Where do smart men hang out?

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Here's a civil question - did you take on board the rules, as posted by a moderator? Yes or no?

Why don't you dispense with the impertinent questions and keep the conversation germane to the topic at hand, which is offering Halfmadgenius advice on finding a boyfriend with intellectual inclinations?

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HalfMadGenius, had any other thoughts on your quest for brainiacs and smart guys ?

Nobodies views are superior or inferior to anybody elses nor do they all conform to one standard or the other. This is one of the reasons why stereotyping is such a ridiculous, narrowminded and disfunctional way to view the world.

For instance, based on this thread (with your demonizing of the term liberal, insintance on stereotyping people and your whinging about the evils of political correctness), you pretty easily fit the stereotype of a "conservative tool." Do you really want people judging you based on this stereotype?


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Try a meetup.com (or something similiar) and look for book learning, sciency clubs, etc.

Smoke Post?I like my cereal with almond milk.

Januaryman has a point, even if he makes it in an unfortunate manner: Let's keep this thread germane to the topic at hand. If you want an answer to your questions, you can PM me, as long as you stay civil.

So, be their friend! Good chance that they might have other single friends who are bright! I find it is much easier to connect with people that are not "total strangers", rather friend of friend.

I'd say the trivia night is good start.

I'd think about your appearance and flirting techniques. Simple things like playing with your hair, or touching their shoulder are good cues to men that you are interested.

Also, just writing your number on a piece of paper, putting in their hand is effective.

How rural are you? That definitely makes it harder to find someone that reads a lot.

How broke are you? Community College classes in my area are often $50--150. Geared at adults, creative writing, photography, travel, etc. Might meet someone interesting there? Maybe a professor?

I prefer grind my cereal into powder and snort it up through my nose........

Thats preferable than trying to main line Grape nuts.

In an earlier post, Genius said she couldn't afford school. But another idea just came to me. Frequently it is possible to do what is called auditing a course. This is where you have permission to attend the lectures, but do not submit assignments or receive a grade. Usually, auditing a class is free provided the space is available, and would provide the same opportunity to meet men as regular enrollment.

People often spend a lot of time imagining Mr. Right and where they might meet him....

I think if you spend more time working on becoming Mrs. Right, you are likely to find him along the way.

I will second this. The best way to catch fish is to use the right bait. It's the same with men. Be as irresistible to them as it's possible to be.

Had to get my annual TB test today. After getting poked and thoroughly terrified by the poking I probably waited 40 minutes for my cab, you'd think fate could throw me a bone and let some cute single pediatrician go on his lunch break right then, wouldn't you? Alas I am not so lucky.

Genius, another idea if you want a medical man: Start having long, leisurely lunches in the hospital cafeteria. In my admittedly limited experience of such things, the food isn't bad or expensive. And doctors eat alongside everybody else, at least in those I've been in.

I appreciate you're trying to give good advice, but I think that each person is unique and we all flirt in our own way. Flirting is something that just ought to come naturally. If someone were to follow your instructions and force herself to awkwardly play with her hair when she wasn't doing it instinctively, I have a feeling it would just look ridiculous and strange.

I know plenty of people with Aspergers have problems with knowing "how" to flirt, but I think that's because there is some sort of mistaken idea that flirting is an activity that always has to be done in a certain way. That simply isn't true. Some people are intellectuals or nerds, and will flirt by talking nerdy. Others are very touchy feely, and will flirt using eye contact and brushing hands. Others might prefer to flirt via text.

There is no "right" or "wrong" way to flirt, and no real definition of what flirting has to involve. It all depends on your personality. Personally I do not consider "playing with my hair" to be flirting at all. For me, running my fingers through my braid tassel is often a stim or a comforting action that I do when I feel anxious. The rest of the time when I touch my hair it's just me tidying my hair up and putting it back up into a bun. I sure hope letting my hair down, re-adjusting it, and bunning it again isn't considered "flirting." It's just a practical activity for me, so I hope people who see me in the street are not saying: "look! There's a girl who's stopped to touch her hair and re-bun it! She must be flirting with someone! But who?"

As for a definition of what flirting is: I'd say flirting is any activity that signals to the other person that you are interested in them. If you like somebody, there is a fair chance that you like them because they are similar to you, so they probably flirt in the same way you do, anyway. So don't try and force yourself to make eye contact or play with your hair or run your fingers over your wine glass and all that stereotypical crap they do in the movies if it isn't really you. Just be yourself. And for Pete's sake, don't try fluttering your eyelashes. I don't know about anyone else, but I can't do that at all. It just looks really stupid.

On the other hand, perhaps you could try to flutter them (and fail badly) to make the person laugh. He might like girls who do silly things with a sense of humour. Or perhaps you happen to be one of those super confident people with eyelashes like camels who actually does know how to flutter them. If so, it just might work! (But make sure they're not fake, otherwise they might fall off).



I have never done that in my entire life. If it works for you, fine - but I don't advise the OP to do it unless she has already flirted with her desired target and established that he likes her. If you know the person likes you and is too shy to ask for your number, great. Go for it. But going up to some random guy you have a crush on and thrusting a piece of paper into his hand if he doesn't know you at all is probably going to make him react by being angry or confused. He will say: "who are you? Why are you giving me this piece of paper? Hey! Come back!"

Personally I don't think I've ever just thrust my phone number on to someone at all. Normally I talk to someone and get to know them and then engage in mutual flirting to establish that we like one another. Once you are past that stage, exchanging phone numbers and email addresses just happens naturally as a matter of course.