What are your non-negotiables? (apart from must love cats)

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1.) No lying, cheating, stealing, violence or excessive whining.
2.) Must be a female who is into a healthy life style
3.) Must be okay with medicinal marijuana. If she doesn't smoke, then more for me. Either way, win-win.
4.) Someone who doesn't play mind games, is laid-back, and mostly easy to compromise with.

Lol since I combined mine...is my list of 4 more like 15 or so? O_o

I'm with both jly88 and sly279 on this.

- Must love cats. I have a cat who adores me, no matter what the research has shown. I can go for dog lovers, but if you hate cats and/or are allergic, that's a deal breaker. When I get my own place, Callie's coming with me, even though she'll be several years old by then (she's about four years old now)
- Must be female and between the ages of 23 and 31 (between two years younger and six years older than me)
- Must be what I would consider "attractive"- the girl's I've gone out with have something quirky and really cute (not to mention they've ALL worn glasses), but I'll go for conventionally attractive as well. You don't have to look like Kate Upton (personally I find another celebrity crush more attractive, especially since Kate Upton is too dolled up and dates old guys, and if you know me well, you know which not too famous celebrity I'm talking about), but sexual attraction is important in a relationship.
- No intimacy issues, no cheating and no casual sex.
- Must be a Christian or agnostic, especially with my family.
- Must share my taste in music, or at least understand it.
- Must respect my need for space at times but my need for affection.
- Must accept me for who I am near unconditionally.
- Must have somewhat similar views I have.
- Must have good hygiene and at least some pride in their appearance
- Must be educated and cultured.
- Must be what I would define to be "intelligent" (there are many kinds of intelligence out there)
- Not only be sensitive, but as bubbly as a cheerleader, but not dumb blonde bubbly (cheerleaders feel free to apply, your application WILL be expedited).
- Must love children and not rule out, if a future together is a possibility, raising a family. One day I want to hear the patter of tiny feet in my home.

No abuse of any kind.
Must be willing to tolerate and not set off my various issues.
Must accept me as I am
Must not smoke, do drugs, etc.
Must respect the law
No cheating
Must be able to drive and provide financial stability. (wouldn't be an issue if I were able to do this for myself)
Must have compatible interests and physical "needs".
Must not have or want kids
Must not be in a dangerous profession
No pets (cept for maybe a goldfish or something)

Non-negotiable:
-Female
-Won't bleed me dry financially
-Within reasonable driving distance
-Decent human being

Strong preferences:
-Socially awkward/introvert/oddball
-Animal lover (just something I find attractive... I don't have any pets)
-No kids
-Sense of humor (the darker the better)

I was gonna put something in there about physical attractiveness, but then I remembered that I'm about as attractive as a rusty trashcan. Ditto for emotional availability.

Must enjoy the music of the Beatles.

- Male. I might be flexible about chromosome combination but wouldn't want one of those "I have a beard and I'm pregnant!" situations happening.
- Must not cheat, or lie about serious things.
- Must be affectionate and like to spend time together but accept that maybe I don't want to "actively" be together all the time and be touched all the time.
- Must be as least as intelligent as I am. I am willing to discuss what "intelligent" means.
- Must love animals, care about the environment and be a pacifist. Possibly vegetarian without being one of those irrational all-organic-no-animal-experimentation-vaccines-are-evil kind of people.
- Must be artistic (although it doesn't matter what kind of art they practice. Personally, I draw, but I find musicians, writers, filmmakers, all equally interesting).
- Must be non-religious, but as tolerant as possible with all people.
- Must understand that science is not a matter of opinion.
- Should look as good as they can (clean, relatively fit).

Of course I've been attracted to guys who didn't fit all of these criteria, but I'm pretty sure a relationship would't have lasted.

Hmm...lemme see...

-Must be female.
-Must be Christian, or at least willing to come to church with me on a regular basis.
-Must be about my body type. (Slender)
-Must play video games, or at least be okay with me playing a bit more than I should.
-Must be able to drive on their own.
-Must be tolerant, which should be a given, considering my condition. This also extends to other people.
-Must at least have average intelligence. The smarter, the better, but as long as you're not dumb as a rock, I can work with it.
-Must be okay with touching. I don't personally have a problem with it (In fact, I rather like being touched), I just never know when it's appropriate, so I refrain.
-Must keep basic hygiene.

Giant bouncy boobies and butt
small waist
a face prettier than mine
about as hairless as I am, well, the body anyway
must hate cats

O, and is mah slave.

I've got one more:

Doesn't have to be a "manly man" but must be secure in his masculinity.

Must not shove me into a pretty pink box, because I've never fit the Gender Binary and I have no plans of doing so, ever.

I have some alternatives too:

Like,

a troop of Twi'lek slave dancers

Or,

a sugar mummy. Though I don't need much sugar

My non negotiables are;
Must like cannabis or be tolerant about me using copious amounts of it.
No sociopathic or controlling people
No physically or verbally aggressive/ passive aggressive people.
Must have broad shoulders and strong arms.
Must be kind to all people and animals.
Must like cuddles and dark/ dry humour.

I stopped believing that I had any of those after I fell for a mean piece of s**t who broke my heart. that dude had so many red flags, and yet... love really is blind.