necessarily infected with anything. in fact a high school sutudent or college co-ed in her dorm is no less likely to have an STD (or perhaps more so).

I find that people who make these generalisations don't socialise much.

STDs are all over the place. Your girl next door geek could have them too.

Or grasping for something to make them feel superior for a change...

I got hit on by a pretty blonde girl with decent size breasts though I never had sex with her because I was obsessed with some different girl and I found this girl that liked me very bloody annoying because she would hit on me all the time and tell me she loved me so I told her I thought she was f*****g stupid and a f*****g whore so I blocked her then a month later I started feeling things for her so I tried to talk to her and she didn't want to talk to me no more. All I got out of that was kissing and a little bit of some foreplay. I called her a whore because while she was telling me "love you more then the world" I found out she was giving other guys head and telling them the exact same words so it really pissed me off.
I feel pretty stupid because I know I attract pretty good looking girls physically and emotionally but I always end up screwing my self over with my gutter mouth I know I have to keep that under control otherwise I'd probably end up being a gutter punk for the rest of my life.