so if you didn't feel like you had to get a girl....

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Who said anything about women not complaining about it? And, considering that rape is about power and not sex, could it not be that a larger portion of men get raped than you think? That they don't report it because they see it as taking their masculinity away?

I've actually made a point throughout this thread of saying cooperation would do far more good than our genders having little wars with one another

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This sounds to me like social phobiasim Laddo, try to not care what strangers do.

That could well be true, I suppose.

Yeah, another rape and harassements thread; not saying these aren't major issues but... please, let it be discussed in dedicated threads?

In all honesty, I thought the original topic was interesting. I don't understand how it was sexist or making assumptions.

what everyone here is trying to explain to you in various different ways is that when those women do that (cross the street, etc), they are not rejecting you personally. they simply have no way to know what sort of person you are, but feel the need to be cautious because of their past experiences with OTHER (as in, NOT YOU) male strangers. it is not a personal judgment on you, it really has nothing to do with you personally. you are there, you are male, she is female and alone, therefore there is a risk for her and she is acting to protect herself. you could have been any man and she would have reacted the same way. it's not about you. it is caution from experience. stop taking it as a personal rejection and that might go far in reducing some of your resentment against women for being distrustful of male strangers.

because it is sexist, read page 2 for why.

Ok, I'm willing to keep it to other threads if other people are. They are major issues. I've probably gone about it for too long though, so I'll just agree that more women are subjected to it by men than any other group.

But I do think the fact that most men do deal with things in different ways is important. We may find it harder to get over being single, yes, but it's not right we're asked to change that

Maybe I should. There's probably some of the resentment that this thread is all about residing in me, to be honest. That's just how I am, though. I can't change it. I don't doubt that a lot of men do get hung up over being single, although for me a lot of it is based on my most recent ex's treatment of me. Maybe for some of the people posting about being tired of being single it's the same. Or they're jealous of seeing people seemingly incredibly happy together in relationships. I still think it applies to men and women equally, though

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Crossing roads is a bit extreme reaction unless Laddo looked like a drooling giant spider, a too obvious threat. Yes I am aware that women are sometimes too wary in some streets but I think laddo was simply having social phobia moments.

To be fair though, it could also be the hositlity people sometimes feel towards aspies. Either explanation is pretty likely

It does seem somewhat overkill if the women are literally crossing the road every time a tall bloke walks anywhere near them.
Especially in cities and such places, where it is often quite difficult to cross the road.

But to be fair to these random women, I have never seen the bloke in question.

For all I know, he might look like this -

I can't say that I do look like that. I look pretty plain, to be honest. But there could be something about me that I can't see that is blatantly aspie or something, which wouldn't make it that unlikely random people would cross the street

@Ladywoofwoof, knock it off with the flame baiting or you'll be taking time off the site.

Ladywoofwoof, I am willing to call a truce to... whatever the hell is going on if you will stop trolling me