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12 Jul 2012, 1:27 pm

They got higher priced people called "sexual surrogates" that give you counseling and you have sex with them. It's an idea if you're that hooked on your virginity and proving your sexuality or whatever. I guess it's more moral than using prostitutes of unknown origin? I don't know, it's your lives.

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12 Jul 2012, 1:35 pm

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I'm 25 and a virgin.
I have had a few chances when I was in my late teens and I was an idiot for not taking them. After that I have had few chances with girls in the last few years...

Lately, past year or so, I have gained some confidence and seem to be attracting girls. But now, I have a problem.
I have no experience. I don't have any idea what to do if I had the chance. I guess this would be acceptable if I were 17 but not at 25.

I don't want to meet nice girls who would be turned off by sexual incompetence. So I have been thinking lately, should I hire myself a prostitute?
Just to gain some experience, to know what I am doing... To not be a massive disappointment.
I am not completely certain but this is holding me back from meeting girls and trying to have a relationship.

Some advice please?

This is the original post and it seems like this whole thing has turned into the legalization of prostitutes. This person's concern is his inexperience with women sexually being a turn off at the age of 25. I don't believe that is the case. I believe a woman will either A) Be relieved he isn't a man whore or B) delight in the chance to teach him her way. Now, that is my opinion as an NT woman. I do not feel, since he says he has no problems attracting the opposite sex, that a prostitute is the way to go for this poster.

Maybe you could start a separate post on prostitution.

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12 Jul 2012, 1:37 pm

Also he said he would be afraid NICE girls would be turned off by his lack of experience...I assure you...NICE girls will appreciate your lack of experience!

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12 Jul 2012, 1:48 pm

BrenJB wrote:

Also he said he would be afraid NICE girls would be turned off by his lack of experience...I assure you...NICE girls will appreciate your lack of experience!

Very few of them would. Virginity is only a good thing - and an optional one - for women. Women can be nice, but they can't be divine, perfect. There is only one person divine enough to not give a merde about social role patterns. And he's heterosexual, and too busy analysing social role patterns.

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12 Jul 2012, 1:55 pm

BrenJB wrote:

Also he said he would be afraid NICE girls would be turned off by his lack of experience...I assure you...NICE girls will appreciate your lack of experience!

Well, they may not appreciate it, but if he finds a girl who cares about him, she will teach him.

Prostitutes aren't there to teach, its ride for a few minutes get out. Just cause you can feel them doesn't mean you have experience. Like i said just focus more on the girl, my first time we both finished she looked at me and said "you were lying about being a virgin weren't you?".
Just focus on the girl rather than getting off and you both will enjoy it. Guys are almost guaranteed to get off, girls are not. So if you want a girl to sleep with you more than once make her feel special, cause if this is your first time hopefully she is special.
The arguments im hearing from the guys who haven't had sex, maybe its because you refer to it as getting laid No girl wants to "get laid" especially by a guy she doesn't know. unless shes at a bar throwing herself at you. which lets face facts, most of us with Autism and AS do not have the social skills necessary to close the deal with those girls anyway. Find a girl you care about, it is worth it. If you cant find someone near you. Try dating Sites. its what they are there for. Its how i met my current GF. its not for the weird and desperate anymore.

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12 Jul 2012, 2:01 pm

BrenJB wrote:

theimp wrote:

There are plenty of women that wouldn't mind being the leader in the bedroom. It doesn't make them a Mrs. Robinson as such.
A lot of guys like playing the role of teacher, so I'd imagine the same applies to women as well.

Having no experience matters to some people, but above all else you need to be desirable enough for people to sleep with you else any experience you do have won't be of much use

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12 Jul 2012, 2:13 pm

Which comes more from being loving and caring than rather you have a six pack and muscles.

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12 Jul 2012, 2:14 pm

BrenJB wrote:

Also he said he would be afraid NICE girls would be turned off by his lack of experience...I assure you...NICE girls will appreciate your lack of experience!

I agree, I gave my virginity to my girlfriend recently, she told me that even though it was my first time, it was the best she ever had.... because I actually LOVE her and wasnt using her for sex.

So yes, NICE girls can appreciate lack of experience.

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12 Jul 2012, 2:19 pm

indyadam wrote:

Which comes more from being loving and caring than rather you have a six pack and muscles.

Well, that's a relief!

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12 Jul 2012, 2:43 pm

thechadmaster wrote:

BrenJB wrote:

Also he said he would be afraid NICE girls would be turned off by his lack of experience...I assure you...NICE girls will appreciate your lack of experience!

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12 Jul 2012, 3:02 pm

BrenJB wrote:

thechadmaster wrote:

BrenJB wrote:

Also he said he would be afraid NICE girls would be turned off by his lack of experience...I assure you...NICE girls will appreciate your lack of experience!

yep....

I've got quite a special lady. Every day we discover one more thing we have in common. I can honestly say that in my 25 years on this earth, the last month has been the happiest.

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12 Jul 2012, 6:08 pm

It's for the best.....

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12 Jul 2012, 6:29 pm

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It's for the best.....

What is?

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12 Jul 2012, 6:35 pm

HisDivineMajesty wrote:

aussiebloke wrote:

It's for the best.....

What is?

um , Virginity.

Than what grief? societal diseases , unwanted pregnancies, having her stick around? and so on and so forth.

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12 Jul 2012, 7:52 pm

BrenJB wrote:

Also he said he would be afraid NICE girls would be turned off by his lack of experience...I assure you...NICE girls will appreciate your lack of experience!

Would NICE girls appreciate the lack of experience of a 50 year old? So perhaps what you say is true but up to a certain point., it gets less likely to be the case.

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Anyway, I did a prostitute, for:
1) to get rid of the stigma of virginity at 30. I know many people (men AND women) put down virgins for being virgins, if they are beyond 25 of age, this has been my experience and my observation has been that most people think that way. WP seems the few exception I find but this is an autistic site after all, but it is not the case in the environment I live in. I don't care about that anymore though, but that wasn't the main reason to do a prostitute but rather the experience..

2) So more importantly, I wanted to know how it feels to be with a woman (at least once I thought at the time). I know now how it feels to have sex and cuddle with a woman, not in the idealistic way, but it is as far as I can get, and I don't regret it because of the experiences.

I'm lucky though that prostitution is legal where I am, and feel bad for the places which isn't. Pitty the poor virgins who can't legally have sex

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12 Jul 2012, 8:03 pm

blunnet wrote:

BrenJB wrote:

Also he said he would be afraid NICE girls would be turned off by his lack of experience...I assure you...NICE girls will appreciate your lack of experience!

Great post. Can not emphasize that enough.

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