"I like a woman who takes care of herself"

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"Having a laugh" on my part doesn't mean they're in any way negatively affected. I didn't say I was going to insult them for their answer. I didn't say I was going to contradict them. Will they even know i'm laughing about it? No. It's not the same as some guy sending me random verbal abuse for my opinion.

Ah the literal meaning vs. figurative meaning. We aspies hate it when others use figures of speech that many others use, especially when they have more than one meaning, and we have no idea what it means. Let's see if this dumb aspie (i.e. myself) can understand this situation. I think Hale_bopp just wants people to literally post exactly word for word what they are looking for in a woman, e.g. "I am looking for a woman who is healthy, not overweight, eats healthy foods, and exercises some." instead of posting the confusing, "I want a woman that takes care of herself" phrase. Just what does that latter phrase mean? As this thread pointed out, it is subjective - it depends on what people's perspectives are and opinions of what they want in a mate. Some think having big boobs and being thin is taking care of themselves; others think that showering every day. Am I right, Hale_bopp? Or anyone else?

I am not trying to be mean or be a troll here; I honestly am just trying to understand this thread. If you want my opinion of what I think "taking care of herself" means, you can ask me via pm; however, I am trying to understand this idea, as I too take things literally.

But dhp, I may understand why it can mean "no fat girls" because weight is theoretically controlled by a healthy diet and healthy lifestyle(in most cases) so this can be understood as part of good self-caring. Same for shaving beard/body hair is considered by a lot as self caring (by a lot of men AND women; so feminists don't kill me here).

But why, in any sense, would it mean big boobs or tall height? lol

I guess I didn't take care of myself and that's why I'm short.Thats a confusing statement because my boobs grew without any special effort on my part.

In a nutshell, it *can* be an underhanded way of saying "women are put on this planet to be visually pleasing, and if you don't make every effort by every means available to you to be visually pleasing to ME, then don't waste my time."

That is where the offense lies. I doubt that many ASD men would be putting that in their profiles, or, if they did, they *would* simply mean "I would like you to be someone who pays attention to their health."

It's more likely the NT men who have the implied (possibly offensive) meaning in this statement. Especially when they are obviously not the least bit concerned about their own health.

lol, I just remembered something else. There was a thread on here not too long ago, which was started by The Face of Boo I think. It was about how it's considered taboo by society for a man to say/imply that a woman is a "loser"(no matter how big a loser she is).

That statement is obviously implying that the woman reading could possibly be a "loser" in some form or another.(which is taboo to point out)