"Friends with benefits" is nonsense.

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Okay I would say everyone feels pain differently. Pain cannot really be measured accurately. It is unquantifiable. Each would have to be the other person to know how that person feels it. I would assume this is the same for emotion as well. People do not all feel sadness the same way as others. Sometimes sadness is paralyzing sometimes it can be subtle.

Us aspies sometimes think everyone feels things the same way we do. But then again the nature of AS is that some do not have difficulty with this.

On another note, feelings are real to the person who is feeling it. It is not real to you because you most likely are not feeling it.

Also some people are positive and some are negative. The ones who are negative have to learn to be positive. Some people can stay positive even after being homeless or getting some terminal disease. Some people do not want to be positive and some do. If you are negative your attitude has to change to become positive. It is not easy for everyone and everyone experiences pain in life in different ways.

I guess it would be better if I could just be happy regardless of what is going on in my life. That is a challenge. It may not be a challenge for you. Sometimes people get used to the way things are and decide to be happy with whatever comes up in life. Others go through life constantly improving themselves because that is what they want to do with their life. No one is really wrong with this. Everyone is an individual and the choice is yours what you do with your life.

Three headed red duck is very angry with you right now.

How about a turkey?

*Gobble Gobble*

on second thoughts.....

Yeah. Why be a slave to a feeling?

Let's get asomething straight. I have a void in my life but that doesn't mean I'm not happy! I enjoy my life as it is and when I find someone to fill the void in my life then I will only be happier. If that never happens I will still find ways to be happy. I have so much to be happy about already. I would however, like to have someone to share the happiness hence the void.

In the first chapter of Michael Foley's "The Age of Absurdity" he says, in relation to "the absurdity of happiness",

".... But who, in the Western world, has not been deranged by a toxic cocktail of dissatisfaction, restlessness, desire and resentment? Who has not yearned to be younger, richer, more talented, more respected, more celebrated and, above all, more sexually attractive? Who has not felt entitled to more, and aggrieved when more was not forthcoming? It is possible that a starving African farmer has less sense of injustice than a middle-aged Western male who has never been fellated."

I still think that FWBs can work out.

The blank slate theory - that actually hasn't been proven, but never mind that. Without opening that can of worms...

I can't tolerate asparagus.

You're kidding me. Done in the right way, with the right person who knows what they're doing, it's great!

Oh, sorry, I thought that was an euphemism