What desirable qualities do you have?

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"Manly" in my example = indication of being of male gender

I have a great sense of humor, I'm very smart, I'm outgoing, and I am a generally positive person.

Physically, my girlfriend tells me that I am attractive and says that she notices other girls trying to flirt with me when we go out, but I never notice that. I think of myself as odd-looking physically, but I'm not self-conscious about that at all. I would much rather be very strange-looking or even physically repulsive than to have general society think of me as attractive.

Tougher teddy bear types were just fat cuddly guys?

I'm only manly in looks and that's only because I'm tall and big.

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*5 minutes later*
Hey!
Do you realize what you just said?
Desireable qualities!

I've seen too many men who equate harshness and violence with manliness.
To quote Shania Twain, that don't impress me much.
True manliness IMO is strength combined with self-control.
Someone who potentially could be harsh and violent but chooses not to be.
I think that is the original meaning of the word "gentleman".
Does that make sense?

The difference between Dicaprio and Hardy in the Revenant basically ^

It is what society considers manliness, football, wrestling, boxing, hockey. Are pretty violent.

I'm not physically strong, I just look like I am

That's just the mainstream boring-bozos, but there are plenty of people who don't think that way at all. Personally, I hate sports and one of my requirements for dating someone is that they aren't a sports fan/meat head. When you find the right girl, she will think you're amazing! But, you need to love yourself first, and you need to think highly of yourself, in order to be receptive to any love that may come your way.

I happen to like sports....but I don't let it rule me.

I don't get sports. I simi understand baseball and go to a local game once and a while. They'll really long though and I work nights so won't get to do it again.

Every day at work there's a football game on and everyone is so into it and like what teams winning. I'd rather keep watching the food or lifestyle channel but I'm over ruled. I try to pretend to not be against it out of fear of yet another reason for being disliked by coworkers.

Seems to me sports creates a lot of rifts, so much hatred just because someone likes another team. Though u see this I. Video games and guns even, perhaps people are just hateful in nature. Sad. I don't like to be competitive. I don't like the feelings it creates.

None of those seem like personal qualities.

I'm intelligent, inquisitive, witty and creative. I think things through, am happy to be there for others when required, and I'd say I'm a good listener.

Those traits haven't been enough to get me a relationship so far though, so it's probably fair to assume that they're not enough.

Yep, people are silly.

Sports is a wonderful past time!

Players fighting other players, mafia's making bets on soccer games in Brazil and threatening to hurt the losing team, bribery and rigging behind the scenes conspiracies, the fact that NFL is one big cash grab as the average game only has about 13 minutes of gameplay mixed in with like 2 hours of ads, entire stadium brawls over something that should be 'just a game', only a tiny minority of players believing in the dead concept of 'good sportsmanship', bar brawls and sometimes even street or neighborhood brawls over 'the big game' results, an internet riddled with verbal arguments over sports, players who cheat, players who fake injuries, incompetent referees and biased refs, fans who don't understand the game assuming the refs are incompetent even if they aren't, men and women alike falling prey to the marketing and merchandising of team clothes, merch, etc. what more is there to say?

and for the positives about sports? Having a fair, fun competition, learning teamwork, support, being physically at your peak and playing a game you feel you were born to play, feeling the sun in your face, the breeze in your hair, the adrenaline pumping through your veins. That feeling of pride, satisfaction that your team scored or one, the rush of dopamine and endorphins when YOU score the point or win the game, the fun celebrations with your team after a win, or the grumbling and sadness together after a loss. If you're an olympic athelete, you can be happy knowing you are one of the 'chosen ones', that you are a competitor in the competition for humans of peak physical fitness. That YOU are one of these people. That only the best of the best can do it, and they consider you one of the best of the best. If you're the top player in the world, even better. 7 billion and you rank #1, man. The pride knowing you don't just represent a team, your represent a city, state, country, but more importantly, an idea, a concept, a philosophy of life. For the viewers, the exciting feeling of watching the game at the stadium, or even just on the tv. The ecstatic feeling of ectasy all around the lounge room/pub/etc. when your hometown/state/country won the 'big game'. Sports is an ART.

Anyway, my desirable qualities:

Ambitious, calm/relaxed, generally a positive thinker these days, confident and charismatic, dedicated, hardworking, friendly, playful and humorous, laidback, minimalist, frugal, grateful, helpful, good listener.

Those are definitely desirable qualities.

@Britte
Those are lovely qualities.
I could imagine you as an artiste de chocolat.
May I ask what kind of things you sew?
I bet they're beautiful.