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07 Jun 2012, 5:15 pm

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well, youve yet to prove that you dont have too high standards. If the only people that go after you are as you say "unfit" then what about you makes them come to you


Many aspies are placed in an artificially low league below otherwise equally attractive NT men. Som of the traits caused by Asperer's syndrome is incompatible with the party loving, extroverted and popular ideal traits of 2012.


Which means is you are a lower league, so be realistic and go for your league


A girl in my league is reasonably attractive (but not a perfect 10), working on a degree, is intelligent and physially fit, but is socially awkward, has slightly poor fine motor skills, is "uncool", and lacks empathy.

All of those things add up (the + and the -) to give your league. A very pretty girl who is a social butterfly yet lacks intelligence and isnt working on a career can be deem to be in your league.


Then I'd rather have a girl who was a 5 or a 6 who was intelligent. Lack of intelligence is genetic as well.



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07 Jun 2012, 5:16 pm

MXH wrote:
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well, youve yet to prove that you dont have too high standards. If the only people that go after you are as you say "unfit" then what about you makes them come to you


That is a good question. I'll tell you my theory though.

1) I am extremely nerdy: D&D, Role Playing Games, Costumes, Ren Faires, Fantasy novels, Etc. I tend to hang out with a lot of people who are into those same things, and I tend to go to places where those sorts of people hang out.

2) I've been told repeatedly that I remind people of an Elf, lots of girls who are into the things I listed above, find Elves attractive.

3) Lots of the girls who are into these sorts of things, much like lots of guys who are into these sorts of things, are overweight and don't take particularly good care of themselves.

So that's my theory. They are attracted to me specifically because of my appearance relative to the other guys who are into the same things they are into.


Ok, now that you have a theory what can you modify to get the results you want? Because as we see it you're not at the league of girl you go for. What are you willing to do to reach that league.


Nothing, I'm not willing to change anything about myself, nor am I willing to date unattractive and overweight girls who think I'm pretty. I don't believe that I can change anything, either I will eventually get what I want, or I won't. The Universe decides, not me.


ok, then the answer is stop bitching about it and let the "universe" do what it has to.


Just because I feel I have no say in matters doesn't mean I can't be impatient. I've only got 3 years left.



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07 Jun 2012, 5:24 pm

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how much is yours, guys?



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07 Jun 2012, 5:34 pm

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Just because I feel I have no say in matters doesn't mean I can't be impatient. I've only got 3 years left.

impatience has little to do with whining on and on. If you're willing to change things and nothing happens theni say you have the right to whine. But you arent trying. And if you werent trying but would lower your standards youd probably end up with a good thing. But you wont even do that. So you lost your right to whine in my book.



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07 Jun 2012, 5:36 pm

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how much is yours, guys?


mine is 2 per week but only because there was one week that 15+ people from wp visited me. and another where 5-10 did.



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07 Jun 2012, 5:39 pm

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Just because I feel I have no say in matters doesn't mean I can't be impatient. I've only got 3 years left.

impatience has little to do with whining on and on. If you're willing to change things and nothing happens theni say you have the right to whine. But you arent trying. And if you werent trying but would lower your standards youd probably end up with a good thing. But you wont even do that. So you lost your right to whine in my book.


That's your book, not mine.

Everyone on this site says the same things, over and over again. They always give me advice that requires me to give up something, either give up my special interest, or settle on some one I don't find attractive. Why would I change anything?

Either I lie to myself, or I lie to some one else. I don't want to lie to anyone.



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07 Jun 2012, 5:44 pm

*yawn* this is so time consuming ..... i am gonna make space in my okc's inbox, take a break for some days and focus on the writer girl instead.



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07 Jun 2012, 5:47 pm

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Just because I feel I have no say in matters doesn't mean I can't be impatient. I've only got 3 years left.

impatience has little to do with whining on and on. If you're willing to change things and nothing happens theni say you have the right to whine. But you arent trying. And if you werent trying but would lower your standards youd probably end up with a good thing. But you wont even do that. So you lost your right to whine in my book.


That's your book, not mine.

Everyone on this site says the same things, over and over again. They always give me advice that requires me to give up something, either give up my special interest, or settle on some one I don't find attractive. Why would I change anything?

Either I lie to myself, or I lie to some one else. I don't want to lie to anyone.

shutting up is not lying :wink:



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07 Jun 2012, 6:09 pm

I get 6 visitors per week. I get a couple of cutie pies once in the mix once in a while.



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07 Jun 2012, 6:11 pm

I feel like I'm whoring myself on these dating sites lol.



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07 Jun 2012, 9:14 pm

It's for the best (trust me)

I 'm trying to work out what a women could offer a man with aspergers ?

grief ?


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07 Jun 2012, 9:28 pm

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It's for the best (trust me)

I 'm trying to work out what a women could offer a man with aspergers ?

grief ?


Depends what the man wants and what is realistically attainable amongst human beings.



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07 Jun 2012, 9:42 pm

JanuaryMan wrote:
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It's for the best (trust me)

I 'm trying to work out what a women could offer a man with aspergers ?

grief ?


Depends what the man wants and what is realistically attainable amongst human beings.


I wonder if they really want it , they think they want it but deep down they don't :wink:


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08 Jun 2012, 7:15 am

aussiebloke wrote:
JanuaryMan wrote:
aussiebloke wrote:
It's for the best (trust me)

I 'm trying to work out what a women could offer a man with aspergers ?

grief ?


Depends what the man wants and what is realistically attainable amongst human beings.


I wonder if they really want it , they think they want it but deep down they don't :wink:


huh?



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08 Jun 2012, 11:15 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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how much is yours, guys?


I'm gonna reactivate mine because I want to see. I didn't even notice that was there.



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08 Jun 2012, 12:33 pm

***Job Vacancy***

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 Login daily into Boo's Okcupid account, Receives the messages from the prospects, Respond to high prospects according to Boo's Replying Guidelines.
 Date and meetup scheduling
 Manages the Okcupid's inbox, deleting the old and unnecessary messages (spam, messages from males...etc).
 Weekly issues a detailed report of all prospect messages, visitor stats and progress charts.

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